This is what I think. He has probably noticed she never contacts him first and got fed up with it. He may have just decided to wait and see how long it would take her.
Is 3 days of zero contact with someone you are seeing acceptable?
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This is what I think. He has probably noticed she never contacts him first and got fed up with it. He may have just decided to wait and see how long it would take her.
In theory yes, but it had been pretty even from both sides (same with my gf and me) in terms of who initiates contact. Then it changed, he became less responsive too. He was out with his mates on Saturday, so she left him to his own devices, but still heard no peep from him until she messaged yesterday.
I get where her head's at, going from free flowing communication to being the primary initiator would set off alarm bells for most people, and she'll find out tonight when they meet up. Going from keen and wanting to see her multiple times a week to this certainly seems like he's trying to ghost/fade/whatever it's called her.
My vote is still on him being a man baby with no emotional intelligence
If everything is like the OP says and there are no mitigating circumstances
I don't think it's acceptable at all
She doesn't know if he's hurt
He's suddenly changed
More likely he's probably bailed
As hard as it is.. If he has bailed, he's not the type you want anyway
Had it happen to me, but only a month. But exactly the same. Just disappeared.
I don't think it's acceptable at all
She doesn't know if he's hurt
He's suddenly changed
More likely he's probably bailed
As hard as it is.. If he has bailed, he's not the type you want anyway
Had it happen to me, but only a month. But exactly the same. Just disappeared.
Arrgh why did I even open this thread.
Why am I even posting about why I opened this thread I don't even need access to MM
I was lucky to grow up in the days before we had to be in constant communication with each other at ALL times.
I think when I was dating there would be a few days where we didn't get in touch but usually during the week.... Weekend and unannounced....hmmm. are we sure the guy didn't get hit by a bus?
Why am I even posting about why I opened this thread I don't even need access to MM
I was lucky to grow up in the days before we had to be in constant communication with each other at ALL times.
I think when I was dating there would be a few days where we didn't get in touch but usually during the week.... Weekend and unannounced....hmmm. are we sure the guy didn't get hit by a bus?
I don't like the constant contact thing and occasionally I'll think I've replied to a text in my head when I actually haven't.
Maybe he's got bored of catering for someone else's needs. That or he's asserting his dominance in the relationship but he could have just peed on her to mark his territory/ownership.
Maybe he's got bored of catering for someone else's needs. That or he's asserting his dominance in the relationship but he could have just peed on her to mark his territory/ownership.
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Exactly, he could be thinking the same thing as her
or
he went out, met someone he liked, one thing led to another and now he feels guilty and needs some time to figure things out
Damned if she does (god, she's ALWAYS texting me, so clingy!), damned if she doesn't (god, she NEVER texts me, clearly she isn't interested!)
He probably set a fake precedent with his earlier comm strategy and can't keep up any more, which sucks as early on in the relationship she made it very clear that she doesn't want to play games and that they can just talk about whatever, which he was keen on.
In terms of her asking him what is going on, well that's the point of this evening, as having that kind of a discussion over whatsapp is silly.
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Its only been 3 months and they are only seeing each other. 3 days isn't long, people are just sometimes busy.
Maybe she's fallen for him quicker than he has her, he might be a lot more casual about 'them' than she is. in which case he wont see 3 days as an issue whereas, for her, she might be climbing the walls with anxiety.
She should probably try and be a little more casual herself, sounds like she could set herself up to be the clingy 'chasey' one doing all the work, which will end up with her getting hurt. Tell her to calm down a bit and keep herself busy with other things.
Its easy to get wrapped up in somebody very quickly, you have to protect yourself for a while.
Maybe she's fallen for him quicker than he has her, he might be a lot more casual about 'them' than she is. in which case he wont see 3 days as an issue whereas, for her, she might be climbing the walls with anxiety.
She should probably try and be a little more casual herself, sounds like she could set herself up to be the clingy 'chasey' one doing all the work, which will end up with her getting hurt. Tell her to calm down a bit and keep herself busy with other things.
Its easy to get wrapped up in somebody very quickly, you have to protect yourself for a while.
If it had, I don't see why she wouldn't have mentioned it. She hasn't been asking me or my other housemate for sympathy or anything, just asking us if we thought it weird for his sudden change.
From her side the break was great, which further confuses her as to why he has gone cold, and if it wasn't great from his perspective, why is he not discussing this with her? She doesn't want to poke and prod and end up pushing him away, but at the same time clearly he doesn't think 3 days no contact is weird, and she does, so they are probably a mismatch.
Handy if she had found that out 3 months ago
Sounds a bit dramatic to me OP.
She's going to have a show down talk tonight to ask why he didn't text her for three days...
They are dating and not in a relationship is what I gather. If they are in a committed relationship then the behaviour is somewhat strange but then again it's only a few days. No big deal.
It is however rude behaviour for not replying if she has been texting/calling for those few days and I'd be a bit peeved.
Here's my 2p.
Scenario A:
He doesn't send her a text and she waits for him to text first but doesn't text of her own accord.
Scenario B:
She sends one throwaway text during the three days and nothing else. He forgets to text back as it doesn't seem important.
Scenario C:
She has sent him a few texts in this time and perhaps called. He has ignored all of it. He is being rude or has reason to not be in contact.
It probably isn't that big of a deal.
However if it's your gf/bf then I would be a bit worried if something had happened to them.
Sounds like he isn't an automatic manbaby and she could be being a girlbaby.
She's going to have a show down talk tonight to ask why he didn't text her for three days...
They are dating and not in a relationship is what I gather. If they are in a committed relationship then the behaviour is somewhat strange but then again it's only a few days. No big deal.
It is however rude behaviour for not replying if she has been texting/calling for those few days and I'd be a bit peeved.
Here's my 2p.
Scenario A:
He doesn't send her a text and she waits for him to text first but doesn't text of her own accord.
Scenario B:
She sends one throwaway text during the three days and nothing else. He forgets to text back as it doesn't seem important.
Scenario C:
She has sent him a few texts in this time and perhaps called. He has ignored all of it. He is being rude or has reason to not be in contact.
It probably isn't that big of a deal.
However if it's your gf/bf then I would be a bit worried if something had happened to them.
Sounds like he isn't an automatic manbaby and she could be being a girlbaby.
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Also at her age surely the sound of wedding bells and potential patter of tiny feet must be at the forefront of her mind..... every guy could be the one.
The pressure on him argh the pressure.
The pressure on him argh the pressure.
So the first 2.5 months of him being a great caring guy aren't actually who he is, and he was just playing her? The same guy who said he doesn't understand why some guys plays games? She's not trying to change him, just trying to understand why he has changed himself
People lie.
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Now we have the actual story of that she also didn't text for 3 days. I reckon that he was wondering whether she is actually in to him and wanted to see if she would even initiate the conversation. If after three months a girl I was seeing still wouldn't text me first I would probably dump her.
