Middle aged life

Terminal_Boy said:
Old age isn’t kind to your danglies and coming in from the cold busting for a wee sometimes a panicked search for your gentleman sausage which has huddled up with his neighbours for warmth.
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The trips to the Loo during the night are getting more frequent :(
 
Bassmansam said:
what happened to the couple that didn ‘t make it past 40?
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One had an undiagnosed brain cancer that killed him in his sleep one night. One started suffering seizures from a TBI years ago.....had a seizure while out running and fell in a ditch and drowned before anyone found her.

All pretty sad and happened in the space of a year. Funerals for young people suck. Hopefully no more of them.
 
mid_gen said:
One had an undiagnosed brain cancer that killed him in his sleep one night. One started suffering seizures from a TBI years ago.....had a seizure while out running and fell in a ditch and drowned before anyone found her.

All pretty sad and happened in the space of a year. Funerals for young people suck. Hopefully no more of them.
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That's awful mate.
 
tres said:
I imagine there is a decent number of OCUKers who fall into this bracket.
I'm in my early 40s, about to tip into mid-40s. What sort of mid-life crisis did you have, and how did you deal with it?

I was once all about socialising, travelling, adventure. Now my favourite place is my shed, I'm considering buying a an enormous 'dooer-upper' house, I'm looking at shares in a private aeroplane, and I feel it is essential I start metal detecting. I think I'm giving my wife the ick.
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You'll be happy to know I still go clubbing, but only 3-4 times a year, and only day parties :D
 
I don’t do things by half so I thought I’d just have a full length life crisis.

A handful of years left until 40 but plenty of time to make some more silly decisions between now and then.
 
When I was going through my mid life crisis I found it useful to practice self-reflection, work on my positive inner dialogue, and focus on making small but meaningful daily improvements in everything I did.

That's why I joined these forums, and every word I post is a sermon in itself, coming from a place of reasonableness and level headed rationality, and ultimately passing on my new, improved self to help others still going through their difficult journey.

Noobs.
 
It's a tough one for sure.
Getting enthusiasm to start a hobby is tough and difficult if you don't know anyone like-minded.

I'm early 40s and did play golf for a few years recently but stopped - a bit expensive for 1 day a week and winter write-offs.
I've thought about cars/motorbikes but can't be bothered to go out for a drive/ride for the sake of it.
Theres cycling but too much lycra.
Gaming I've been doing for 30yrs, play for an hr or two here or there and there but get bored.
Going to the pub you feel old and makes you miss your youth, and when you're married with kids can't chase birds (well 40+ has beens) lol.

At the point where nothing really interests me.

Gym just about keeps me sane.
 
I’m closer to 40 than mid-30’s at this stage. This thread has given me some great ideas.

….in reality any mid-life crisis of mine will probably just end up being something mundane like buying a brand new car for the first time, or when going out for meals, going completely off the rails and choosing to have a starter, main AND dessert :-D
 
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You 're only as old as the person you are feeling. Not a typo. :p

Getting older is getting wiser, you lose some things gain others. If I have learned one important thing it is do something you enjoy for work, as you spend so much time doing it.

AndrewNR said:
At the point where nothing really interests me.
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I seem to see lots of people say this, and not sure it if it is a case of done it all already for some people, or too scared to learn something new for others. A friend of mine took up painting 8-9 years ago when she turned 65, she was terrible and scared, now she teaches painting to ex-convicts and current teen youth who have 'issues'. I think the problem is there are some many things you can do you might not think of somethings that you may end up loving.
 
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I’m 59 this year. I’ve not had a mid life crisis as such, but I nearly died in 2018 and got divorced in 2019, but both of those things are just part of life and make you stronger. I’m healthier than then and i’ve been with a new partner for 5 years.

Both my parents are still alive, mum is 87,
dad 83 and both doing well if separated since I was 18, my father the youngest 83 year old you could meet. Both my grandmothers got to mid 90’s so 2018 was me trying to buck a trend I think.

I do what I want when I want as i’ve put myself in a place that allows me to do that but time really moves at pace as you get older so don’t put off stuff and make time!

Also, don’t aspire to things, they rarely give
you what you hope they will in the end and I say that as someone who has acquired some very nice things and realised it’s not worth the money most of the time.

Travel and time with family/friends is far more satisfying and makes me happiest.
 
Housey said:
I do what I want when I want as i’ve put myself in a place that allows me to do that but time really moves at pace as you get older so don’t put off stuff and make time!
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This.

Do the things you want to do with the important people in your life now because you never know how long you and/or will be around.
 
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