Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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trixilux said:
Take off ideal date of bowling...bowling sucks and no girl wants to wear bowling shoes!
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Speak for yourself :p I like bowling and I don't mind wearing bowling shoes.

Bowling on a date can be difficult because it goes too quickly and you don't have much time to chat.
That said the last guy I met took me bowling (as the ice skating rink was closed) it helped to break the ice a bit and we had a laugh about how bad he was :p

Afterwards we went to a pub, it was a Sunday so we tucked ourselves into a quiet corner and were chatting the rest of the night. Was a really nice date tbh :)

As for meeting people in real life I've met jerks offline and online and as others have said, meeting in person doesn't make you anymore knowledgeable on what they are like. At least with a profile you can get some kind of idea as to how they are :)
 
Zefan said:
Oh god, are you for real :o?
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I agree with her in a way, I hate suggesting things like that cause I'm not 16, but you need a level of interaction with something that isn't just sitting and talking if you want to make a better impression that just an average bloke.
My most successful encounter to date has been a few drinks, then a rollerdisco. It's funny, you get to accidentally fall into each other etc.

Finding a fine line between fun and talking is hard.
 
Zefan said:
Oh god, are you for real :o?
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The date or the accidental pun lol

Makes a change from the usual "sit in a pub talking." If you do something I find it helps with first date nerves and it gives you something else to talk about. It's not necessarily an implication that you don't match because you need that, sometimes I get so nervous I can't think of things to ask.
 
I actually signed up to one of these sites not that long ago and went on a date - it was ok, but eurgh, totally not my thing. Much prefer meeting someone in a less forced environment!
 
ChroniC said:
I agree with her in a way, I hate suggesting things like that cause I'm not 16, but you need a level of interaction with something that isn't just sitting and talking if you want to make a better impression that just an average bloke.
My most successful encounter to date has been a few drinks, then a rollerdisco. It's funny, you get to accidentally fall into each other etc.

Finding a fine line between fun and talking is hard.
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Woosh! That'll be the sound of not only her unintended pun, but my post highlighting and questioning it whistling over your head.

secretspy said:
The date or the accidental pun lol

Makes a change from the usual "sit in a pub talking." If you do something I find it helps with first date nerves and it gives you something else to talk about. It's not necessarily an implication that you don't match because you need that, sometimes I get so nervous I can't think of things to ask.
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I meant the unintentional pun :p
 
Well talked to the girl I was seeing about her going away for 9 months and agree that I wasn't going to stop her, and that she still wanted to go, so even though we were having fun it wasn't good in the long run.
Hurt quite a bit really

Anyway got another date on Monday to get over it, and hope that this time fate/destiny doesn't decide to play a cruel joke on me. :/
 
Need a bit of advice...

Been chatting to a girl for about 2 weeks, exchanged numbers and texting/Whatsapping quite happily. Asked her out last week and we met for drinks on Wed.

Got on really well, laughed and joked all evening and stayed out quite late when she could've made an excuse and left. Then she messaged me when I got home to say thanks for a great evening etc.

The chat continues last night as per the norm, then I casually drop it into conversation that I'd like to take her out for dinner sometime. Since then, not a peep! :(

Whatsapp messenger tells you when someone is online/was last online and she was online for an hour after I asked her... and has been online again this morning. Should I take the hint and leave it, or am I reading too much into this?

Tempted to mention it but thinking I should leave it til this eve and see if I hear anything?
 
I gave up on pof for awhile as all I get is obese women, chavettes and women who look like they've just finished the last tenth bottle of vodka. Yes I do send messages out it either ends in READ DELETED or good conversations which they end up going cold turkey on me :(
 
Big Chris said:
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I tend to do the same and think too much about it but I'm trying not to lol. I would just leave it and see if you hear back this evening. She might not want to come across too keen and make you stew a bit. I don't tend to do that but I know some people do.
Did you send the message by this whatsapp thing or by text?

If she likes you she will reply. If not then her loss.

Good luck with it all :)
 
I've gave up on Web dating for a number of reasons.

1. Most women around my age are either heavy drinkers or heavy weights, I like Curvy women Not massive unfit smelly sweaty blobs of Fat.

2. Very few women seem to bring up Nice kids & I am not being around Kids I want to kick the **** out of.

3. Women like everybody else project the image of who they Think they are when online, When you meet them you soon find out they are Nothing like what they portrayed.

4. I hate the crap you get when you tell them you are not interested in them "That" way.

S'pose I am just bar humbug to relationships & feel that if I am going to meet somebody then I want to meet the Real them not some concocted BS Internet image.
Lastly I have to say it has been fun over the years but these days I just can't be ****** with all the emotions/crying & carry on & I've not been with a single woman who doesn't bring a drama Llama to the party.

I concluded recently when chatting with one of my Girly mates that I won't find who I am looking for as they are in a different class to me :p
I want a Lady, A decent feminine woman with all the charms that comes with it, Unfortunately being as Ruff as a Badgers **** they wouldn't even **** on me if I was on Fire. :D
 
secretspy said:
She might not want to come across too keen and make you stew a bit. I don't tend to do that but I know some people do.
Did you send the message by this whatsapp thing or by text?
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This is the worst part - you just can't win. Try to make it obvious that you're keen and the other person could run a mile thinking you're desperate or needy. Keep them hanging and they'll think you're not interested or just toying with them. Life would be so much easier if people were just blatantly honest. A bit like the start in "The Invention of Lying". :D

Saying that, I've been quite blatant with a female friend (who I really don't want more than a friendship with) pretty recently and it still didn't put her off. :/
 
Exactly!!! My ex was honest about liking me, I was shocked at how keen he was coming across but it was refreshing. That was until he decided things felt different 3 weeks in (I'm sorry, I cant be all happy when my dad had cancer!) And then he was off until I said what's going on. Boys!!
 
secretspy said:
Exactly!!! My ex was honest about liking me, I was shocked at how keen he was coming across but it was refreshing. That was until he decided things felt different 3 weeks in (I'm sorry, I cant be all happy when my dad had cancer!) And then he was off until I said what's going on. Boys!!
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Hm, you didn't do the:

"What's wrong?"
"Nothing."

conversation though did you? That doesn't help and I could see why he'd feel uneasy at that. Completely agree that it's impossible to be happy in that situation and you probably didn't want to talk about it.
 
As in me saying nothing? No don't think he ever really asked that. He knew my dad was ill with cancer and we were fairly open about it. I didn't really talk about it with anyone though I just bottled it up and tried to keep it separate from things.

He said he was down about work and felt lost. The week it happened he was manic with work and my dad took a turn but he wasn't willing to see if it was just outside factors or not. Oh well, can't be dealing with people like that.
 
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