Thank you for summing up my feelings about everything. Treat everyone as an equal and don't be a ****.
I can honestly say that in every guild or group I've been in, where female members have been involved, they have been treated with the respect that they deserve as an equal. The sooner society reaches an egalitarian posture and stops pointing out how different people are and how they need special treatment, the better.
As an addendum, I run an (arty/creative) activity group that started life on the internet. It's pretty much 50/50 men and women. We have gays, asians, blacks and all sorts in our regular group (looks lke we will tick a box with trans next time too). Obviously the white people in the group constantly apologise for their privilege and show remorse for past oppression of our friends' ancestors.
Oh, hang on, that doesn't happen because we are all decent human beings and are, you know, intelligent people, friends and not social justice dickheads. Somehow we still get along. I don't know how that works.