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fatbatman said:
Can you share what was "better" and more "concise"?

I'd really like to know just one piece of info that is not the usual advice. Change my mind.
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Was 13 years ago so not really that clear to be honest, main things I remember where shush pat and a tiny bit of controlled crying.

We were struggling big time, had barely any sleep for 5 months, boy was a **** with sleeping, wasn't having any of it at all. :) We had all the usual advice and help from various sources but we couldn't seem to crack it, so we paid a few hundred quid for some consultations and got a plan of action. Within a week or two boy was sleeping through and everyone was happier. Ended up being worth it for us.

Either way if people are struggling to get the routine down and trying all sorts of random advice from everyone it can help to have a more formal plan of action. :)

Not all kids are the same, some are scroats and resist everything. :cry:
 
Yeah I have have 2. Our first was perfect. Second is 18 months and just started sleeping through every night about a month ago. All the info is available on the internet and you should be able to work out what's best with that info imo. Sleep consultant s are stealing a living lol.
 
Sure that's fine.

I asked you to provide some actual advice that wasn't the "norm" or easily found on the internet to help my understanding. Sorry but you didn't give me anything so my mind is unchanged.
 
Best advice for baby/toddler sleeping..

Just sleep whenever they do and stop trying force a pattern.

No two children are the same so no "professional" advice will ever be 100% accurate..
 
keenan said:
Best advice for baby/toddler sleeping..

Just sleep whenever they do and stop trying force a pattern.

No two children are the same so no "professional" advice will ever be 100% accurate..
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Agree with this. Do what works for you and your child.
Our 7 month old girl goes to sleep really well at about 8pm.
3+ year old still needs to fall asleep with us before i take him to his bed, but once there sleeps until about 5am.
 
robj20 said:
Agree with this. Do what works for you and your child.
Our 7 month old girl goes to sleep really well at about 8pm.
3+ year old still needs to fall asleep with us before i take him to his bed, but once there sleeps until about 5am.
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Absolutely, children are children! It's much easier to adjust your own pattern than try to change theirs.

I mean, within limits of course.. this is not applicable to teenagers! :p
 
fatbatman said:
Sure that's fine.

I asked you to provide some actual advice that wasn't the "norm" or easily found on the internet to help my understanding. Sorry but you didn't give me anything so my mind is unchanged.
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Not sure anyone claimed the advice was something that isn't the norm or freely available. Its mainly help with applying the advice correctly with a concise plan.

You choose to wilfully ignore the explanation so thats up to you. :)
 
keenan said:
If you work, who is looking after the baby while you're away from home? :cry:
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My point is, say I work, then I come home and the baby is awake all night, then what? Your sleep-when-baby-sleeps advice is poop ;)... Asking a mother to sleep in the day when baby is asleep is silly too, it barely happens. They're usually getting stuff done that they can't usually get done whilst baby is asleep.
 
RoboCod said:
My point is, say I work, then I come home and the baby is awake all night, then what? Your sleep-when-baby-sleeps advice is poop ;)... Asking a mother to sleep in the day when baby is asleep is silly too, it barely happens. They're usually getting stuff done that they can't usually get done whilst baby is asleep.
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Your opinion, I get it.. which is flawed, but nobody's perfect! :p

How about you get home in the region of 5 or 6pm and spend some time with your child while your partner gets some much needed sleep?

She wakes up at 11pm or there abouts and takes over while you get your rest before tackling the new day tomorrow..

Chances are you'll get a good night's sleep and she and the baby should survive without anyone pulling their hair out!
 
RoboCod said:
My point is, say I work, then I come home and the baby is awake all night, then what? Your sleep-when-baby-sleeps advice is poop ;)... Asking a mother to sleep in the day when baby is asleep is silly too, it barely happens. They're usually getting stuff done that they can't usually get done whilst baby is asleep.
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Sleep when the baby sleeps, do the laundry when the baby does the laundry, cook your dinner when the baby cooks dinner. Come on man it's easy enough
 
keenan said:
Best advice for baby/toddler sleeping..

Just sleep whenever they do and stop trying force a pattern.

No two children are the same so no "professional" advice will ever be 100% accurate..
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Lol

Best advice is to pay a sleep consultant and stop bumbling along when you don't need to.
 
Vidar said:
I actually wouldn't mind having another, and we'd been trying but it's just not happening atm. I've got very low testosterone, like 0.3 was the last result when I think the average for a guy my age (38) is like 20. That and with lots of stress surrounding my daughter and her mother etc we've gotten nowhere so just put it on the back burner while we sort stuff out.
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Yeah stress is a bugger, our lass is struggling with that now she is here and it's hard to wind her down.

Mental health and being in a good place is key.
 
Well, we've gone and done it again. Expecting little Reggie V2. We must've forgotten the brutal first few months of the first one.

If all goes well, we'll welcome him/her early next year. I really don't know what the hell I'm thinking doing this at age 41 but it is what it is. I still have a lot of energy to dash after our little one so perhaps another one will sort me out.

With the sleep business discussed above. We've been and are incredibly fortunate. Our little one goes down at 7.30pm and sleeps through to 7am(ish) every morning. Occasionally she'll wake earlier but tends to happily lie in her cot chatting away to herself. The key for us is to time her afternoon naps so she's tired when it's bed time but not over tired and then proceed to fight sleep with every fiber in her being.
 
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