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oldestgregg said:
Thank you Devrij, I know everyone thinks that their child is the cutest but I think mine actually is! :D:p:p

Thank you guys. Shes just gone back to sleep so Im going to try and grab a bit sleep but shes just been laid on my legs while I play Horizon zero dawn anyways so I cant really complain about it. Was just saying to the wife that I should be a bit miffed about getting up at daft o clock to change her but when I see her little face I just melt. I was never a mans man but now I really am soft as muck!

I have to say though she is a really windy baby. Shes breast feeding and does not poo much but she farts all the time and they STINK! Tried a little infacol last night and its eased her a little but shes also got a little blocked nose so she gulps the milk down so hard she cant get her breath after wards which,in turn,is giving her more wind when shes gasping for air. Its all a massive learning curve but so so enjoyable.

I'm over the moon this thread is here as its nice to vent/talk to other dads about baby stuff.
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Ours struggled with gas and it got really bad to the point where she would not be comfortable at all and just had to be constantly comforted. Thankfully its now cleared up and she is doing much better! I would take it easy with the infacol as a lot of the midwives here did not recommend giving it so soon and some said flat out they dont need it. If your breastfeeding then making sure she latches on properly and takes a full feed is really important, we noticed a big change after getting advice and having someone pop round and see if everything is ok!
 
skaif said:
Ours struggled with gas and it got really bad to the point where she would not be comfortable at all and just had to be constantly comforted. Thankfully its now cleared up and she is doing much better! I would take it easy with the infacol as a lot of the midwives here did not recommend giving it so soon and some said flat out they dont need it. If your breastfeeding then making sure she latches on properly and takes a full feed is really important, we noticed a big change after getting advice and having someone pop round and see if everything is ok!
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Yeah,we only gave her Infacol twice as we have just accepted she is a windy baby. She has started having more from the breast in one go now where as before she was having it little and often. Today was her due date and she has already been here two weeks now so we not concerned.
 
DanTheMan said:
I think it's time for me to join in this thread. Me and the Mrs are sat here impatiently waiting as she is 4 days overdue with our first child :D.

I'm now at the stage where I'm worrying about everything, mainly keeping a child alive and safe. I don't know if this feeling will ever leave now. I really can't wait to meet her.

We haven't really bought many baby gadgets as the sheer amount of people trying to give us stuff when their own kids are only 6 months old has made us realise they can't really be that useful.
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no it never does my babies are 25 and 26 ...
 
what ever happened to giving the baby gripe water or just plain cooled boiled water ?? sit them on your shoulder and rub there backs till they a) burp or b) make a little mess ..

i'm hoping mine move out before there 30 ..
 
flea-rider said:
what ever happened to giving the baby gripe water or just plain cooled boiled water ?? sit them on your shoulder and rub there backs till they a) burp or b) make a little mess ..

i'm hoping mine move out before there 30 ..
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This.

Exactly what we have done and although the first few months were tough, she is completely fine now.

I will probs be at the stage where I want her out but right now I am missing her as she has just left with the Mrs for a week at her mums.

Whilst I am going to enjoy my freedom and time off, I know it can't go quick enough!
 
Just wanted to drop by to recommend an app. It's called LifeCake and has been a very easy way for me to share photos with people, so not having to send them individually. It also can categorise your photos to what age she was when they was taken. Worth taking a look if you'd like a backup and/or to share with family.
 
Little lad is 13 months and still does not sleep through last 48hrs have been horrible up a total of 18 times needing resettling, he usual just gets up once which me and the Mrs can deal with but we're both just wanting least 1 night he sleeps through ! #rantover
 
oldestgregg said:
Never realised this thread was a thing until just now.

As a father of a 2 week old little girl I will be watching this thread like a hawk now! It's the best feeling in the world and I loved her the second I laid eyes on her. She has her days and nights mixed up though so she sleeps all day but we have been making it as light as possible during the day and super dark and quiet at night. It's all-consuming and overwhelming but shes amazing and the wife and I have never felt closer. We tried for years and we were just about to go private after a few failed rounds of IVF on the NHS when she came along. Sorry to blabber on but I cant stop talking or thinking about her at the moment. Here's a picture because I'm one of *those dads!
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Ah bless :D That wee face. Congrats. "New Dad Tip" for you though...do your normal thing, don't make the house quiet as anything or you'll find that later on, the slightest creak will wake her. I'm not saying do the hoovering beside her but don't be tip-toeing around her. Let her get used to world sounds. She will sleep better later and you'll not be on egg shells when she is in bed. You'll be surprised what they can sleep through. I know this goes against all you think to do but I'm right.
 
Mark1989 said:
Little lad is 13 months and still does not sleep through last 48hrs have been horrible up a total of 18 times needing resettling, he usual just gets up once which me and the Mrs can deal with but we're both just wanting least 1 night he sleeps through ! #rantover
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He probably has some teeth coming through :) If he's dribbling like a leaky tap and bright red cheeks and really smelly nappies, it's probably his teeth and Calpol will help there :)
 
subbytna said:
Ah bless :D That wee face. Congrats. "New Dad Tip" for you though...do your normal thing, don't make the house quiet as anything or you'll find that later on, the slightest creak will wake her. I'm not saying do the hoovering beside her but don't be tip-toeing around her. Let her get used to world sounds. She will sleep better later and you'll not be on egg shells when she is in bed. You'll be surprised what they can sleep through. I know this goes against all you think to do but I'm right.
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This. We sometimes purposely mad ea little extra noise or did cleaning once he was napping. Got used to it right away.
 
I guess most of the dads in here are new or nearly new to the tasks of raising a child.

However, my eldest daughter is 15 and I have a bit of a dilemma. She has had a steady boyfriend for getting on for a year or so. Nice lad, quiet, friendly and really good with my youngest daughter of 4 who won't leave him alone. :)

Anyway, they spend a lot of time together, mostly sat side by side on their phones - as is the wont of kids their age.

My daughter has a key of her own so she can pretty much come and go. They will sometimes be alone in the house. They will also spend time in my daughters bedroom although the youngest is almost always up there too and acts as an excellent deterrent from any shenanigans.

Over dinner the other night, my GF said she was suprised how relaxed I am about the situation. She would not allow the lad to be at my house without an adult present and would not have them going up to the bedroom and even went on to say that she saw it as being my fault if my eldest ended up getting up the stick as I'm allowing them to spend time without a chaperone.

Now to me, if they are going to do things together then whether I'm there or at my house, it's going to happen. We've had "the talk" and my eldest isn't silly and having had to help bring up her sister, she knows what an absolute ball-ache a nipper can be. The family on her mothers side are for want of a better term, a bit low-rent and will happily pop the buggers out willy nilly for "them" or "they" to pay for - it's just how they are. I do have a mild worry that she sees that as acceptable but she's been brought up differently to them and hopefully has a different mind set. She's almost a carbon copy of me in looks and manner and I've never been one for kids and families so hopefully that has rubbed off a bit.

My mother on the other hand takes a similar stance to me. She has some form on the subject has had my brother at 19 and was kicked out the family home. This was 1966 mind you. My mothers' opinion is that if they are getting up to things then consider putting eldest on the pill. She's taking a practical stance on the issue whereas my GF would be horrified at the thought.

It's a tricky one. To me, if I lay the law down then it might make the whole sex issue a "thing" which in a round about way drives them to it - almost like putting them under pressure to defy me and doing something secretive. Yet, on the other hand, am I enabling them to do as they please.

Thoughts?

TL : DR - 15 year old daughter might be having sex with boyfriend and my girlfriend thinks it would be my fault if daughter gets pregnant as I'm too lax with them, discuss.
 
I'm not a dad but your stance seems totally sensible to me. If you start putting in hard barriers and saying no then the automatic reaction of anyone but especially a teenager is "Well I'm a grown up and he can't tell me what to do!"

If they really want to they're going to do it where ever they get the chance, building tension around it and making it an issue is certainly not going to stop that but it will probably make her much less likely to come to you if there is an issue.
 
EddScott said:
I guess most of the dads in here are new or nearly new to the tasks of raising a child.


TL : DR - 15 year old daughter might be having sex with boyfriend and my girlfriend thinks it would be my fault if daughter gets pregnant as I'm too lax with them, discuss.
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My daughter is 15 and she is on the pill. You can't stop them so might as well prevent pregnancy happening. Also medical reasons for the pill too due to her periods. She started puberty when she was 9 so is very mature for her age mentally and physically. Just get her on the pill but make sure she knows it's not a get out of jail free card for going like rabbits!
 
I agree with your stance EddScott, teach safe sex and allow them to make their own decisions. If they have been GF / BF for a year, it's hardly just a one night stand.

Teach safe sex, make sure they know where to get condoms.

Many many teenagers (as I did myself) have sex at that age, supporting them is the best thing you can do.

[Edit] The only exception is if there is a major age difference between them. If they are in the same school year, bang on :)
 
ci_newman said:
bang on :)
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Hopefully not :)

The lad is in the year above which did raise an eyebrow at first but having spent some time with him, I don't dislike him.

I felt what I was doing was right. We've had talks about different things but we do so in a manner when she or I isn't put on the spot.

I'm not hugely keen on her having the pill, only because it's taking a drug which she will have to do so for years and it's affect on her. On the other hand she's getting headaches and feels rough when on so maybe the pill might calm that down.

I think I was more annoyed that my GF opined that it would be my fault if my daughter became pregnant because I wasn't strict enough on her.
 
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