PeterNem said:
According to my parents both myself and my brother were really well behaved as kids and they couldnt have really asked for any more - maybe they were just lucky.
I've never been smacked, never had an argument with my parents etc.
I guess the fact my grandparents lived nearby and were always on hand to help give my parents time to themselves meant they didnt have to drag me around places with them when I was too young.
I don't see why it's unreasonable for a parent to put their lives on hold for a few years for a kid though. The kid should be the most important thing in your lives, not your friday night at the pub with mates. And if you also don't have to take a holiday abroad for 6 or 7 years then so be it. My parents used to go on holiday abraod every year. I was born in 1983 and we didnt go abroad as a family for the first time until 1990, by which time I was old enough to appreciate it and know that the flight would be a pain but that I'd just have to deal with it. About the most annoying thing I did was ask "are we nearly there yet" every hour or so.
I think some parents need to get their priorities straight.
Neither me or the missus put anything in front of taking care of my son, granted there are parents out there that do put their friday night out before looking after the kids....i disagree strongly with that.
The fact that there are so many parents that take their kids to the pictures yet do nothing when the child is misbehaving is downright rude.
The argument that started here is that kids shouldnt be allowed to go to the cinema due to them talking/crisp packet rustling.
My son is very, very good (he's 4 in october) but i haven't and wouldn't take him to the cinema until i know that he will be fully attentive of the film i take him to see, because at the end of the day, he's still a very young child and would probably get bored with just sitting down for nearly 2 hours.
We do however take him to restaurants, and sometimes he moans, sometimes he doesn't - i will not put mine or my partners life on hold because of this.
Would you want all parents to be hermits????
The child needs an interactive social life with all age groups in order for it to be a fully rounded person when growing up.
This you will understand will become clear the moment you have kids.
You can start to enjoy their company from (my opinion) 3 years old and onwards as they comprehend things a lot better, and because of this, we take him to as many places we can so he can enjoy his life.
Our life was put on hold when he was born - i've no problem with this, as we chose to bring him into this world.....even now though, you can count the number of times i go out with the lads on a bender in a year on one hand, this is the same with my partner.
Im very proud of my son, his manners are impeccable for a 3 year old, i capture a flag on BF2 for him and he says with a big smile on his face "thankyou daddy"
I think the problem here is:
a, Adults going to see a childs film
b, parenting skills keeping in mind other peoples enjoyment
c, intolerance of adults without kids.
I've done it before in shops when he's kicked off - whisked him straight into my arms with him screaming and taken him and sat in the car while the missus finishes off paying/ordering whatever she's doing, all the time he's letting his tantrum get out of his system.
I don't for a minute think that you've not had a tantrum as a child, despite what you've said.
Yes, on the whole my son is very good, but trust me.......he has his moments