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Phate

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Hi all,

my mums dad passed away on the 23rd of December,

his funeral is on the 5th of January which I will be attending.

Now my immediate family and my mums side of the family really REALLY don't get on at all, we barely see each other and are always arguing etc.

Until a week or so when I saw him in the hospice it had been the first time I had seen him for about 7 years.

And even when I was a nipper I barely saw him.

Now for the funeral mums given me a piece of card to write a sentence or to on.

Now I haven't a clue what to write.

I don't want to put

"You will always be missed" because everyone is going to write that and it will feel abit corny to me.

So can anyone give a few nice words that can go on his card please.

Many Thanks.

Phate :)
 
Nobody can tell you what to write at all.

Personally I think you should write a personal sentence. Something that would be something you two shared possibly. For example if you both went fishing together write something like:

I'll never forget our time together fishing, whilst I took it for granted its not until now that I realised how much it meant to me and how much I enjoyed your company. Rest in Peace.
 
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Oblivious said:
Nobody can tell you what to write at all.

Personally you should write is as a personal sentence. Something that would be something you two shared possibly
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Ok I didn't quite explain myself properly.

I didn't have a single thing to do with the bloke, he was a horrible man that only ever wanted to know our family when he wanted something.

I was just wondering if anyone had any other generic words rather than "You will always be missed" etc.
 
I agree with that. :)

You obviously don't want something other people will say hence what you said in your first post. So something that is personal to the both of you seems to be the right way to go. But by the sounds of things you may not have anything of that sort to say in which case I wouldn't know what to suggest.

Just a little bit of input there. :)

After seeing your second post.. It renders this useless...
 
Phate said:
Ok I didn't quite explain myself properly.

I didn't have a single thing to do with the bloke, he was a horrible man that only ever wanted to know our family when he wanted something.

I was just wondering if anyone had any other generic words rather than "You will always be missed" etc.
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In that case does it really matter if you write a special reply? Hes obviously not special to you, so simply write;

'Rest in Peace' <insert poem/saying here.>
 
Oblivious said:
In that case does it really matter if you write a special reply? Hes obviously not special to you, so simply write;

'Rest in Peace' <insert poem/saying here.>
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Doesn't matter to me. Matters to my mum though.

Meh, i thought there could be something a little less generic.

I'll just write.

"You will always be missed"

Thanks anyway though guys :)
 
Mohinder said:
If you didn't like him, just don't write anything.
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I had very little, if any respect for the man. But it's not exactly going to be nice to the rest of the family if I do that is it?
 
Phate said:
Doesn't matter to me. Matters to my mum though.

Meh, i thought there could be something a little less generic.

I'll just write.

"You will always be missed"

Thanks anyway though guys :)
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Bit late I know.

But....

"Rest peacfully, I know you'll be shining down from heaven"
 
RIP is boring, unsentimental and doesn’t really say anything. This is his mums father, not a third cousin twice removed. Even if you didn’t get along, without him you wouldn’t even exist.

I would write

‘We may have had our differences, I never had the chance to truly know you, but somehow we were united. I trust we can all find comfort in that. Rest In Peace‘
 
i would write nothing at all.

if you are doing it to please you mum, then why would she be pleased that you are writing something that you do not mean or you believe.
 
Morba said:
i would write nothing at all.

if you are doing it to please you mum, then why would she be pleased that you are writing something that you do not mean or you believe.
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How about out of damn respect?
 
still nothing. i would respect my mother more than to just lie. there are close people in my family who i would rather write nothing.

just the way it is really.
if it was a case of just not knowing the bloke, or much about him, then i would write something, but this doesnt seem to be one of those cases
 
Morba said:
still nothing. i would respect my mother more than to just lie. there are close people in my family who i would rather write nothing.

just the way it is really.
if it was a case of just not knowing the bloke, or much about him, then i would write something, but this doesnt seem to be one of those cases
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Id love to read your obituary.

(Not meant as a death threat! Im just playing with irony on your lack of creative emotive expression through words :p)
 
Locrian said:
Id love to read your obituary.

(Not meant as a death threat! Im just playing with irony on your lack of creative emotive expression through words :p)
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why be creative with emotive words though, it would be a disrespect to my mother, who tbh being alive, i would rather be more respectful to.
 
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