Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Raymond Lin · 7 May 2011 at 17:56

DiscoDave said:
If that was me I would be gravitating to the idea that she is messing about a bit. "I'm busy right now, maybe some other time" is such a poor excuse.

Her nephew from Canada did come stay with her a month in feb/march but I am of the opinion that if you really want to do something, you can make time. If I want to see someone I like, I'd go to the end of the earth to see them.

Freefaller · 7 May 2011 at 17:58

Raymond Lin said:
Life is funny sometimes...There is this girl who back in 6th form I had a HUGE crush on but too shy to make a move back then.

Fast forward 10 or so years.

I ran into her in a pub just before christmas and thought what the hell and asked her out so had a couple of dates with back at the start of the year but then gave me the "I'm busy right now, may be some other time". So I didn't text her since, plus I've been rather busy.

4/5 months on

So...she just texted me! "hey, i'm in Starbucks right now and it reminded me of you, fancy a coffee some time?"

I disagree with Discodave, I don't have time to play games, I prefer to know where I stand - if you like her, and things were going well, go and meet up with her - you've got nothing to lose. If you're not sure, then don't bother. Sometimes, people's lives can be complicated - is it worth finding out? You can't always get all the attention you want straight away... If it's just a date for the sake of a date, then it's up to you.

Prophet · 7 May 2011 at 18:00

I've got 4 first dates lined up starting tomorrow.

I better get a good nights sleep as it's going to be a long week.

DiscoDave · 7 May 2011 at 18:02

Freefaller said:
I disagree with Discodave, I don't have time to play games, I prefer to know where I stand - if you like her, and things were going well, go and meet up with her - you've got nothing to lose. If you're not sure, then don't bother. Sometimes, people's lives can be complicated - is it worth finding out? You can't always get all the attention you want straight away... If it's just a date for the sake of a date, then it's up to you.

So between the start of the year and now she didn't find the time to meet Raymond? Not even for a quick coffee?

I appreciate what you're saying with regards to complexities of life, but over such a long period... I'm not sure. Then again I don't know either party that well, so who knows... I'd just be a bit dubious.

Raymond Lin · 7 May 2011 at 18:08

She actually only lives 3 min walk from me, I kinda walk past the entrance to her cul-de-sac twice a day to and from work.

All logic tells me I should say no, but she is actually a really nice person, and she has horses at her mum's which she needs to tend to on a semi regular basis which explains the busy.

Oh I dunno! Lol

Neil79 · 7 May 2011 at 18:11

Well that girl never replied to my text after she cancelled out, previously having a good laugh in email and talking on facebook. From her looking forward to our date on thursday to cancelling it on the day before and never talking to me again is a bit rude.

But I moved on will look some more

Gzero · 7 May 2011 at 18:17

Raymond Lin said:
She actually only lives 3 min walk from me, I kinda walk past the entrance to her cul-de-sac twice a day to and from work.

All logic tells me I should say no, but she is actually a really nice person, and she has horses at her mum's which she needs to tend to on a semi regular basis which explains the busy.

Oh I dunno! Lol

Absolute proof that women are evul!

Gzero · 7 May 2011 at 18:20

Kerplunk said:
Closed my pof account! So ****! utter **** ! So many girls on there are freaks, and i only attracted the elephants! bah, **** it

FOREVER ALONEEEEEEE

But if you close it, you narrow your chances that your perfect girl will find you!

.Lethal · 7 May 2011 at 18:37

DiscoDave said:
If that was me I would be gravitating to the idea that she is messing about a bit. "I'm busy right now, maybe some other time" is such a poor excuse.

Well something is going on thats for sure, not in the sense that OMG she is going to knife me - but it can't be anything bad.

Worth taking a stab at

Fireskull · 7 May 2011 at 18:44

For the guys down south, is it just me or are there a hell of a lot of single girls in the Bournemouth area? I need to get down there for a night out

Raymond Lin · 7 May 2011 at 18:48

Gzero said:
Absolute proof that women are evul!

I do want to say yes and give her another chance so I am going to..just need to word the reply right without sounding desperate lol

knip · 7 May 2011 at 18:54

Yes that sounds good, when do you fancy meeting?

Raymond Lin · 7 May 2011 at 19:00

knip said:
Yes that sounds good, when do you fancy meeting?

Next Saturday, London?

knip · 7 May 2011 at 19:02

Raymond Lin said:
Next Saturday, London?

Haha yer on

But I meant in reply to her, I dont see why wording it needs so much thought, I much prefer a bloke who is just straight up and gets to the point.

Freefaller · 7 May 2011 at 19:04

DiscoDave said:
So between the start of the year and now she didn't find the time to meet Raymond? Not even for a quick coffee?

I appreciate what you're saying with regards to complexities of life, but over such a long period... I'm not sure. Then again I don't know either party that well, so who knows... I'd just be a bit dubious.

I hear what you're saying - I'm not saying he should jump in there with 2 feet first and certainly take it with care. However, closing the door on someone he clearly gets on with just for some situation he had no control over and doesn't know the full story behind,.

That's all I'm saying.

Raymond Lin said:
I do want to say yes and give her another chance so I am going to..just need to word the reply right without sounding desperate lol

Yeah take it easy and see what happens, just don't build yourself up or expect too much.

Freefaller · 7 May 2011 at 19:05

knip said:
Haha yer on

But I meant in reply to her, I dont see why wording it needs so much thought, I much prefer a bloke who is just straight up and gets to the point.

Best way to be IMO.

Raymond Lin · 7 May 2011 at 19:05

knip said:
Haha yer on

But I meant in reply to her, I dont see why wording it needs so much thought, I much prefer a bloke who is just straight up and gets to the point.

Ha, she knows I like her.

That night when ran into her at the pub, her housemate was also there and i told her about the crush I had. Girls talk. So I fully expect her to know already.

If she didn't, then me asking her out afterwards is a rather big clue!

Freefaller · 7 May 2011 at 19:06

Take it easy but don't play aloof too much - it's a hard balance, one that I always struggle to get right!

NeverWinter · 7 May 2011 at 19:09

Orange Peel said:
I've got 4 first dates lined up starting tomorrow.

I better get a good nights sleep as it's going to be a long week.

Just so you know... I hate you.

DiscoDave · 7 May 2011 at 19:09

Raymond Lin said:
She actually only lives 3 min walk from me, I kinda walk past the entrance to her cul-de-sac twice a day to and from work.

All logic tells me I should say no, but she is actually a really nice person, and she has horses at her mum's which she needs to tend to on a semi regular basis which explains the busy.

Oh I dunno! Lol

So in 4/5 months being 3mins walk away she's been "too busy" to meet up?

Hmmm. Not sure about that one.