Kindest way to break up with your girlfriend?

Kindest way? Just be honest douche bag. Seriously. It's not an insult. If you don't want to be with her... tell her.. in whichever way you can.

You don't have to say sorry. Just tell her it's not what you want etc (or whatever) and move on. Be as honest as you can, because leaving someone to try and make sense of it can screw them up.
 
When I first read the OP I assumed he had already told her it was over and she wasn't getting the hint... re-reading it certainly sounds like he's just decided not speaking to her will count as 'breaking up'.

Let her down nicely but conclusively, she'll probably go mental for a bit then get over it.
 
not a suitable question for this board, considering the majority here are into building computers and beating their meat to the gadget show

89% of replies here from virgins
 
/\ndy said:
not a suitable question for this board, considering the majority here are into building computers and beating their meat to the gadget show

89% of replies here from virgins
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Looking at your previous posts it would seem you're just extrapolating from your own experiences. :D
 
The Breakup Megathread: Lushka16 severed said:
Rule 1: The Relationship Is Over

You wouldn’t be in this phase if you bothered to work it out, right? Do you want to try other people just to see if there’s someone better, but make sure your partner is still around to fall back on? Don’t be that kind of manipulative jerk. Are you afraid you’ll be lonely without your known quantity? Too bad, you chose a breakup over fixing the relationship. Ending the relationship means ending it for good.

No one said dumping people was easy. Be empathetic and declare that the relationship as it exists now is over in no uncertain terms. Be firm, respectful, and calm. Maybe something like this:

Dick: I’m sorry, but I think we need to break up.
Jane: ****. You think? Are you sure?
Dick: Yes, I’m sure.
Jane: What about a break to see how things go?
Dick: No, we tried to work things out but I can’t keep this up.
Jane: BUT WHAT ABOUT OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND LIFE AND HOUSE AND SPOT AND BLACK OPS CLAN AND...!?!?!?!?!!11!
Dick: I’m sorry.
Jane: **** YOU YOU PIECE OF **** I KNEW SALLY WAS INVOLVED SHE’S SUCH A STUPID BITCH THAT WHORE...
Dick: ...I’ll call you to arrange an exchange of our stuff.

Don’t claim things you can’t control or use words that could have lasting emotional effects on your now ex-partner. Don’t say “I’ll still love you forever,” or “We’ll stay best friends until the end of time,” or any other nonsense that does nothing but confuse your ex. Don’t offer “time apart,” a “break,” “we’ll see,” or any other middle ground. Again, if you wanted to work it out, you wouldn’t be at Rule 1. Rip off the Band-Aid.

Sub Rule 1: You Don’t Owe Your Ex Anything
If you just got dumped, they’ve given up their right to your attention, love, physical contact (and even friendship, for a time). Any attempt on their part to push their weakness or guilt in your face is manipulation. Don’t feed manipulative exes. They bite.

If you just dumped your ex respectfully, that’s the best you can do. There’s nothing else that you could possibly say or do to ease their pain. Let them move on, and control any misplaced guilt you feel from doing what was necessary to move your life forward.
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"Accidentally" leave your computer on with your secret porn stash folder open and invite her round... things should sort themselves out from there. If not then point her towards mumsnet to make sure.

In all seriousness though, be honest (but not brutal) and make sure you that you don't keep her hanging on by offering hope if there really isn't any as has been said previously.
 
Speak to her face-to-face, be honest and say it as it is.

Don't say, "it's not you it's me" rubbish.. "Of course it's you, why else would i break it up!".

How about, "I did love you but now I don't so let's move on?"
 
mcast said:
I've been avoiding all contact with my girlfriend for 3 days now hoping she will realize it's over, but the texts keep coming. I'm feeling guilty that avoidance isn't the best way to end things. The relationship is over for me but she's a nice girl and I really don't want to hurt her.

Suggestions on what to say to her? everything I can think of sounds cheesy e.g. "it's not you it's me" or "I prefer to be single". Truth is I don't find her attractive anymore, which is probably the worst thing I could say.

inb4 "tell her you're gay"
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Grow some balls and stop acting like a teenager. Go over to hers and say the reason you have been avoiding her (apart from being a chicken) is because it is over. It is as simple as that. Do it at hers, it'll be less awkward as you can just leave.

Also - wouldn't it be nice if one day you were actually into somebody and they just started ignoring you?
 
Its not me its you
I used to like you now you are ugly and/or annoying
You repulse me.
You are too needy
You are boring
You are unfunny

These all work. Worked on me.
 
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