Longest wait?

eatcustard said:
Dont bother with date in a month
Just say NO!! That will **** her off no end.

Dont let her dictate the terms, you should go out and play with a few girls.
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Heh I'll probably really get flamed for this. I had a 50:50 say in the terms. She decided we needed a break. I decided we shouldn't see other people during the break. She agree'd on that no problems.

I'm really not bothered about another guy. If she did meet someone I know at the very least that her mum would tell me. My gf's sister dumped her boyfriend when he had lost his job, had no money. her parents knew that it wasn't his fault, and they helped support him till he sorted himself out. They're an amazing family.
 
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Ciphon said:
Do you live together?
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Nope. We're too independent. Always have been. She actually said it's one of the things she's always liked, that I don't HAVE to see her week in and week out. She's got a job with a lot of pressure, and her own friends to see. I'm the same.

The other reason is that I have a home studio/band project and she is a designer. We have too many things to live in the same house (that we could afford - 3 bedroom, bedroom, studio and design studio.)
 
Seems like it's over :(

Why would her sister delete her number on your phone? Surely she would trust to you not call her during the break if your relationship really is as open as you say. That's just really weird.
 
Psy-Blade said:
Walked back in and told her to end it if that's what she wants. She told me she honestly didn't know. Hence the time apart.
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Your relationship is already over. If you need a break from someone, then you're not in love with them. She may love you, but she's not in love with you. I can't think of a single reason that I'd want to spend any more time away from my gf than I absolutely have to.

It's obviously going to hurt, but I'd say you need to break up now and walk away - what is she going to rediscover in a month that she has forgotten in the last five years?
 
twentyone said:
Seems like it's over :(

Why would her sister delete her number on your phone? Surely she would trust to you not call her during the break if your relationship really is as open as you say. That's just really weird.
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Because I told her that I'd get drunk and call her within a few days. She didn't forcefully delete it. Just told me that I should do it while we were talking. And so I did.

I guess it really was/is a weird relationship. I get on so well with her family that they know *most* things we get up to. My friends find it weird that they're so open about talking about sex.
 
JBuk said:
you're failing to see what's unfolding between your eyes
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lol. We've had fall outs before. I 100% trust her sister and mother to be impartial and look out for both of our interests. She'll give me the number back when I need it. It's not a plan between the two sisters.

And of course after 5 years I have so many ways to contact her, or get her number. We agree'd to keep our facebooks open to each other for example. It's just erasing the convenience of calling her that she wanted.
 
Never personally agreed with the whole 'going on a break' process. If it was me and I needed a break then there is obviously something wrong with the relationship, if she's having doubts then that's her own issues and she should break it off not keep you on the hook.

What I personally find odd is the fact you spend up to 2-3 weeks away from each other (I'm final year university and my GF lives pretty far away so during holidays only see her once or so but would never willingly spend that long apart)...if that's the case then how is this break any different from those occasions?

Something doesn't quite add up.
 
Psy-Blade said:
I guess it really was/is a weird relationship. I get on so well with her family that they know *most* things we get up to. My friends find it weird that they're so open about talking about sex.
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I bet you haven't told them about *that* thing she likes yet though
 
The relationship maybe on a break but her whipping of you certainly isn't...

I can't believe that some people are this Naive. Sorry mate, but it is almost certainly over, but you can go out one of two ways:

1. Hold out hope like a little lost puppy that she'll come back to you(as I've said, I wouldn't put money on this).
2. Go out like a man. Dump her now and get absoultely mashed on New Years.
 
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