Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Hmm your profile looks ok to me. Maybe you need to change your photos around - the first pic is like you're saying wtf hell no, so maybe use the 3rd pic as the main pic. Also use the Meet Me function and allow girls to see that you've viewed their profile.
 
IV just signed up to OkCupid and POF.

In the past iv never had any luck with any internet dating sites and i cant really see this being any different TBH! but we shall see!.

Wish me luck
 
wijcc said:
here it is:

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=1411354
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Too many pictures of face, so much face!!

Need some good info for someone to be able to ask you about etc, maybe put where you have been rather than just travelling? i.e. if you put south america, no doubt a girl will be like OMGZ I LOVE SOUTH AMERICA rather than just i love travelling. Generic info isnt a great basis to start a conversation. be more specific.

maybe a more catchier title than hello all, plus also many girls don't like smiley faces emoticons.
 
CaptainFail! said:
I seem to be getting bugger all messages and if I do get one or two they aren't of any interest to me. :p bah!

Anyone fancy taking a quick look at my profile? I've changed it so many times in the past and still had no luck.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=32256125
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have a shave? that beard makes you look 600 years old.

Profile text is good, maybe a more fun picture? without the beard.

(ps not meant to offend, tongue is in cheek)
 
What happend to the days of meeting women the -normal- way lol, I find it really strange all this internet thing because you dont know someone untill you -know- them if you are picking up what I'm throwing down.

Bunch of odd balls, I guess I'm behind the times in this regard - ive been with my wife 15 years.

I'm sure some of these relationships last but most of them end up in termoil id imagine? dunno never had to do it - feel sorry for those who do I guess, but maybe its fun idk haha
 
Jotunkaiser said:
What happend to the days of meeting women the -normal- way lol, I find it really strange all this internet thing because you dont know someone untill you -know- them if you are picking up what I'm throwing down.
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That's why you arrange to meet up in person as soon as possible. Internet dating seems to be an easier way to see people's interests and find someone with something in common. Sure, I guess you can do that the 'normal' way, but I'm not great at approaching women and I don't go out enough. I've met far more people through internet dating.

I'm sure some of these relationships last but most of them end up in termoil id imagine? dunno never had to do it - feel sorry for those who do I guess, but maybe its fun idk haha
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There are plenty of success stories. I don't think there's a very big difference between relationships formed online or offline, but I don't have any data to back up my claim.

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Also those of you who don't receive unsolicited messages, you aren't alone. I think there's more pressure on men to send the initial message anyway seeing as women can pretty much have the pick of the bunch...

I have a 3rd date with a girl from POF on Friday, looking forward to it! We're getting on pretty well, texting regularly etc.

Out of interest, what would you guys/girls class as 'too far' distance wise? I met a girl in London (1-2 hour train journey) last Friday and we're considering meeting again, but I don't know if the distance thing is going to be annoying...
 
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Since i've done a few tweaks to my profile I have been getting a brave amount of messages from girls. (10+ in the last 2 weeks), and im up to over 20+ 'meet me' requests.

Hopefully meet up with a few to see if there that wee bit special.
 
apeZ said:
I think there's more pressure on men to send the initial message anyway seeing as women can pretty much have the pick of the bunch...
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You would be surprised

When i used POF, i sent more messages to guys then what i received.

I went on a few dates. One guy i was seeing for a few weeks, two guys I met up with and we decided that we weren't really compatible and 1 guy i was going out with for 6 months.

Also used Zoosk on Facebook, and was seeing a guy off there for 3 months or so and another for a few weeks where I decided he wasn't what i was looking for (cause he was slightly unhinged).

The main problem i found was that guys (and more than likely girls, but i cant say) would say that they were looking for a relationship/ marriage/ to be with someone till the end of time and then on the 3rd or 4th date - or 5 1/2 months down the line, in one case - they would say there were after nothing serious or they would say "I didn't think we were that serious?!" (like it was a huge surprise after spending best part of 6 months together, meeting each others respective friends, spending money on trips away and birthday, Christmas presents....***ker)

My line to play, after this happening to me a few times, within the first few contacts with internet dating guys would be to ask:

  • "So, what are you looking for really? I mean, why did you ultimately join [said dating site]? Some no strings fun? Or something serious?Just so we both know what we both looking for"

A bit forward I know, but it stopped the whole nasty business of having the uncomfortable conversation, cause you both knew, BEFORE YOU MET, that you were both after the same thing

The other tip i will say is - using the age old phrase - don't put all your eggs in one basket in regards to emailing/ contacts.

My older sister tried internet dating and hated it. Reason being that she got chatting to a guy - through the site - and they seemed to be getting on so they swapped personal email addresses.

For about 2 weeks they were emailing back and forth everyday and it was all leading up to a first date (as my sister thought), then he didn't reply to an email...and she heard nothing from him and still to this day hasn't

Now i tried to tell her, that its pretty typical when using internet dating for this to happen, but it really knocked her already low confidence/ self esteem so she cancelled her subscription (friends reunited i think) and has never tried it since...

So try not to pin all your hopes on one person, keep your options open until you commit to a few dates, even then, play the field until you or they have decided whats going to happen :) Note: i don't mean sleep around or anything, just keep your options open :p

In regards to the 'old fashioned' way of meeting people, i met the love of my life (and current boyfriend ;)) through friends of friends/ family - so it does still work :D
 
theDude said:
have a shave? that beard makes you look 600 years old.

Profile text is good, maybe a more fun picture? without the beard.

(ps not meant to offend, tongue is in cheek)
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Take off ideal date of bowling...bowling sucks and no girl wants to wear bowling shoes!

Best first date i went on was a walk around a park - admittedly it was May and we had been joking that i really fancied an Ice Cream Man Ice Cream

Edit: but saying that you can laugh it up with "we can share a brolly if its raining, and jump in some puddles too, so wear your wellies :)"
 
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theDude said:
Too many pictures of face, so much face!!

Need some good info for someone to be able to ask you about etc, maybe put where you have been rather than just travelling? i.e. if you put south america, no doubt a girl will be like OMGZ I LOVE SOUTH AMERICA rather than just i love travelling. Generic info isnt a great basis to start a conversation. be more specific.

maybe a more catchier title than hello all, plus also many girls don't like smiley faces emoticons.
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Thanks.. made a few more changes.. is better now??

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=1411354
 
Jotunkaiser said:
What happend to the days of meeting women the -normal- way lol, I find it really strange all this internet thing because you dont know someone untill you -know- them if you are picking up what I'm throwing down.

Bunch of odd balls, I guess I'm behind the times in this regard - ive been with my wife 15 years.

I'm sure some of these relationships last but most of them end up in termoil id imagine? dunno never had to do it - feel sorry for those who do I guess, but maybe its fun idk haha
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What, you mean like most "normal" relationships?
 
Jotunkaiser said:
What happend to the days of meeting women the -normal- way lol, I find it really strange all this internet thing because you dont know someone untill you -know- them if you are picking up what I'm throwing down.

Bunch of odd balls, I guess I'm behind the times in this regard - ive been with my wife 15 years.

I'm sure some of these relationships last but most of them end up in termoil id imagine? dunno never had to do it - feel sorry for those who do I guess, but maybe its fun idk haha
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Surely you can say the same thing about meeting anyone? If i meet a girl in a club or pub then I do not know that person until after a few dates, in fact I know less about them than if i were to find them on internet dating?

People these days have less time for things, including dating and as such people have a more direct approach to things no to waist time also people are a lot more select these days, when it comes to food, tv, music or whatever we live in a I want it now and I want it perfect culture. Why waist time o someone that has no common interests with me? why waist 5-6 dates getting to that point that I know that it won't work.

Its not actually faux pas anymore, it is accepted as a normal way of meeting someone. You are old and behind the times. As you put it, married for 15 years and therefore you have not dated for at least that period of time. You are not qualified to comment on this.

The dude

Internet dating oddball.
 
Jotunkaiser said:
What happend to the days of meeting women the -normal- way lol, I find it really strange all this internet thing because you dont know someone untill you -know- them if you are picking up what I'm throwing down.

Bunch of odd balls, I guess I'm behind the times in this regard - ive been with my wife 15 years.

I'm sure some of these relationships last but most of them end up in termoil id imagine? dunno never had to do it - feel sorry for those who do I guess, but maybe its fun idk haha
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what's the normal way? in a drunken night club? I met my gf at a bbq but I don't really have an issue with internet dating.
 
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