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Child benefit thresholds make no sense. It should be calculated on a household income rather than individual basis. If both parents earn 49,000 then it's paid yet if one earns 50k and the other isn't working, its not. Ridiculous imo.
 
So spent the afternoon in A&E after daughter had a temperature of 41 degc, turns out she has pneumonia... ffs

surely it cant be normal for a child to be this ill? shes been sick pretty much constantly since august.

listening to her coughing up her lungs in her room.
Both the Missus and me are just drained, having to get up in the night constantly to comfort her and during the day she needs constant hugs.

just a weekend without illness would be a blessing
 
subbytna said:
Average UK salary is about £27k. Wouldn't say equates to 27k.
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I know what the intent was, I was just being an insufferable pedant for some reason.

I also agree it should be on household earnings though. Seems crazy that you can be scraping by on one good wage between you and get bugger all.
 
ok bit of an issue. Last week my nearly 4 year old lad was a bit poorly. We gave him calpol as you do and he soon got well. For the last 5 days (actually evenings around bedtime) he been constantly whinging about his "belly ache" no tears at all but that incessant whinge that we all have to go through and hate so much. At first we were concerned a bit but we sort of put two and two together and came to the conclusion he didn't have anything wrong with him. Once he tired himself out he crashed and slept as normal. He has woken up during the night a few times and did the whole belly ache thing but only after he went for a wee.

This never happens during the day when we are with him and what not but only when hes on his own, or will be on his own in his room. He does settle and in the morning hes totally fine. I spoke to a few people and they came to the conclusion like us thats he just wants attention.

Fast forward to today. Hes been 100% fine until I opened the curtains to our living room and he moaned about the sun shinning through "too light". Then his whinging started, soon after his belly hurt. I told him we are getting the xmas tree down today and suddenly he was fine whilst he helped me sort out the bags and boxes of decorations. he was excited. Then it started again as it was dinner time and I had to feed out 8 month old, again he would be eating in the same room but not having any attention so to speak from me as I am sorting out little one. The sound from him is unbearable. I really wanted to just chuck him under the stairs and hope Hagrid would come and take him.

Not too long ago I asked him whats wrong, stop moaning, etc etc and he calmed down, since then he just wanted hugs and cuddle on sofa to watch a movie. I told him later as I have to sort out his brother. It started again. Belly ache, moaning whinging etc. I just told him go to bed for a nap. He just went up and literally fell asleep right away.

Am I over looking the possibility that he is poorly (i doubt it) or is it just a 4 year old being a 4 year old? Please tell me some of you have had this and its a 4 year old being just that....
 
Our 3yr old last few weeks has been a terror. Acting up at play groups and at home with mummy. The other day it was really bad but then she found him asleep in the middle of the hallway face down. No moaning about feeling ill though so I would err on the side of caution and get to the GP
 
George saw his consultant this morning, reflux meds going up again, new prescription added for lactulous for constipation.
And a snotty rather serious letter write and sent to the GP for refusing to see him.
Wife tried booking him in the other day as he's not eating and refusing bottles and stopped pooing.
They said nothing available that day you will have to book an appointment, okay she's days, nothing available for 3.5 weeks and they can't book any more in advance than that.
Told her to take him to A&E of she wanted him setting to any sooner.

Dietician is annoying me as well, even when eating well he's not really putting weight on still under the bottom line on the graph.
A week ago they were song a high calorie formula to his prescription, they haven't even wrote the letter to the doctor's yet. This week he's lost weight because he's not eating at all.
Glad I don't go to the doctor's I would probably get kicked out.
 
My daughter has started really testing boundaries the last few months. "don't kick mummy, it hurts her" *takes three steps back and gives mummy a running kick* "right, that's it! No toys tonight!".
 
robj20 said:
They said nothing available that day you will have to book an appointment, okay she's days, nothing available for 3.5 weeks and they can't book any more in advance than that.
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Ouch, that's pretty awful. Our kids' GP is usually running about 2 weeks for routine appointments but there's very little that's routine about babies / young children so they'll pretty much always fit them in the same day. In your case, not eating and constipation you'd think would be something they'd like to take a look at sooner rather than later. Fobbing you off to A&E is pretty insulting.

If there are other GP surgeries nearby it might be worth looking into moving. I moved to another surgery because of the long waiting times, and I can usually get an appointment the same or next day at the new one. Worst it's ever been has been 1 week and that was at the height of cold/flu season and they put on extra shifts to ensure they didn't get backed up by more than a week. Same town, same NHS, just two surgeries run with completely different priorities.
 
Droolinggimp said:
I am aware of taking him to doctors but I asked if anyone has had this sort of 'attention' seeking with their own children at this stage.
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My daughter who was 6-7 at the time went through a period of constantly moaning of belly ache (i get your frustrations, they can be so repetitive!) that would always seem to land on a school day and rarely through the weekend. We just put it down to either a) wanting a day of school b) anxiety as she was finding school quite tough.

Anyhow a few blood tests later and turns out she has Coeliac disease. We dismissed it for a long time as it really did just seem coincidental with the timing and everything else going on at the time.

Its worth having a word with your doctor! :)
 
shadow_boxer said:
Child benefit thresholds make no sense. It should be calculated on a household income rather than individual basis. If both parents earn 49,000 then it's paid yet if one earns 50k and the other isn't working, its not. Ridiculous imo.
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It's not just about the working / not working argument. I can see why they wouldn't want to pay out if one parent isn't working (as part of the reason for child benefit is to allow parents to pay for childcare and get back to work) but taking it based on the higher earner salary is just about the most unfair method they could have chosen. As you said, two parents both earning 50k will get the full benefit, but one earning 60k and the other 40k get nothing. It's even worse after tax -- the 2x 50k take home about 74k per year, but the 60+40k take home slightly less (73.4k). So the 50k pair are paying less tax and getting more benefits...
 
The other doctors near us is worse.

His consultant has wrote a letter to the GP and sending us a copy so be interesting to see what he says and if it makes any difference.

He's now losing weight as well, dietician doesn't see him often enough and is taking too long to prescribe his new formula some premade high calorie stuff.

xyphic said:
Ouch, that's pretty awful. Our kids' GP is usually running about 2 weeks for routine appointments but there's very little that's routine about babies / young children so they'll pretty much always fit them in the same day. In your case, not eating and constipation you'd think would be something they'd like to take a look at sooner rather than later. Fobbing you off to A&E is pretty insulting.

If there are other GP surgeries nearby it might be worth looking into moving. I moved to another surgery because of the long waiting times, and I can usually get an appointment the same or next day at the new one. Worst it's ever been has been 1 week and that was at the height of cold/flu season and they put on extra shifts to ensure they didn't get backed up by more than a week. Same town, same NHS, just two surgeries run with completely different priorities.
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I've just been called in by my daughter's teacher. She is really struggling with her colours, letters and numbers. She was three in August. I'm now getting concerned. Any advice? I'm going to make a conscious effort to teach her every night and I'm looking for pointers.
 
RockLobster said:
I've just been called in by my daughter's teacher. She is really struggling with her colours, letters and numbers. She was three in August. I'm now getting concerned. Any advice? I'm going to make a conscious effort to teach her every night and I'm looking for pointers.
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Some may balk at this suggestion but our 2 year old is learning quickly and I use a tablet with educational apps. She loves the interaction.
I sit with her and play rather than just leaving her to it.
 
Resident said:
Some may balk at this suggestion but our 2 year old is learning quickly and I use a tablet with educational apps. She loves the interaction.
I sit with her and play rather than just leaving her to it.
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Thanks. She does have an iPad and admittedly I have been letting her carry on with it watching kids YouTube but will take a look at apps.
 
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