Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Because I keep seeing guys in this thread complaining that girls are doing exactly the same thing!!

I don't think the guys are moaning about lack of responses, fair play if the girl thinks you're a munter and doesn't respond that's life. But 2-3 word responses are worse, because if they were genuinely interested they'd put a little more effort in, but obviously just enjoy the attention of being asked about themselves.

A lot of girls on there use the same words to describe what they want as well, 'genuine, nice, caring.' But as we all know what women want and what they say they want are two completely different things. I bet a lot of guys who message them are actually genuine, nice and caring, maybe even good looking as well, but undoubtedly would just be 'boring, next!' But if you act like the guy they say they don't want, funnily enough I bet you'd get better responses.

On a forum I sometimes visit, as sad as it sounds some guys made 'virtual wingmen' and made fake profiles to see what women on there responded to. On their real profile they'd usually get no responses, but on these 'perfect ones' where the bloke is a high-flying adrenalin junkie successful business man they got tons of messages, revealing photos and wanting to meet up, yet these women were looking for a caring sensitive blokes... riggggght.
 
And you can tell all that by a crappy profile photo?! I'm just saying I think people here are being waaay too fussy, especially considering they're on a dating website! But to each their own.

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Dude seriously when you say this you sound like a bit like a spoiled child who cant get his own way. The fact of the matter is that girls get much more attention from guys than vice versa - it's always been that way and it always will be! Might as well get with the program, man up and just talk to a few (whether that be online or in real life). If you don't want to, then fine, but unless you're brad pitt enjoy being single forever! :o

Edit: To be quite honest, it sounds like you have a confidence problem. If that's true then even if a girl approaches you it won't change anything...

I don't think wanting to question the ridiculous system which sees women have it 100000x easier and wait for a que of admirers to form is wrong. Just because it always has been that way doesn't mean it should be now. And to paraphrase Regulas, I'd sooner be single than massage attention seeker's ego's.

I'm partly through a nice little experiement to prove my point. Joined pof about a week ago, not messaged a single girl and have barely looked at any profiles. I have no messages and 3 profile views. (Sure some of that could be down to my looks but I guess that's all subjective). I'd say i'm average looking, I wonder how many pages of emails an average girl would have receieved by now?
 
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I don't think wanting to question the ridiculous system which sees women have it 100000x easier and wait for a que of admirers to form is wrong. Just because it always has been that way doesn't mean it should be now. And to paraphrase Regulas, I'd sooner be single than massage attention seeker's ego's.

I'm partly through a nice little experiement to prove my point. Joined pof about a week ago, not messaged a single girl and have barely looked at any profiles. I have no messages and 3 profile views. (Sure some of that could be down to my looks but I guess that's all subjective). I'd say i'm average looking, I wonder how many pages of emails an average girl would have receieved by now?

Probably 100s! Girls I have spoken to who I would say were average looking have said they get absolutely flooded with one line messages from guys.

Besides I don't think sending someone a message asking them how they are (to be polite) and asking if they've met anyone nice on POF is massaging their ego, you're just giving them and in. If they don't want to take it, that's absolutely fine.
 
Besides I don't think sending someone a message asking them how they are (to be polite) and asking if they've met anyone nice on POF is massaging their ego, you're just giving them and in. If they don't want to take it, that's absolutely fine.

My point is that why do we need to be the ones giving them an in and facing the classic "read/deleted" response? Is it possibly because females don't like the feeling of rejection? Well neither do guys.

I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.
 
Could just write something like

"Your profile says you are looking for someone genuine, caring and funny. Well, I am all of the above. I dare you to message back to find out for yourself.
 
Well i texted the girl i met at the weekend and no response yet. Hopefuly she will as she definitely seemed up for meeting again.
 
My point is that why do we need to be the ones giving them an in and facing the classic "read/deleted" response? Is it possibly because females don't like the feeling of rejection? Well neither do guys.

I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.

Simply because they don't have to!!
 
Simply because they don't have to!!
...and we are to blame for perpetuating the cycle of chasing after girls which they have now come to expect. What would happen if this no longer happened? Would the human race become extinct? Or would girls realise that they are capable or saying "Oh hi, what brings you to xyz"?

The latter I hope.
 
...and we are to blame for perpetuating the cycle of chasing after girls which they have now come to expect. What would happen if this no longer happened? Would the human race become extinct? Or would girls realise that they are capable or saying "Oh hi, what brings you to xyz"?

The latter I hope.

Well, given that the population in the UK is becoming increasingly old, it looks as if the extinction route has been chosen.
 
...and we are to blame for perpetuating the cycle of chasing after girls which they have now come to expect. What would happen if this no longer happened? Would the human race become extinct? Or would girls realise that they are capable or saying "Oh hi, what brings you to xyz"?

The latter I hope.

I am wondering why you are even following this line of reasoning? Dude, that's life, live with it!
 
I have been receiving messages and not really sending any out at all. I am not too fussed about it all and figured instead of wasting time searching i'd let the ladies come to me. seems to work ok, got a date on saturday with one and just setting another up :D
 
I have been receiving messages and not really sending any out at all. I am not too fussed about it all and figured instead of wasting time searching i'd let the ladies come to me. seems to work ok, got a date on saturday with one and just setting another up :D

Nice going Brad :D
 
Ok I'm trying to write the "about me" bit so I can finally create this profile but I'm struggling a tad :(. I want to get key bits across but also make it lighthearted and not too serious.

The only person marked as "available" online at the moment is my ex and I don't think it would be right asking his opinion :p arghhh!
 
Ok I'm trying to write the "about me" bit so I can finally create this profile but I'm struggling a tad :(. I want to get key bits across but also make it lighthearted and not too serious.

The only person marked as "available" online at the moment is my ex and I don't think it would be right asking his opinion :p arghhh!
You can look at my profile for ideas if you want! (Mine isn't that great though :o)
 
Ok I'm trying to write the "about me" bit so I can finally create this profile but I'm struggling a tad :(. I want to get key bits across but also make it lighthearted and not too serious.

The only person marked as "available" online at the moment is my ex and I don't think it would be right asking his opinion :p arghhh!

Cheat then, log out, find a lass' profile that looks good (preferably a different area) and either nick it and change the odd bit, or just use it as a template :)
 
Ok I'm trying to write the "about me" bit so I can finally create this profile but I'm struggling a tad :(. I want to get key bits across but also make it lighthearted and not too serious.

The only person marked as "available" online at the moment is my ex and I don't think it would be right asking his opinion :p arghhh!

Say you're easy, into threesomes and enjoy wild sex parties.

Pretty sure that'll get you some interesting responses.
 
Ok I'm trying to write the "about me" bit so I can finally create this profile but I'm struggling a tad :(. I want to get key bits across but also make it lighthearted and not too serious.

The only person marked as "available" online at the moment is my ex and I don't think it would be right asking his opinion :p arghhh!

I think if you write a sentence, it looks boring. However if you write a lot, it just looks really lame.

I just have a couple of short sentences as a compromise.

But then again, I struggle to take this seriously :p
 
As a girl, you would get about 10 messages a day. Triple that if you add a picture. Triple that still if you can write a proper sentence.

So, in short, i don't think it matters much what you write. If a guy is interested, he will message you.
 
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