Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I went on a few online dates...

One of them was a guy who I emailed a few times then text and he called me on a sunday for about an hour then called back that same day for another 40mins. I couldn't get a word in edgeways.

He spent most of the phonecalls/evening talking about himself :/ he would text me ALL THE TIME and each text would be about 3/4 text messages long... couldn't bear it!

Let him go ;) (this was like a month ago) then two weeks of non contact he texts me again asking if I wanted a chat :/ he had lost his phone at the Grand National but now has all his numbers back.

What indication did I give that I wanted to chat with him?!

BB x
 
Picklesnipe said:
Make the process of getting together as slow as possible, the excitement of a new relationship is much more rewarding then what follows.
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So have I not shot myself in the foot by suggesting we do something? Only problem is after this weekend I'll be away in Germany for 5/6days, so would mean delaying the first date till after then, would waiting 3/4weeks not be a little long to be waiting to see someone?


Mat said:
Try to keep it time limited; if it starts to go badly then you only have to survive a short while, if it goes swimmingly well you will leave her wanting more! Always leave 'em wanting more.
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Maybe I'm too honest then? As if a date goes badly and we have nothing in common, I'd just say I don't think we clicked and wish them luck in the future lol. But yes your right, distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that!

Still need ideas for a first date? :(
 
BrightonBelle said:
I went on a few online dates...

One of them was a guy who I emailed a few times then text and he called me on a sunday for about an hour then called back that same day for another 40mins. I couldn't get a word in edgeways.

He spent most of the phonecalls/evening talking about himself :/ he would text me ALL THE TIME and each text would be about 3/4 text messages long... couldn't bear it!

Let him go ;) (this was like a month ago) then two weeks of non contact he texts me again asking if I wanted a chat :/ he had lost his phone at the Grand National but now has all his numbers back.

What indication did I give that I wanted to chat with him?!

BB x
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Maybe he's just nervous?

I sound odd when I get nervous, my voice seems to fluctuate at very odd moments.
 
BrightonBelle said:
I went on a few online dates...

One of them was a guy who I emailed a few times then text and he called me on a sunday for about an hour then called back that same day for another 40mins. I couldn't get a word in edgeways.

He spent most of the phonecalls/evening talking about himself :/ he would text me ALL THE TIME and each text would be about 3/4 text messages long... couldn't bear it!

Let him go ;) (this was like a month ago) then two weeks of non contact he texts me again asking if I wanted a chat :/ he had lost his phone at the Grand National but now has all his numbers back.

What indication did I give that I wanted to chat with him?!

BB x
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An hour??? I would have made an excuse after 10min of not getting a word in and cut the "conversation" short!
 
R5GTT said:
Interested in ideas for this too.

I'm thinking I should maybe just take her for a couple of drinks in town. Nothing to heavy and maybe it will ease some of the shyness. Probably go somewhere quiet where we can just have a chat and if she's up for it somewhere a bit more lively later.

All ideas welcome & thanks:)
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Like you say, just take her somewhere you can chat, feel relaxed and be yourself. For me that normally involves a bar, as a quick voddy helps clear the nerves ;)
 
I'd say go for something to eat:
- pick somewhere with a bit of an intimate but lively atmosphere, some place you like maybe? that'll relax you a bit...
- it gives the evening a bit of structure, which might be easier than going for a drink?

Whatever you do, you're going to have to try to get over that quietness. Just keep blurting stuff out, all the while explaining that you're just trying not to be quiet! Some good stuff will come out, I'm sure ;)
 
Cheers guys, I guess I must be over-analysing stuff. I have a tendency to do that hence the need for re-assurance. It seems I'm thinking along the right lines of what to do so I just need to stop thinking about it and do it! :)

Women are strange creatures though :p I've always seen myself as a very good judge of character but trying to work out someone's feelings is a whole new story.

Either way if I go meal route or pub/bar at least I won't be driving like when we went cinema so as mentioned a quick vodka should cure the butterflies :p
I'm not good at thinking of stuff to talk about but generally women seem to prefer you to ask them stuff and show some interest so I'm sure I'll be able to think of some stuff to ask her and just see how it goes from there. (she's Irish as well so I could happily listen to her talk all day hehe)

Roll on weekend I guess! From what I can tell It's probably a good idea for me to take the leading role as well and just say "Lets do this .... "


BTW Deiwos - Some of those things wouldn't go down too well haha :D
 
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Well I arranged a date last Friday for this coming Friday and then emailed to try and figure out whereabouts I would meet her... Since then; not a sausage, in fact she hasn't logged back onto POF since. I'm interesed in whether she will wait until after Friday and then log back in after having missed the date's date lol :D

Women, why you so crazy?! :p
 
Aww I've been sending replies to guys I'm not interested in just politely saying I don't think we would be a good match and good luck etc. Had a few replies saying fair enough and thanks for my honesty etc :)

p.s. We aren't all crazy :p Men drive me mad 99.9% of the time!
 
secretspy said:
Aww I've been sending replies to guys I'm not interested in just politely saying I don't think we would be a good match and good luck etc. Had a few replies saying fair enough and thanks for my honesty etc :)

p.s. We aren't all crazy :p Men drive me mad 99.9% of the time!
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Well done for that :cool:

Ahh i'm back on the pof search, hopefully the weather stay's this way for awhile yet :D
 
I get annoyed at people whom dont asser themselves or have no opinion of what to do etc.

I need a relationship to be involving for both partys, I dislike greatly girls that just go with the flow. Its a good mix to discuss what each party wants and then decided which one is best.

Food i am pretty relaxed on and I dont mind to much but Instead of going 'errrm, what do you want' ... 'i dont mind' 'neither do i' This annoys me so i will just make an alpha decision.
 
Things is not looking too good with the current girlfriend. We're still too new and both too old to compromise. Strange how people can be so different from their profiles. Yes yes, you cannot define a whole person in the space of 5 paragraphs, but a honest and accurate snapshot would do wonderfully. For instance, she never told me she spend over £200 a month visiting clairvoyants and it's influencing a lot of how she behaves and behaves towards me. The latest is that she wants me to send a picture of myself to some gypsy weirdo that can 'read' me. Only cost £150 :rolleyes:. If I wanted to get **** I'd visit the local cathouse.

Suppose these are the things that don't appear in the manual when it comes to online dating.

So, once and again to the online thing. I still resent myself so willing get punished one last time. Room for one more good sirs?
 
Eurgh, think I am getting messed about by some lass on my street from PoF. She is so hot and cold. Always on PoF so I guess she is getting plenty of bait on there. Think I going to call it a day on that Fishy.
 
regulus said:
Things is not looking too good with the current girlfriend. We're still too new and both too old to compromise. Strange how people can be so different from their profiles. Yes yes, you cannot define a whole person in the space of 5 paragraphs, but a honest and accurate snapshot would do wonderfully. For instance, she never told me she spend over £200 a month visiting clairvoyants and it's influencing a lot of how she behaves and behaves towards me. The latest is that she wants me to send a picture of myself to some gypsy weirdo that can 'read' me. Only cost £150 :rolleyes:. If I wanted to get **** I'd visit the local cathouse.

Suppose these are the things that don't appear in the manual when it comes to online dating.

So, once and again to the online thing. I still resent myself so willing get punished one last time. Room for one more good sirs?
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People that pay that sort of money for that complete make believe need 'reading' themselves.
 
Hmm a guy asked about meeting soon to which I said yes. He asked when I was free and I told him yesterday. He's been online since then but no further reply :/ Oh well!

I know it's a while before I'm available but this week is out because of my dad, the weekend is the forum meet and then unfortunately next weekend I have family things going on (which I did say in my response except for the bit about my dad) If he's impatient then tough tooties :p I'm not going to chase him. Balls in his court. :)

a "friend" has just told me my main pic on pof is not very flattering at all :( I thought it looked ok?!
 
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