Mediocre life?

gjrc · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:04

Jez said:
This is why i am very reluctant to bother now. I have changed a lot, i am sure she has too. And at the end of the day we broke up for a reason. The reason was my fault, but it was still a reason.

the problem you face now, is it may not work if you get back together, but you wont know unless you try. is she single still? are you guys still speaking? does she know your feelings?

MTA99 · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:04

Just about to go and make the first step on a pretty big change. Career, lifestyle, location will all change and i'll leave a string of broken hearts

Was a bit apprehensive at first but now getting more excited

Jez · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:07

gjrc said:
the problem you face now, is it may not work if you get back together, but you wont know unless you try. is she single still? are you guys still speaking? does she know your feelings?

We dont speak much now, purely because it makes me go to pieces and she now lives around 1.5 hours away so its not as if its convininent. She is single as far as i know, but she could be hiding it in fear of upsetting me. She doesnt know the extent of my feelings, but probably knows that i would want to get back together.

gjrc · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:09

MTA99 said:
Just about to go and make the first step on a pretty big change. Career, lifestyle, location will all change and i'll leave a string of broken hearts Was a bit apprehensive at first but now getting more excited

good luck, i bet you love every second!

Things change I've changed · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:09

MTA99 said:
Just about to go and make the first step on a pretty big change. Career, lifestyle, location will all change and i'll leave a string of broken hearts Was a bit apprehensive at first but now getting more excited

really, good on you mate, hope it all works out well, hopefully it won't be to long before I get my ass into gear and do the same.

platypus · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:09

Sod it. Think it's time to hit that apply button on those jobs I've looked at in France.

gjrc · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:11

Jez said:
We dont speak much now, purely because it makes me go to pieces and she now lives around 1.5 hours away so its not as if its convininent. She is single as far as i know, but she could be hiding it in fear of upsetting me. She doesnt know the extent of my feelings, but probably knows that i would want to get back together.

well for me, i was the one who ended our relationship. i was also totally open about my continued feelings towards her.

i wrote her 2 / 3 letters over the course of a year, so she always knew how i felt. good luck pal, i feel for you. it took me over 18 months to get her back. so dont lose hope. just dont hang everything on it!

Bony Maloney · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:14

Jez said:
This is why i am very reluctant to bother now. I have changed a lot, i am sure she has too. And at the end of the day we broke up for a reason. The reason was my fault, but it was still a reason.

And you could try and make up again because it's your fault that you still obviously love her. She may be thinking similar things or have regrets. If you don't give it a shot you will never know, and she sounds like she is under your skin, so you wont move on. Other than heartbreak what have you got to loose

Jez · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:16

I really dont know, thanks for the support though i need to think long and hard about whether it would even be the right thing to do. I think we have both changed, and am not sure if it would still be anything like it was

Bony Maloney · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:18

Jez said:
I really dont know, thanks for the support though i need to think long and hard about whether it would even be the right thing to do. I think we have both changed, and am not sure if it would still be anything like it was

It can never be like it was, it can be better, different, deeper, more meaningful, you thought you had lost someone you cared about, you could have a chance to cherish that person, and her you. It may not be like this, but then again it may, and if it isn't you'll know and will have to move on. But at least you will know.

bigredshark · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:21

Interesting thread...

Yeah I'm happy with life, I'm doing very very well and I have great friends.

Yeah I regret things, there was a girl I dated for 2 years who I split up with because I was an idiot. I look back now and realise how much I loved her. I spent a little too much time on the whole sex, drugs and rock and roll lifestyle at school and missed getting into the uni I wanted by 2 marks. I regret that.

But if I hadn't screwed those things up I'd be somewhere very different today, likely I'd be engaged at least, doing a different job in a different town. I like where I am though, I enjoy the feeling of waking up on saturday morning and thinking 'god I love my life'.

I guess we all make mistakes and I've made plenty, but I've never made the same one twice and thats what matters.

Changes, yeah, I work in IT, I don't want to do this all my life. I figure I've got a few years left in London making a whole heap of money, then I'll go work in Vancouver for a few years, san francisco for a few years and then go and chill in Australia for a while. Thats the plan anyway, I imagine it'll change and I imagine it'll be because of some girl but I guess it's the unpredictability which makes it fun.

lordrobs · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:24

Jez said:
No, i will know instantly if she is perfect, this one and countless others arnt.

I have been in love (and i suppose still am) before, and out of countless girlfriends its only ever her that i dream and think about on a daily basis, even a year after we have broken up. With her i fell in love with her the moment i first set eyes on her, before even speaking. I messed it up and never does a day pass that i dont regret it. Every girl i meet i call them by her name accidently, and it still feels wrong with anyone else.

I need to wait for this to happen again.

Sounds strangely familiar.

I was with Jane for a few months before messing things up mainly through my own immaturity. Two and a half years after we split up and no one coming close to being as special to me as she was we met up for a drink. Luckily she still had feelings for me and the rest is history.

Bony Maloney · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:27

lordrobs said:
Sounds strangely familiar.

I was with Jane for a few months before messing things up mainly through my own immaturity. Two and a half years after we split up and no one coming close to being as special to me as she was we met up for a drink. Luckily she still had feelings for me and the rest is history.

mrbios · 29 Oct 2007 at 14:41

Do you have a good life?
Are you happy with where you are? yes
job? no
love? very happy
family? very happy
money? happy enough, my only debt is a mortgage and a £100 i owe my dad
everything? yea everythings ok

just depressed about my job at the moment, its repetitive, i need something new

Surfer · 29 Oct 2007 at 15:24

Dracata said:
Do you have a good life? Are you happy with where you are? job? its ok
love? illusion
family? dont talk to them - or very rarely
money? got lots
everything? could be worse - got my health and until you ever face the situation where your health could get a lot worse you take it for granted. Im grateful for my health really.

Do you regret decisions you've made that have led to where you are, and not where you could have been? not really. What's happened has happened and couldn't have happened any other way
Do you ever think of big changes? yep planning for this

Just curious..

Reppyboyo · 29 Oct 2007 at 15:25

Do you have a good life? Are you happy with where you are? job? love? family? money? everything?

Overall, yes. Not really happy with where I am, hate my job and really need something new, love is awesome, family is also awesome, money is tight and everything else is OK.

Do you regret decisions you've made that have led to where you are, and not where you could have been?

Yes and no, I wouldent know where I would be right now if I had not made those decisions.

Do you ever think of big changes?

I really REALLY need a new, better paid job.
I see it as the weak link in my life.

Only problem being I have no idea where to go from here or how to do it.

Phaser · 29 Oct 2007 at 16:22

Dracata said:
Do you have a good life?

I wouldn't say amazing, but at the same time it's not paticularly bad.

Are you happy with where you are? job? love? family? money? everything?

Not really. It feels like there is something missing. Feel worried/depressed a fair bit but just can't work out what it is.

Job wise, it's ok, the pay isn't that good but my boss is sound, I can work from home a fair bit and don't have to give much notice if I want to take a day off etc.

Love - i've been with my girlfriend for 3 years in January. One thing that i've noticed lately is that i'm really starting to appreciate her as a person rather than the whole OMG ILU thing that starts off when you first get together. I dunno if thats good or bad after 3 years but hey!

Family - I live with my Dad although we're not that close. I couldn't imagine saying "fancy going to the pub for a pint Dad" which I find quite sad although I do love and respect him. I wish I could see my Mum a bit more often but hopefully when i've passed my test that will happen.

Money - I'm quite proud of the fact that i'm careful with my money. A lot of my mates are in debt and probably always will be. Like I said up there though I could do with earning a bit more at work, but I guess we all want that eh.

Regrets? I regret the constant arguing with my Mum as I quite often feel that I was the reason my parents split up. I regret not putting 100% in at school, because now I don't have any qualifications other than GCSE's. I regret relying on the same circle of friends whilst growing up, so now that they've moved away/lost touch I don't really have that many real friends.

I'm proud of the fact that i'm working and holding down a job. I'm proud that i'm good with my money and can afford to go away a fair bit, and buy myself nice things every so often.

Changes? I want to start making the effort into going out more and just meeting different people. I want to get to a stage where I see one of these threads and think "yes I love my life and I wouldn't change a thing".

The Dread Pirate · 29 Oct 2007 at 16:27

1. Life is Peachy

2. Lifes too short to regret anyting

3. I just roll with the punches!

gjrc · 29 Oct 2007 at 16:28

$qu!ff said:
2. Lifes too short to regret anyting

thats very true!

Mr.Orb · 29 Oct 2007 at 16:33

Do you have a good life? - Compared to some peoples lives, yes.
Are you happy with where you are? - Kinda
job? - I want to quit
love? - I'd be so lucky
family? - Nothing to complain about
money? - Student :rolleyes:

everything? - Could be worse
Do you regret decisions you've made that have led to where you are, and not where you could have been? - I have one regret, but I try and think 'lifes to short to worry about it'.
Do you ever think of big changes? - Yes