Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I'm so glad I don't have to bother with dating sites now... they were fun on some level but ultimately fruitless. After 5 years of using them regularly, and learning almost every trick in the book in order to see what works and what doesn't, I can say with hand on heart thag there is genuinely no replacement whatsoever for that moment when you meet a stranger and something clicks, or the feeling of taking a deep breath and walking up to a girl you fancy and winning her over. I'm now convinced for the mostbpart that dating sites are soulless timewasters, and a last resort option only if all else fails. However I still don't think its "sad" and never have done, they just remind of watching the internet equivalent of a movie with no plot... you get to the end and have no idea why you bothered to waste the time.
 
Richdog said:
I'm so glad I don't have to bother with dating sites now... they were fun on some level but ultimately fruitless. After 5 years of using them regularly, and learning almost every trick in the book in order to see what works and what doesn't, I can say with hand on heart that there is genuinely no replacement whatsoever for that moment when you meet a stranger and something clicks, or the feeling of taking a deep breath and walking up to a girl you fancy and winning her over. I'm now convinced for the most part that dating sites are soulless time wasters, and a last resort option only if all else fails. However I still don't think its "sad" and never have done, they just remind of watching the internet equivalent of a movie with no plot... you get to the end and have no idea why you bothered to waste the time.
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Quoted for the ****ing truth ! but then I was never any good at explaining deep feelings well :D
 
secretspy said:
..and to whomever asked I'm from Surrey
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Surrey! i think we need to get together some time and go boyfriend hunting/man spotting :p

i've been on PoF for 2 months now and starting to give up hope on this site - i spend most of my time on there deleting messages and blocking people.

maybe i'm just setting my standards too high? :o
 
Richdog said:
I'm so glad I don't have to bother with dating sites now... they were fun on some level but ultimately fruitless. After 5 years of using them regularly, and learning almost every trick in the book in order to see what works and what doesn't, I can say with hand on heart thag there is genuinely no replacement whatsoever for that moment when you meet a stranger and something clicks, or the feeling of taking a deep breath and walking up to a girl you fancy and winning her over. I'm now convinced for the mostbpart that dating sites are soulless timewasters, and a last resort option only if all else fails. However I still don't think its "sad" and never have done, they just remind of watching the internet equivalent of a movie with no plot... you get to the end and have no idea why you bothered to waste the time.
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There is a 100% certainty that I would not have met my gf had it not been for internet dating, and she is the single best thing that has ever happened to me. I'm probably just VERY lucky.
 
Devrij said:
This may be off topic, but I was put onto a book called The Game (by niel strauss I think) by a friend, which by itself didn't change much, but inspired me to change the way I went about things and led me to a site called altseductionfast (a seduction community). It sounds sad, but honestly it did change me completely (viewing seduction as a game makes it a lot easier to just randomly chat girls up at bus stops, and knowing what techniques to use etc.). I'm now about to fly off to Ireland with my girlfriend of two years, so if you think it's for you, have a read! I'll add that before that I hadn't come close to even kissing a girl for two years and was starting to give up hope (at the ripe old age of 22!)
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Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships by Eric Berne shares a similar thesis.
 
MisChief said:
Surrey! i think we need to get together some time and go boyfriend hunting/man spotting :p

i've been on PoF for 2 months now and starting to give up hope on this site - i spend most of my time on there deleting messages and blocking people.

maybe i'm just setting my standards too high? :o
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2 months? whoaaaaa
 
lol ok well I thought 2 months was a long time... maybe not then..

how do you check the join date?? I joined more than 2 months ago, but created a 'dummy profile' just to check out the site and didn't start using it properly until 2 months ago
 
Random update, my gf and I (whom I met on pof) are coming up to our 1 year anniversary in May, how time flies! It does work! :)
 
MisChief said:
Surrey! i think we need to get together some time and go boyfriend hunting/man spotting :p

i've been on PoF for 2 months now and starting to give up hope on this site - i spend most of my time on there deleting messages and blocking people.

maybe i'm just setting my standards too high? :o
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I'm heartbroken.
:(:p
 
mac1st3 said:
that's a long time for females to be on sites ;) I usually check the join date, if they've been on there for a year or so, I tend to question it, I'll still give them a try, but cautiously :p
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I have to agree, 2 months to most of us is but a pebble in an ocean.
But, at least she's had any sort of contact with the rate we've been lead to imagine, deleting mails most of the time, her chances are significantly better.

After a year maybe they met someone and in the end it didn't work out.
 
MisChief said:
lol ok well I thought 2 months was a long time... maybe not then..

how do you check the join date?? I joined more than 2 months ago, but created a 'dummy profile' just to check out the site and didn't start using it properly until 2 months ago
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I'm on okcupid, which has join dates displayed

I've been single for about 7 months, though the first 4 months I wasn't looking/wasn't bothered about meeting anyone, enjoying being single

.Lethal said:
Easy **** maybe? TBH being on there for 1 year could be for many reasons, ie had a bf during that time but now looking again.. etc. Thing with dating is that you shouldn't analyze it so much.
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this is why I'd still give them a try, you get the ones who are massively desperate and take what they can get, or the ones who just never deleted their profile while they were seeing someone, and of course, the ones who are on there just for a laugh to see what's out there and chat to new people, but they could all potentially be perfect for me, so who am I to judge? :p
 
MisChief said:
lol ok well I thought 2 months was a long time... maybe not then..

how do you check the join date?? I joined more than 2 months ago, but created a 'dummy profile' just to check out the site and didn't start using it properly until 2 months ago
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2 months is not a long time considering how long this thread has been running.
Here's the earliest post of mine I can find. :eek:

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well I've just had an email from mysinglefriend.com saying my friend (who I recommended) has signed me up lol.

He's actually written a really sweet note about me..bless!!

We will soon see what happens although if anyone messages me I can't reply as I haven't paid lol :p
 
been chatting to a friendly - if somewhat young girl earlier today, seems nice enough, vegetarian though, which is a bit annoying, most things I can cook are meat based, and there's no way I'd give up meat for any woman :p but definitely not getting my hopes up, so we'll see
 
meghatronic said:
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships by Eric Berne shares a similar thesis.
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I had a read through the book and didn't understand anything in there. I studied AS-Level Psychology and read a few 'beginners guides' Psychology books in the past.

Or maybe I'm dumb :o
 
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