Need serious help, I'm in trouble.....

Well done, seriously, keep us updated on this, your new place will feel like paradise in comparison! Are you happy?
 
Cant remember if I posted before or not but read this thread and was really happy for you (well was at the end anyway :p). It's threads like this that make OcUK truly great, be sure to keep us updated :). Can see why your nervous about moving, when you get used to something it can be difficult to change. Good luck :)
 
Well you come across as being pretty intelligent from how you write. You must have a mental block toward education. Oh and this would make a good movie script.
 
jamenn said:
This is exactly what housing benefits should be used for, someone who has a job but struggling and is trying to get a better life for themselves. Not just handed out to the unemployed who have no intention of working. Good luck to you.
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Exactly what I thought. Best of luck with the move!
 
I really feel sorry for the OP - hope things improve for you buddy.

It reminds me of a program I watched the other week on iPlayer called 'Men of Arlington'. Arlington house is full of drunkards and druggies and they all live in little square boxes. It really was an eye opener.

Good luck!
 
This sounds horiffic, but I was glad to read you are getting out of there. It is clearly for the best and you will NOT regret it. I feel for you fella I really do. I'm not a million miles from Newquay so if you need a hand moving, knocking out the druggy or job hunting/CV then let me know.

Best of luck, just make sure you move and go for it. Don't look back and leave your bad times in that room where they belong.
 
Feel for you mate and glad you got out in one peace. I was in a very similar situation quite a few years ago. Thankfully I had abit of luck/hard work and now have a 3 bedroom house/mortgage, girlfriend of 7 years and little boy of 3 years old :D

Best advice I can give you is Be Yourself!!
 
The best of luck to you mate, and you'll be pleased and relieved to know that you've got a forum full of 'friends' here that will help to guide you in your experiences or any problems you may encounter, so you are never really alone :)
 
Move away & get a fresh start.

If you live near people who have bullied/intimidated you & still fear them (when you are 34) it's not going to just get better.

You need to move away from the destructive environment to build yourself up in new place, after some time starting afresh you will find you will be able to handle this kind of situation much easier.

The main thing you need is time away from it, if you can find a new job then there is no reason to stay where you are.

You should feel safe & comfortable at home, not having this is going to cause a major strain on your mental health - even if you are not away of it.
 
Good for you. :) Taking yourself out of your comfort zone is how you build confidence, so it may be scary at first, but this time next year you'll look back and wonder how you lived like that for so long.
 
I've just seen this thread and I am very happy to see that things are starting to look up for you and that you are finally moving out of that, what can only be described as a, horrible house that could never be a home. Make sure you keep us all updated from time to time, most of us will want to hear back from you. Good luck with the future, you've been at rock bottom so things will hopefully continue to get better now that you are on the up :)
 
lowrider007 said:
I'm moving out!

And I'm **** scared!, change doesn't come easy for me.

Been saving what little money I've had these past few weeks and have managed to scrape together enough for a deposit on a flat, my mum is going to pay the rest to help get me started, I'm staying in the same town for now, I'm not quite ready to leave Newquay yet, I think I need more money and a bit more planning before I do that but that is definitely still part of my long term plan, I just need to get out of this room and live a normal life for a bit first with some basic amenities, I never had a kitchen before, washing machine, my own shower etc, at the ripe old age of 34 this will be a whole new experience for me.

The one downer is that that it's not exactly cheap, well it is I suppose, but not for my wage it isn't, I will be getting help via housing and tax benefits etc otherwise this wouldn't be possible, not sure how people will feel about that but it's either that or I'm end up as a full blown alcoholic staying here in this room, this place has really took a chunk out of me.

Anyway thanks again for your help and support, even though I'll be glad to see the back of this place I'm pretty nervous about moving, I hope things will turn out alright, this is really scary :o
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Good for you!
Change is scary before you actually commit to it, but after you will find that it's liberating and could feel like a holiday. It could possibly even change your outlook on life and make you more ballsy to make even more changes.

My wife is like you, hates change (of any sort) with a passion, so I end up just bullying her into changes, for which she's always been grateful for afterwards.
 
I'm glad things are on the up for you lowrider. It's the only choice you had, you need to get out of there.

This place is here for support or a chat whenever needed, you know you're in good hands.
 
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