Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Broken Hope · 21 Apr 2011 at 23:52

Yeah go to a park, or somewhere nice near you, make a picnic. Plenty of stuff you can do that's not very expensive, but will likely make you look better than if you just took her to some restaurant which tons of guys would have done in the past anyway.

Dup · 22 Apr 2011 at 01:57

Exactly SS and BH. Nail = head. I went for a walk and quick drink with the last girl. shame she wasn't ready to move on, can't stop thinking about her

Fuzz · 22 Apr 2011 at 08:58

Could go here.

http://*******.com/3nnxpze

FFS, what wrong with that word!!

Replace stars with tiny url.

Master_X · 22 Apr 2011 at 09:19

I am meeting a very nice girl in london on monday at warterloo station. I dont know the area that well and she has said she its the best as she hasnt lived there long. Does anyone know any decent placed to go eat or visit, i was thinking of taking her to covent garden then maybe chilling in a park or walking around somewhere nice?

Richdog · 22 Apr 2011 at 09:26

Dup said:
Exactly SS and BH. Nail = head. I went for a walk and quick drink with the last girl. shame she wasn't ready to move on, can't stop thinking about her

A girl is "ready" to move on when they meet someone they really like...

secretspy · 22 Apr 2011 at 09:27

Master_X - Why not have a search on Tripadvisor.co.uk for reviews or just Google? I normally do that when I'm looking for places

I think there's a website called your london or something similar. Should be able to find something on there.

Richdog - Personally I never feel 100% "ready" as it can be quite daunting but if I'm still hurting or thinking of an ex then I know there's no point looking for someone new until I completely get over them.

Surfer · 22 Apr 2011 at 09:31

Neil79 said:
I HAVE A DATE ON SATURDAY !!!!!!!

Not even the woman i've been texting, a girl who messaged me first and we spoke on fb

Very impressed, doubly impressed as i think you mentioned you have AS yeah? or did i get that wrong whoops. Dont get your hopes up on one woman. She will have a backup guy (if not 2 or 3) so you should get backup women should this one inexplicably crash n burn. (i say inexplicably because most things women do are inexplicable even more so for AS folk imo)

Richdog · 22 Apr 2011 at 09:56

secretspy said:
Richdog - Personally I never feel 100% "ready" as it can be quite daunting but if I'm still hurting or thinking of an ex then I know there's no point looking for someone new until I completely get over them.

Yup, but then you wouldn't be registering on a dating website and going on dates.

Neil79 · 22 Apr 2011 at 10:17

Surfer said:
Very impressed, doubly impressed as i think you mentioned you have AS yeah? or did i get that wrong whoops. Dont get your hopes up on one woman. She will have a backup guy (if not 2 or 3) so you should get backup women should this one inexplicably crash n burn. (i say inexplicably because most things women do are inexplicable even more so for AS folk imo)

Correct

, I did have a backup woman but she turned out to be someone who was more interested in the attention and not an actual date. Don't feel she was ready to meet someone just needed a bloke to message and text with

NeverWinter · 22 Apr 2011 at 11:34

secretspy said:
Richdog - Personally I never feel 100% "ready" as it can be quite daunting but if I'm still hurting or thinking of an ex then I know there's no point looking for someone new until I completely get over them.

Sometimes, it takes someone else to get over an ex... It took me a very long time to get over my last girlfriend.

Dup · 22 Apr 2011 at 11:50

Richdog said:
Yup, but then you wouldn't be registering on a dating website and going on dates.

Oh I messaged her after she had just signed up, didn't even have pics on. Really hit it off, met up a week later and she just had that sudden realisation she wasn't ready. She kept telling me I was too nice & so lovely and that she felt terrible. She took herself off the site straight away but we're still friends on Facebook and have the odd text.

Cest la vie I suppose. Just one of those things

Mat · 22 Apr 2011 at 11:57

My experiences of internet dating...

I joined, for the first time, last Autumn and after that initial feeling of being completely lost I managed to get a handle on how it's done.
I spoke briefly with one or two women but eventually started talking to one quite regularly and we decided to meet up. Half a dozen dates alter she decided to stop as she didn't think the spark was there but as it happens we are still friends. After this, I again started speaking with another woman and just as we were starting to arrange a date I got an email telling me that a friend of a friend had found out she was dating and she decided to call it off with me in favour of this guy who she had been carrying a torch for.
Shortly after this my ex and I got back together (which is another story) so I left the sites.

Single again now I'm back on Match and although I've had brief contact with a couple of women nothing is developing.

From my experience and from what women have told me, the guys do 99% of the approaching /emailing and the women get to pick and choose although they do get a horrendous amount of emails and winks from men which in itself is hard work having to go through it all. I contact women regularly but it seems that getting to the date stage is almost impossible.

Dating sites seem to be just another way of putting men down and massaging the egos of women. I'll stick at it for a while but it's very hard getting to know someone and feeling like it might be going well only for it to be dashed once again. The continual emotional ups and down are difficult to get used to.

That's how I see it anyway.

Kerplunk · 22 Apr 2011 at 12:01

I think your spot on there Mat

Master_X · 22 Apr 2011 at 12:19

secretspy said:
Master_X - Why not have a search on Tripadvisor.co.uk for reviews or just Google? I normally do that when I'm looking for places

I think there's a website called your london or something similar. Should be able to find something on there.

Good idea, will have a google and see whats going on.

secretspy · 22 Apr 2011 at 12:42

Mat - I don't think your statement is true for everyone. The only messages I used to get from men were ones who clearly hadn't bothered to read my profile properly and were the complete opposite of what I was looking for. (I once had a 76 year old man message me :confused:

)

I found when using Match.com that I'd send loads of messages and never have any response. Those who did I went on a date with and they didn't work out. The only guys who messaged me first and initially seemed a good'un turned out to be ones to avoid as they were clearly after one thing or on a dating site for the wrong reasons.
(When a guy tells me he can't stand to be single and that's the only reason he's on a dating site, alarm bells start to ring. )

Morgoth · 22 Apr 2011 at 12:47

secretspy said:
(I once had a 76 year old man message me )

Ahaha, what a player!

regulus · 22 Apr 2011 at 14:25

@Mat. That's not the case with Match. Met my current girlfriend there and she showed me all the emails she got. About 120 in total and 80% of them one liners. The next 15% was two liners and only about 5% made an effort to read her profile and respond properly. Those 5% was the ones she corresponded with. Checking my inbox now, I had 64 mails sent to me in the short time I was on Match. About 90% of them was one liners, I deleted without even bothering to check their profiles.

Lot of idiotic women likes their egos massaged, but it's getting massaged by drivelling, lazy morons and you could think for yourself if that's a woman that's worth it. If she's worth it and you're worth it for her, both put in an effort, you will rise through all the crap and catch her attention. How else did I get picked between 100+ mails she got?

Gzero · 22 Apr 2011 at 14:43

regulus said:
@Mat. That's not the case with Match. Met my current girlfriend there and she showed me all the emails she got. About 120 in total and 80% of them one liners. The next 15% was two liners and only about 5% made an effort to read her profile and respond properly. Those 5% was the ones she corresponded with. Checking my inbox now, I had 64 mails sent to me in the short time I was on Match. About 90% of them was one liners, I deleted without even bothering to check their profiles.

Lot of idiotic women likes their egos massaged, but it's getting massaged by drivelling, lazy morons and you could think for yourself if that's a woman that's worth it. If she's worth it and you're worth it for her, both put in an effort, you will rise through all the crap and catch her attention. How else did I get picked between 100+ mails she got?

Maybe she adored the pikachu you were holding in your picture

Neil79 · 22 Apr 2011 at 14:59

Well i got a one liner just saying to add her on fb with an email, i liked her pictures and thought what the hey what can i lose. Ended up talking to her most of last night and the night before, yet i've also spoken to someone who wrote much more than a one liner and she turned out to be a ****. One liners (FIRST MESSAGE) don't mean anything as far as i'm concerned it's the profile that matters to me!. If however it's constantly one liners from someone then that is a problem

Mat · 22 Apr 2011 at 15:10

The thing is, I wouldn't mind so much if I was getting at least a little attention but there is absolutely nothing. It's very depressing