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subbytna said:
I cant stress the need for couples to have some couple time when a baby is young. You can find your relationship drifting if you don't work at it. Make sure you take care of your wives/girlfriends and make them feel special too.
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You're telling me!

Without wanting to turn this into a relationship thread, haha... my ex's sister and Dad lived next door with 4 kids in their house, 3 kids in our house (1 of which was mine). I was bottom of the pile. Whenever I suggested we had some 'us' time, I'd get shot down. I'd try and suggest that on the weekend her 2 went to their Dads, my son went to my Mums and we went out... she always replied with "when the kids were older".

What do you know... tonight, she's palmed her 2 off on her sister, I have my son with me (I've had him all week) and she's out on the **** with her mates. Laughable really.

Oh well, I now have quality one-to-one time with my 18 month old who is coming on leaps and bounds. He's such a character and we have such a great bond. At least as the break-up was on her terms (even though I was close myself), she can't punish me by stopping access.

I'm not bitter by any means, I just find it such a shame she wasn't willing to commit time to our relationship.
 
Up tonight with my 2 years old, he's caught hand foot and mouth so a bit of a temp and feeling rough. Good old calpol, a bit of milk and a Thomas book sorted him out thankfully!
 
Soon to be first time dad here, just had a mild panic as the other half has had a stinking cold and throat infection for the last week. Not felt baby kick as much and now at the maternity ward having everything monitored. I swear the little one is going to put me in an early grave.
Good news now though as everything seems to be ok!
 
partycan said:
Soon to be first time dad here, just had a mild panic as the other half has had a stinking cold and throat infection for the last week. Not felt baby kick as much and now at the maternity ward having everything monitored. I swear the little one is going to put me in an early grave.
Good news now though as everything seems to be ok!
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Honestly, it'll go against your every grain of being, but as long as (Rule #1) baby is warm, fed and cuddled, it'll be fine. They are resilient little buggers. Mum and dad will worry more than baby will. You'll think you're not doing enough or worry if baby is ok, if rule 1 is followed, baby will be fine.

Make sure mum is reassured as she'll be hormonal as **** and will be weepy too. Nothing you've done wrong, just hormones resetting.
 
partycan said:
Soon to be first time dad here, just had a mild panic as the other half has had a stinking cold and throat infection for the last week. Not felt baby kick as much and now at the maternity ward having everything monitored. I swear the little one is going to put me in an early grave.
Good news now though as everything seems to be ok!
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You'll be grand, but we had a similar situation where regular kicks stopped for nearly 2 days so off we went to get checked out. Everything was fine of course, but you may as well pay it safe for your own peace of mind so you aren't worrying about it for days.

And yeah, the worrying doesn't really stop in the first year at least (as far as I've gotten),but it does lessen when you start to grasp that they are fairly tough. I think it got easier when I realized that my daughter will often make a bigger deal out of a little fall on her butt just to get a cuddle from her mum. My forehead is getting bigger by the day

The first time they face plant into the floor when learning to walk is pretty brutal though.
 
partycan said:
Soon to be first time dad here, just had a mild panic as the other half has had a stinking cold and throat infection for the last week. Not felt baby kick as much and now at the maternity ward having everything monitored. I swear the little one is going to put me in an early grave.
Good news now though as everything seems to be ok!
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To echo everyone else here, trust mums instincts. If she wants to get checked up due to baby not moving etc, get it done. We were always asked if the mrs had drank a cold glass of water which should wake baby up. If she still feels uneasy get on the phone to midwife or dial 111. We had a minor scare and they booked us into an emergency GP within the hour.
 
My little boy has just had his second round of jabs. He's a bit snotty and kept his mother up last night, but he's not bad considering now poorly he was after the first lot.

I have a trapped nerve atm which has rendered me useless as leaning only the slightest bit forward is agonising.
 
godinman said:
Up tonight with my 2 years old, he's caught hand foot and mouth so a bit of a temp and feeling rough. Good old calpol, a bit of milk and a Thomas book sorted him out thankfully!
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And...I've caught hand, foot and mouth. Well that's great, it's supposed to be really difficult to catch as an adult and I was careful too. Bleh, that's work ****** for a few days!

The joys of kids, at least he's feeling better!
 
godinman said:
And...I've caught hand, foot and mouth. Well that's great, it's supposed to be really difficult to catch as an adult and I was careful too. Bleh, that's work ****** for a few days!

The joys of kids, at least he's feeling better!
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I think it's just that season. Mine has recovered from the vomiting, the gloopy eyes and runny nose, but is now dealing with a nasty cough that is keeping us all up every night. On the plus side, her voice is going a bit from all the coughing which makes her sound like Donald Duck
 
My little one has started past week sleeping through however feel for him seems he must be having nightmares as he does make the odd upset noise but settles himself. I myself can have odd night terror so I hope it's not something he would suffer from, we put him to bed at 19:00 He now gets up at 5am bang on mostly, It used to be 6am. He now finally has started getting his top teeth he had 4 pierce through last week!!! :)
 
Well. On Saturday around midday my wife left me to go to Ibiza with one of her friends for a few days. She is back today but not till midnight tonight. I have had my little one all day, everyday for four days. I booked the same time off work so no need to child care as we have issues with that. Anyway, I can honestly say it's been fab. Sleep in's every morning. I managed to re-arrange our bedroom and living room, the house kept spotless, no clothes washing to do as only two of us and might aswell wait till tonight when wife comes back. Kept the kid entertained with Paw Patrol, mega blocks, toy cars etc. Off to the park later once it warms up a bit and all I see on facebook is mums moaning and complaining how hard it is (I know it can be hard this is my second time) keeping the house clean, doing chores, shopping etc. I managed to keep us both fed and watered OK. House kept spotless (just his toys to put away at night). Some people need to get a grip lol..

In all seriousness though its been fun and cant wait ti do it again. Spending time with Harry has been great.

Next time it is my turn to go away with a mate. All being well in the next few months and mum can keep the house going and I bet nothing gets done and its a **** hole very day. lol
 
Droolinggimp said:
Well. On Saturday around midday my wife left me to go to Ibiza with one of her friends for a few days. She is back today but not till midnight tonight. I have had my little one all day, everyday for four days. I booked the same time off work so no need to child care as we have issues with that. Anyway, I can honestly say it's been fab. Sleep in's every morning. I managed to re-arrange our bedroom and living room, the house kept spotless, no clothes washing to do as only two of us and might aswell wait till tonight when wife comes back. Kept the kid entertained with Paw Patrol, mega blocks, toy cars etc. Off to the park later once it warms up a bit and all I see on facebook is mums moaning and complaining how hard it is (I know it can be hard this is my second time) keeping the house clean, doing chores, shopping etc. I managed to keep us both fed and watered OK. House kept spotless (just his toys to put away at night). Some people need to get a grip lol..

In all seriousness though its been fun and cant wait ti do it again. Spending time with Harry has been great.

Next time it is my turn to go away with a mate. All being well in the next few months and mum can keep the house going and I bet nothing gets done and its a **** hole very day. lol
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Dude you've done it 4 days, most stay at home mums/dads do it 24/7 every day. Different kettle of fish when nipper is sick and you' have to cook dinner and run a household as well as go food shopping etc.
 
I do it everyday like my wife, just this time I have had him 24/7 for 4 days. we work same hours per week but alternate shifts. example, she will work 9-3 and ill work 4-10, vice versa. To be honest I have little one more than she does. My post was just a little tongue in cheek regarding my wife (and friends who moan) and her inability to keep the house tidy when I am doing my shifts. If I can she can, thats my reasoning anyway. :P
 
Spacedeck said:
Ah man, daughter has been teething again. Hasn't taken much food, has a fever and being very clingy. Makes you feel for them when usually they are bouncing around the room and bugging you.
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our youngest is having a bit of a 'mare with it. he's 8 months and tooth number 7 came through a few days again. You can see it really hurts them but thankfully they wont remember it. Soundood's advice is good, cold wet cloths really seem to help :)
 
We used biting beads for my twins. It's a special necklace that has hard(ish) bite sized shapes on it. They used to munch it to sooth themselves. The necklace had bits to also massage the gum around the erupting tooth to help too.

https://uk.pinterest.com/pin/183029172328874257/

Designed to NOT break. I could swing from that necklace and it wouldn't snap. Very strong to stop wee nippers choking.
 
Anyone got one of those in ear thermometers? Seems impossible to keep my daughter still long enough to get a good under arm reading, and I am always deeply envious of the docs who have those in ear ones that take the temp almost immediately.

At a glance, they seem to be quite temperamental judging by reviews, so any recommendations would be appreciated.
 
Devrij said:
Anyone got one of those in ear thermometers? Seems impossible to keep my daughter still long enough to get a good under arm reading, and I am always deeply envious of the docs who have those in ear ones that take the temp almost immediately.

At a glance, they seem to be quite temperamental judging by reviews, so any recommendations would be appreciated.
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We've got an in-ear thermometer and it seems to work fine. It's the same one used by the NHS so I guess it's accurate enough!
 
Well I'm sat in Queens Medical Centre in Nottingham for 5th day now. My 3 year old was taken I'll last Wednesday and has been diagnosed with meningococcal septicaemia. I was golfing at the time but the Mrs knew something was wrong and got paramedics out very quickly.

He was seen straight away at QMC as the doctors were concerned about the rash that appeared. He was given fluids and antibiotics in weds afternoon and has made a good recovery so far. He's asleep at the moment, waiting to have his 4th cannula put in (he pulled the other 3 out, not on purpose but pretty frustrating as it hurts getting them in).

Just about keeping my sanity, just glad he's ok. He can't leave the room due to the type of infection. The Mrs, myself and both of our other kids have had to have antibiotics too, I've even had the public health dept on the phone to make sure we took them.

Anyhow, kids eh!
 
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