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This is all in my future I'm sure, but like the others I agree with your stance. As long as you have a chat with her and make sure she understands that she can say no and insist on him wearing a condom every time (and the whole "just the tip" thing should be a no go) then you have at least shown mutual respect and trust and should hope to see that returned. Chances are they've been at it for the last year anyway :p
 
EddScott said:
Hopefully not :)

The lad is in the year above which did raise an eyebrow at first but having spent some time with him, I don't dislike him.

I felt what I was doing was right. We've had talks about different things but we do so in a manner when she or I isn't put on the spot.

I'm not hugely keen on her having the pill, only because it's taking a drug which she will have to do so for years and it's affect on her. On the other hand she's getting headaches and feels rough when on so maybe the pill might calm that down.

I think I was more annoyed that my GF opined that it would be my fault if my daughter became pregnant because I wasn't strict enough on her.
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I guess the alternative to the pill is condoms.

Sensible 30 year olds (:p) sometimes won't use a condom in the heat of the moment let alone horny 15 year olds.
 
If she's 15 and mature for her age, she'll be able to make the correct decision regarding contraception.

You've indicated she's well educated(although not necessarily experienced)in the subject of sexual relationships and is aware of potential consequences/hazards that may occur if the correct steps aren't taken to prevent them. By the sounds of things, she'd put a stop to any "activity" if she knew it carried a potential risk or if she wasn't "ready" for such a commitment.

One thing that hasn't been mentioned here is the idea of sex being part of a trusting and respectful relationship between 2 people. You've indicated that the lad is friendly enough, seems like a nice lad and you don't dislike him. You've also suggested that they've been going out for quite a while now, which would suggest that (for teenagers at least) it's a fairly serious relationship. I'd probably want to have a further conversation with her discussing this aspect and gauge her understanding of it.

As a Secondary school teacher, I don't see many girls (where I am at least) getting pregnant. What we do have a lot of issues with though, is boys having their wicked way and sharing details/pictures/rumours over social networks etc.

All this is probably a lot easier for me to say as i don't become a father until June. :)

In short, 15 year old girls are pretty switched on about pregnancy and how to stop it. They're much less well-equipped in understanding how teenage boy's brains work, how vile they can be and also the social/emotional impact a negative sexual relationship can have on them.
 
subbytna said:
Ah bless :D That wee face. Congrats. "New Dad Tip" for you though...do your normal thing, don't make the house quiet as anything or you'll find that later on, the slightest creak will wake her. I'm not saying do the hoovering beside her but don't be tip-toeing around her. Let her get used to world sounds. She will sleep better later and you'll not be on egg shells when she is in bed. You'll be surprised what they can sleep through. I know this goes against all you think to do but I'm right.
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Thank you. Thats exactly what we have been doing TBH. We finding our stride now and also find we dont need to worry about everything.
 
ci_newman said:
He probably has some teeth coming through :) If he's dribbling like a leaky tap and bright red cheeks and really smelly nappies, it's probably his teeth and Calpol will help there :)
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Yeah we wondered that too he did same last night the Mrs gave up and slept in his room, calpol didn't calm him down either :(
 
Mark1989 said:
Thanks will get some and give it ago
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You put your finger over the top of the bottle and tilt so your finger gets some on it, then you have to be quick (doesn't taste nice) put your finger on his gums and rub it in (it's a runny liquid and not a gel/cream) His tongue will probably go a bit numb too but eventually he won't mind the numbness, just the taste they don't like. Can't blame them it tastes horrible but works a charm :) Don't bother with putting it on buds or tissue or whatever, just use your finger so you can feel the gum when putting it on :)
 
Thanks for extra tips, just hope it is his teeth prior to this week he has mostly slept okay with odd bad night but on average would say woke up twice. When we go In now he is stood up just banging on his cot and demon noises commence
 
bloodiedathame said:
My wife desperately wants a third child, I really REALLY don't. Would getting the snip in secret be naughty? :D
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I don't think you can without consent from your spouse - seriously.

We've just had our second and my missus had a horrendous pregnancy, particularly after we lost a daughter 18 months ago which was just dreadful and is suffering from postnatal depression, not as bad as the after the first two pregnancies, but it really is horrible to see the love of your life changing into someone else and that person you married struggling to get back to the surface.

After losing our daughter I had resigned myself that we would have one child but she wanted another and it took 3 years and a lot of intervention to get the son we have. I love him to bits but honestly having two is way harder than I imagined, particularly with one having respiratory issues which makes them susceptible to every cough and cold going.

THE last thing I want in the world now is another child but I was amazed when I found out that you had to get spouse to sign off on the snip! To be honest she's not wanting more so I'll probably approach it again while in that mindset but she wasn't keen on me going to such extremes but if she was to get pregnant again I honestly think I'd have a breakdown.
 
boxman2000 said:
I think if you're married, then yes. My missus used to work as a medical secretary - her GP specialised in vasectomies and this has been the case for married men for at least the last two decades.
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If that's the case then I think that's disgusting.

Does a woman need her husbands approval to go on the pill? To have an abortion? Or to have her tubes tied?

Double standard.

Typical of modern society.
 
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