Life is really what we make of it and what experiences we've had. Everyone has led a different life, what is one man's rubbish is another man's treasure, as they say.
I'm in my 30s, spent the past decade+ working and doing bugger all else and the worst part is that I have naught to show for it (okay the only good thing is that I have my trusty steed/car that I never want to get rid of). Come next year I'll have been on a single holiday abroad (or just abroad at all) within the past decade. Still pay rent in a 1 bedroom flat by myself, less close friends now, than I had a few years ago. Times are not great. I remember half a lifetime ago, my cousin from Australia came by and told me not to waste my youth and to go out and see & enjoy the world. I did exactly the opposite of that. Met a lass on that one recent holiday (not in that way, just made a temporary friend) who looked and behaved like they were in their 20s (living in Asia, working remotely for an Aussie company and partying every week) and claimed to be much older, who told us "age is just a number".
And yet, I've been fortunate enough to get to experience things that many spend their lives chasing after (some still never believed me when I told them). These days, my limiting factor is either £££ or time, especially given the cost of living and such. The maths doesn't add up since it sounds like someone in my situation should be doing alright, people in my parents generation managed a whole lot more, with a whole lot less. I'm man enought to admit I made my fair share of mistakes over the years and unlike some lucky sods, I'm still living with the consequences of my own decisions to this very day.
I do feel aimless and without purpose, though at the moment I'm trying to buy a roof over my own head, so I can stop paying rent to a landlord, so that's keeping me occupied. It helps having something to keep us busy, a project or something. I've always found that helps, though if any of our projects involve stuff like computers, we're SOL (e.g. not being able to find decent priced hard drives for a server build project).
What I've learnt in my years, is that chasing the superficial and surrounding oneself with folks who care about those superficial things won't bring me or anyone else any joy. Sure we can buy that fancy car and live in that big house. But unless we have good friends and family to share it with, what's it all for?
So that's my advice folks, find a passion to keep that drive and get lost in. Exercise and eating healthy (which doesn't need as many sacrifices as we think), going on walks outside does the mind good and lets try our best to maintain connections with decent human beings. Even if times aren't great, we can still brighten our corner of the world as best we can.
