Middle aged life

Cambridgeshire is goddam flat ... some downhills & uphills to accompany middle-age life would be much more animating.
 
Efour said:
My grandad was rumoured to have a 2nd family on the side lol
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My Grandad definitely did.
When I was young in the late 60s/early 70s I'd turn up at my Grandads to be told he was with his friend Mrs Harvey and this obviously meant nothing to me.
He died in the late 70s but about 15 years ago my Uncle decided to do a bit of history.
We found out that our real name is McGuinness and he was made to change his surname because he was as shady as hell.
My eldest Aunty Evelyn was born to another woman, my Irish Nan was forced to look after her.
My second eldest Aunty Shelagh was born to another woman and my Irish Nan was forced to look after her.
My Dad Patrick was born to Irish Grandad and Irish Nan.
Irish Nan died during WWII so my Grandad woo'd an 18 year old Welsh girl in Caernarvon and bought her home to Stoke to look after 3 kids :eek: She had no idea.
She had my Uncle Anthony who did the History stuff.
Meanwhile they find out that Mrs Harvey gave birth to twin boys when my Dad was around 14 in 1949 :)
What a stud.
 
tres said:
I imagine there is a decent number of OCUKers who fall into this bracket.
I'm in my early 40s, about to tip into mid-40s. What sort of mid-life crisis did you have, and how did you deal with it?

I was once all about socialising, travelling, adventure. Now my favourite place is my shed, I'm considering buying a an enormous 'dooer-upper' house, I'm looking at shares in a private aeroplane, and I feel it is essential I start metal detecting. I think I'm giving my wife the ick.
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I was 41 1/2 when my first kid was born.





Just enough life experience to scrape through parenting and he’s almost two now.
 
Penfold101 said:
I was 41 1/2 when my first kid was born.





Just enough life experience to scrape through parenting and he’s almost two now.
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I turned 40 last year, and had kind of assumed I'd missed the boat and would never have kids. Last month, my missus found out she's pregnant and I am absolutely crapping myself about the prospect and responsibility of being a dad. And I'm not sure my aging knees are going to cope...
 
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I lost both my parents to cancer (my father when he was 60). Cancer tried to take a bite out of me but only got a nibble. I had a bad accident a few years ago which nearly killed me. These events changed my thinking a lot.

I've had a job every day of my life since I was 18. I started work on 24th August 1987 and despite several job changes and redundancy when I returned to work after my bad accident, I've been employed every day without any significant breaks. The only large break I had was three months gardening leave when I was made redundant but I couldn't really enjoy that leave due to the worry of supporting a family while facing redundancy and the small matter of still recovering from a broken leg and collapsed lung. So at 56 I'm tired and wondering what I can do to bring my retirement forward so I actually get to enjoy life before I die. I had planned to retire around 65 but I would like to bring that forward to 60 if possible. I appreciate my finances might not allow that.

I also feel a lot less guilty nowadays if I just want to sit and watch youtube instead of being productive and doing DIY or extra work. In my fifties I just want to enjoy the few healthy and useful years I have left.

For all you young-uns out there please watch this.

 
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You’re waiting until your 40s to have a midlife crisis? Lol, noobs!
 
Turned 39 a few weeks back. Have every intension of buying an Aston Martin before im 45. The only problem is, everything hurts getting up off the sofa these days, never mind a low car.

The strangest thing is that mentally i still feel like im in my 20's and certainly act like im in my 20's at times. However, when im out and pubs / Bars i honestly feel ancient. My lads just turned 16 and i have no idea where the time has gone, its absolutely frightening and it genuinely feels like a few years ago i was his age leaving school.

Travelling abroad is less appealing these days, and the Aston Martin may very well turn into a camper van.
 
Chrisc said:
Travelling abroad is less appealing these days, and the Aston Martin may very well turn into a camper van.
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That's me! I always wanted an Aston. But nowadays a campervan is more appealling. It's odd how we value different thigs as we get older.
 
Conscript said:
I turned 40 last year, and had kind of assumed I'd missed the boat and would never have kids. Last month, my missus found out she's pregnant and I am absolutely crapping myself about the prospect and responsibility of being a dad. And I'm not sure my aging knees are going to cope...
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You just take it one day at a time mate - when they go to sleep (!) at the end of the day you breathe a sigh of relief and feel a huge sense of satisfaction that you’ve kept them alive again.

It will completely change every aspect of your life, but doing it later like this gives you 40 years of experience to draw on and a lifetime of knowledge to pass on.

Good luck - have a look for the OCUK dad’s thread for more horror/inspiration! :D
 
Not sure if it's a mid life crisis. But I don't drink alcohol anymore not that I ever was a big drinker. But since having kids I've just put my focus on being fit and healthy for them. Took up a martial art in my 40s. Drive a powerful estate car. Had my second at 39 so all my mid life will be focussed on them. So I guess my children are my mid life crisis. Oh and going back to higher education.
 
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