Need serious help, I'm in trouble.....

MY only real advice would be to move out of the house regardless of what the chap may do. Go to your Gran or a friend and take a few days to sort yourself out.

Find another room to rent within travelling distance to work and begin thinking about looking for work in another area. It sounds as though you are stuck in a rut with little chance of ever improving your situation until you change something.

Take no notice of the GD "man up" nonsense, it is a horrible and frightening position you find yourself in and antagonising someone as unstable as this chap appears to be will not do you any good if you are not physically able to defend yourself, walk away. There is no shame in that whatsoever, and I expect most of those saying it would fill their pants just living in the same house as a drug addled, unpredictable and violent house-mate, let alone getting threatened by one. Don't go and 'offer him out' hoping he is bluffing, he may well not be and it will only make your situation worse. Real life is not the Karate Kid I'm afraid and unstable, unpredictable people are rarely balanced enough to be afraid anyway. Leave him alone and start moving anything of value out of the house as soon as you can.

Treat this as an opportunity to drag yourself out of the situation you are in. Remember that as soon as you are out of the sight of this fool he is likely to forget about you in short order, his self hate will focus on other things more immediate to his vicinity and if he is saying that he is going to get others to hassle you, it is because he is a bully who is afraid of the consequences of doing it himself. People who are genuinely hard don't talk about what they are going to do, they simply do it.

I don't know where you live, but as hard as it may be, changing your life situation seems like something you want and need to do. Use this jerk-off as the catalyst.

You can PM me if you want to vent or if I can help answer any questions, feel free.
Superb post :)
 
I'd seriously consider moving abroad if you've got no friends or family tying you down here in the UK. Cheaper living as well depending where you go. Sounds like to me you want to turn your life around and going abroad will give you the best chance to do this IMO :)
 
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Regardless of the situation with your neighbour you really don't sound happy with your situation anyway. You should seriously think about moving in with your relative in a new area if thats an option, save some money if you can and get a fresh start. It's got to be worth at least thinking about :).
 
I'm not happy at all tbh, even without that guy in the equation I hate living here atm, especially with the women next door to me with the kids, if I turn my PC off in the dead of the night I can actually hear her breathing while she sleeps, the partition is that thin, I'm starting to feel claustrophobic, I can't have anyone around now at night because it disturbs her baby, yet the baby disturbs me at all hours.

I'm going to have to grin and bear it though as I really want to have a bit of cash before I move, as soon as I have enough for a months rent and deposit I'm out for a fact.
 
i reckon the plan of saving up a bit and then G'ingTFO is a good one. In the meantime, you can think/look up where you want to be moving to. A large city would probably be the best option as there should be a wider variety and number of jobs available.

Can you play any instruments? Busking is actually a decent source of income if you're any good at it. I tried once, and made peanuts so I gave up, but I know a guy who does it regularly and averages about £15 to £20 an hour (near centre of Edinburgh, playing trumpet).

Alternatively, you could try a bit of entrepreneurship, find some other ways to make money. You evidently know a decent amount about PCs etc, are well spoken and a decent guy. Have you tried applying to somewhere like <COMMON PC CHAIN STORE EDITED OUT BECAUSE OF COMPETITOR RULE>? Or even OcUK? (although I realise that's a rather big move). Try and think of any skills, or qualities or knowledge you have which others might appreciate or pay for, then try and think of the best way to sell it to them.

Sorry if I'm being patronising, if you've already thought about all this, but I don't like thinking of people in these kind of crappy situations, regardles of whether I know you personally or not. Life has a way of ******** on people who have done sod all to deserve it, and seemingly rewards others for being ********.
 
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SheepBeast quickly take that competitor out of your post quickly before you get your collar felt by a mod!

seriously?? it's not like any of us haven't heard of them, and i wasn't suggesting he buy anything from them. i edited anyway, but still a stupid rule if it ignores context.
 
I'm moving out!

And I'm **** scared!, change doesn't come easy for me.

Been saving what little money I've had these past few weeks and have managed to scrape together enough for a deposit on a flat, my mum is going to pay the rest to help get me started, I'm staying in the same town for now, I'm not quite ready to leave Newquay yet, I think I need more money and a bit more planning before I do that but that is definitely still part of my long term plan, I just need to get out of this room and live a normal life for a bit first with some basic amenities, I never had a kitchen before, washing machine, my own shower etc, at the ripe old age of 34 this will be a whole new experience for me.

The one downer is that that it's not exactly cheap, well it is I suppose, but not for my wage it isn't, I will be getting help via housing and tax benefits etc otherwise this wouldn't be possible, not sure how people will feel about that but it's either that or I'm end up as a full blown alcoholic staying here in this room, this place has really took a chunk out of me.

Anyway thanks again for your help and support, even though I'll be glad to see the back of this place I'm pretty nervous about moving, I hope things will turn out alright, this is really scary :o
 
I'm moving out!

And I'm **** scared!, change doesn't come easy for me.

Been saving what little money I've had these past few weeks and have managed to scrape together enough for a deposit on a flat, my mum is going to pay the rest to help get me started, I'm staying in the same town for now, I'm not quite ready to leave Newquay yet, I think I need more money and a bit more planning before I do that but that is definitely still part of my long term plan, I just need to get out of this room and live a normal life for a bit first with some basic amenities, I never had a kitchen before, washing machine, my own shower etc, at the ripe old age of 34 this will be a whole new experience for me.

The one downer is that that it's not exactly cheap, well it is I suppose, but not for my wage it isn't, I will be getting help via housing and tax benefits etc otherwise this wouldn't be possible, not sure how people will feel about that but it's either that or I'm end up as a full blown alcoholic staying here in this room, this place has really took a chunk out of me.

Anyway thanks again for your help and support, even though I'll be glad to see the back of this place I'm pretty nervous about moving, I hope things will turn out alright, this is really scary :o

It will be good for you, and as for the housing allowance, you are entitled to it, pay your taxes, so use it. I've got nothing against it.
 
This is exactly what housing benefits should be used for, someone who has a job but struggling and is trying to get a better life for themselves. Not just handed out to the unemployed who have no intention of working. Good luck to you.
 
Glad to see things are looking up mate! The move should do you a world of good and hopefully just the start of changing your life around and been happy with how you are!

Fingers crossed it keeps on the up!
 
I'm moving out!

And I'm **** scared!, change doesn't come easy for me.

Been saving what little money I've had these past few weeks and have managed to scrape together enough for a deposit on a flat, my mum is going to pay the rest to help get me started, I'm staying in the same town for now, I'm not quite ready to leave Newquay yet, I think I need more money and a bit more planning before I do that but that is definitely still part of my long term plan, I just need to get out of this room and live a normal life for a bit first with some basic amenities, I never had a kitchen before, washing machine, my own shower etc, at the ripe old age of 34 this will be a whole new experience for me.

The one downer is that that it's not exactly cheap, well it is I suppose, but not for my wage it isn't, I will be getting help via housing and tax benefits etc otherwise this wouldn't be possible, not sure how people will feel about that but it's either that or I'm end up as a full blown alcoholic staying here in this room, this place has really took a chunk out of me.

Anyway thanks again for your help and support, even though I'll be glad to see the back of this place I'm pretty nervous about moving, I hope things will turn out alright, this is really scary :o

Good for you chap, I remember reading this originally I can't remember if I posted something helpful or not; but I did feel for you.

Don't worry about feeling a little nervous! Sometimes it's healthy to get out of your comfort zone.

I'm sure everything is going to turn out super for you, be strong, smile and know that this change will make you happier in life. :)
 
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