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I agree, we still use it and mine are 8 and 10. I'd recommend putting some tape over the light though as it's pretty bright otherwise.
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Appreciate the responses all, we have had a calpol plug in the last couple of nights and we think it helps somewhat, but the hot bath water was definitely the winner for our little Madame.
Humidifier has arrived and is prepped, fingers crossed she has a better nights sleep.
Humidifier has arrived and is prepped, fingers crossed she has a better nights sleep.
I want to proclaim heartfelt season's greetings to all the fathers on here.
I count myself lucky to be able to say that it always a super amazing and special time for me as a kid. Although - like most things when you have kids - it inevitably involves some stress, I hope you can all feel the same satisfaction I do in attempting to recreate that magic now I have little bundles of joy of my own.
Merry Christmas to you all.
I count myself lucky to be able to say that it always a super amazing and special time for me as a kid. Although - like most things when you have kids - it inevitably involves some stress, I hope you can all feel the same satisfaction I do in attempting to recreate that magic now I have little bundles of joy of my own.
Merry Christmas to you all.
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How on earth do you get a nearly two year old to listen to anything you say?
She knows what no means because if you say it when she wants something the crying begins but in any other situation she'll pretend she's deaf or just stare at you while she continues doing whatever ever she needs to stop.
Literally no ****s given when you're trying to tell her to not do something and it's driving me mental.
Am I missing something or do I just need to make peace with the fact that right now she's exercising her right to be a little cretin.
She knows what no means because if you say it when she wants something the crying begins but in any other situation she'll pretend she's deaf or just stare at you while she continues doing whatever ever she needs to stop.
Literally no ****s given when you're trying to tell her to not do something and it's driving me mental.
Am I missing something or do I just need to make peace with the fact that right now she's exercising her right to be a little cretin.
My daughter's 5... I can confirm you need to make peace with this
Sounds like we’ve hit the terrible 2’s at similar times!
My partner has been fine with it, it’s me who is the impatient one which I’ve tried to be self aware of.
The best advice I can give is distraction, just completely change the topic/activity, works for me more often than not.
Incase relevant - for any issues with patience (which have definitely helped me out atleast);
- count to 5 then respond if feeling frustrated *
- remind yourself that they are learning and exploring the world in their own little way, and experiencing emotions they have no idea how to handle, process, or understand (yet) *
- when you want an outcome, give 2 options that give that outcome but they pick how, I.e ‘would you like to take your jumper off, or should dad do it? This can be applied to most things. *
Some of these may be glaringly obvious to some, but it took me doing a bit of research and learning for it to hit home, and pick up some nice techniques along the way.
*there will be times where literally nothing works and they need to ride out their rebellion
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I'd add...make sure "no" is really a "no". I see so many parents picking pointless battles. Ohhh nooo the floor might get wet if you play in the sink. W/e. When it is a "no" here it is normally a pretty 'serious' thing. She's even started to moderate her own sweet intake because she knows it'll make her sick.Sounds like we’ve hit the terrible 2’s at similar times!
My partner has been fine with it, it’s me who is the impatient one which I’ve tried to be self aware of.
The best advice I can give is distraction, just completely change the topic/activity, works for me more often than not.
Incase relevant - for any issues with patience (which have definitely helped me out atleast);
- count to 5 then respond if feeling frustrated *
- remind yourself that they are learning and exploring the world in their own little way, and experiencing emotions they have no idea how to handle, process, or understand (yet) *
- when you want an outcome, give 2 options that give that outcome but they pick how, I.e ‘would you like to take your jumper off, or should dad do it? This can be applied to most things. *
Some of these may be glaringly obvious to some, but it took me doing a bit of research and learning for it to hit home, and pick up some nice techniques along the way.
*there will be times where literally nothing works and they need to ride out their rebellion
I swear newborn clothes are just a scam. You buy a wardrobe full because the next stage is 3-6 months; but I've not seen many babies go beyond 9/10weeks before needing 3 to 6.
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I think most childrens clothes are, I just buy stuff from eBay or Vinted. I bought 2 Joules gilets from Vinted last week for £8.39, both in great condition, brand new they're £24.
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100% - my wife is on there constantly. It's only shoes we find hit and miss.
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I used bribery - I'd tell her if she stops she can have something she really wants, or we can do an activity she really goes mad for.
Then once she's content with whatever I'd given her we'd have a little talk about how being a good girl was more fun.
Got a very well behaved 3 year old now, terrible 2's only lasted a couple of months for us (and they weren't that terrible).
Kids want boundaries and also want to please you - well at least ours appears to.
Got kiddo number 2 due in a month - so will see what happens with the next one!
Yeah the 2 year old sass can be a proper pain, I find it, at times, more annoying than having a crying newborn. Our daughter is nearly 2.5 now and starting to move through it although she still will regularly just ignore what we're saying.
We actually found that counting to 3 has become really effective, so if you don't take that TV remote out your mouth by the time I count to 3 then some form of action will happen. My wife and I differ on the action, my usual approach is if you don't do or stop X by 3, then I will make you do it. Whereas my wife is if you don't do X by 3, then you lose access to something (drawing, colouring, Toniebox etc.) for however long (depending on what she's doing).
Both seem to work well and we've noticed more her response is 'no counting!' and she sprints to do whatever we're asking/stops what she's doing. We also find that just getting down to her level and making sure she is looking at us when we tell her 'no' is generally a good approach. My sister was really good at this with her boys when we saw them so we copied it, basically crouch down to their eyeline so they can see you're on their level and take their hand and then you say 'no' firmly.
Thanks for all the tips guys, will give some of them a go and see how I get on.
Generally I'm the most laid back person on earth, unfortunately the two ways to really get under my skin are to ignore me or do something stupid that just makes no logical sense to me.
The two things a 21 month old achieves A* in
Generally I'm the most laid back person on earth, unfortunately the two ways to really get under my skin are to ignore me or do something stupid that just makes no logical sense to me.
The two things a 21 month old achieves A* in
Mine are nearly 2 and they do what they want. I think its at an age where they understand a hell of a lot more than they can communicate back and they are starting to be able to make decisions on their own. I think prior to this rough age they just do what comes into their heads and there is little thought to alternatives. Now they are deciding how to handle things. Should I do as I am asked or should I do the opposite.
Ours are 21 months old nearly and think it hilarious to do things they know are wrong. Putting things in the wrong bag is very very funny. Going over to get a nappy when asked and bringing back the wipes is bed wettingly funny. I ask for the TV remote and you can see the little cogs whirring as they decide whether to give it to me or run away with it. Very cute and funny in a lot of cases but there are friction points.
They are just at a very emotional age as well. Well, one of ours is. Everything is dramatic. Everything is dialled up to 11. Tantrums everywhere. I think that once they can communicate their needs better it will calm down. I hope at any rate.
One we tell our son "no", it's no. We don't relent - regardless of how much of a tantrum is thrown. Tantrums are super rare for him, as he is normally good at listening to "no" and we have never had to do any of the above tips and tricks. He just knows, if we say no, it's no - and tantrums don't help. He quickly learnt they have zero effect because we never (and have never) given into them. So they're super rare for him. but he let him cry it out because he is expressing feelings and we want him to feel safe doing so and never shut it down.
"Okay, have a tantrum / cry, and we will talk afterwards" - 30s later he is over it.
Case in point; last night he was on his tablet and we took it off him as it was approaching his bed time. He had a small tantrum and then was over it 30s later once he realized it was not going to work.
My 3 month old has a cold or something. During the night she gets all congested so she mouth breaths and starts drooling. She then can't take a bottle properly without choking and having to have a break during feed. We've tried the sterimar nasal spray which has helped before but not so much last night. Next is sitting in the bathroom with her with the shower on.
Has anyone got any other tips or tricks for this?
Has anyone got any other tips or tricks for this?
Have you got a snot sucker?
We've got a manual one which does the job but I've been told by one of the guys at work that this is the one you really want.
Airmed's Vac Nasal Aspirator Baby. CLINICALLY Tested, Safe and Gentle. Baby Nose Sucker with 2 Suction Heads and Cleaning Brush. Safe and Gentle Baby Nasal Aspirator with Strength of a Vacuum Cleaner https://amzn.eu/d/dPONqgU
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The plug in calpol Vapor plug worked well for us when our kid was in a similar situation when she was 3 months. We still use it now tbf, the refills aren’t cheap but we found it was really worth it for helping her sound way less congested when she slept.
We have the manual one and sometimes get stuff out but not a lot, I'll take a look at that one, thanks. "strength of a vacuum cleaner"
That's cheap too, I'll buy it, even if it's useful for when she's on her own room.
Thanks chaps!