Is it a control thing?

Derek W · 17 Jun 2018 at 12:13

Move the TV to a more practical position away from the window so the sun doesn't hit the back of it. Then your other half will complain even more

Skorpion · 17 Jun 2018 at 13:08

Tell her to get the dinner on !

dowie · 17 Jun 2018 at 13:12

Your partner is a bit odd tbh... why not join the club you want to join anyway and just call her bluff. If she wants to leave you over something like that then hopefully you've had a lucky escape before kids etc.. are involved.

Rich1988 · 17 Jun 2018 at 15:13

sounds like controlling and coercive behaviour. just those two examples you gave ring alarm bells and if they are not isolated examples sound like very unhealthy behaviour!

Hades · 17 Jun 2018 at 15:18

I always tried to acquiesce to my partner's demands like this. It kept the peace. But now I realise it's the wrong thing to do. The curtains is a petty thing and I'd just ignore it. But stand your ground on the club. Join it and live your own life. Hopefully she will share that life. But if she doesn't then the relationship would have exploded years down the line anyway and you'd just have no life of your own.

VincentHanna · 17 Jun 2018 at 15:25

What's a harrier? Other than a jet obviously.

Your wife sounds unreasonable from what you've posted but with no other insight in to your relationship we can't really judge.

There's always two sides to every story.

LeeUK · 17 Jun 2018 at 15:38

My mate has just split up from a relationship like this where his partner used to say what he can and can't do and whether he was allowed to go out or not and used to kick off if he was out too long etc. Everyone knew for years that he should have got out of the relationship but he didn't see it until the end.

Deleted member 66701 · 17 Jun 2018 at 16:03

I'm sorry but if my other half swore at me she'd be an ex.

asim18 · 17 Jun 2018 at 16:20

I think she's right. A TV, which is most likely black, is going to be absorbing quite a lot of energy, and extra heat is not good for electronics.

Roland Butter · 17 Jun 2018 at 17:00

Other Half ??? how very plebian, is the protagonist male or female ?

Is the OP deliberate in omitting the quite important details re the sex of the dramatis personae ?
Such details would give us an indication of the dynamics within the household and make an assessment
of which one deserves a leg smack much easier.

Brizzles · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:09

My first wife did this.

I divorced her and had her executed.

I now have curtains.

hardkore · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:16

Once had a girlfriend of 3 years like this. Eventually had enough and kicked her out. Total psyco.

Steampunk · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:16

mrochester said:
Haha caught red handed. I was trying to be gender neutral!

Why? Presumably, you're SO is either male or female, and thus saying "he" or "she" is factually correct. Surely you're not worried about some kind of assumed offence strangers on the internet will take if you gender your partner correctly?

Your partner just likes to complain and keep you under control by threatening to end the relationship everytime you stray out of her control. She's got issues. Your issue is her.

tom_e · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:19

VincentHanna said:
What's a harrier? Other than a jet obviously.

Your wife sounds unreasonable from what you've posted but with no other insight in to your relationship we can't really judge.

There's always two sides to every story.

Running clubs are usually called something Harriers so I'm going to running/athletics club.

Thekwango · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:20

Steampunk said:
Why? Presumably, you're SO is either male or female, and thus saying "he" or "she" is factually correct. Surely you're not worried about some kind of assumed offence strangers on the internet will take if you gender your partner correctly?

You're partner just likes to complain and keep you under control by threatening to end the relationship everytime you stray out of her control. She's got issues. Your issue is her.

You’re assuming the OP’s other half identifies as either male or female. They might be an it. Or a thing.

Steampunk · 17 Jun 2018 at 18:22

Thekwango said:
You’re assuming the OP’s other half identifies as either male or female. They might be an it. Or a thing.

I don't have to participate in anyone else's delusions.

Suicidal Ferret · 17 Jun 2018 at 19:35

Yes. Had similar. Get rid. This is just the start.

Thekwango · 17 Jun 2018 at 20:09

Steampunk said:
I don't have to participate in anyone else's delusions.

Lol so true.

Ugley_Matt · 18 Jun 2018 at 00:05

Is this her?

Housey · 18 Jun 2018 at 00:09

I bet she’s a venetian

Is it a control thing?

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