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I've just been called in by my daughter's teacher. She is really struggling with her colours, letters and numbers. She was three in August. I'm now getting concerned. Any advice? I'm going to make a conscious effort to teach her every night and I'm looking for pointers.

She's 3, why are you worrying about letters and numbers yet? It's another two years until she goes to school, she'll pick it up in her own time. Introduce it slowly and gently.
 
She's in school and the teacher is concerned too that's why I'm asking here.
They grow and learn at their own pace.
Ours is nearly ten months and he's missing most marks, they say he is underweight. Where I think he looks fine and 99% of babies are chubby little things.
Schools and eat bit just go of these waste of time graphs and charts that say when they should do this and that. If they don't there behind.
Or the graph needs changing, none are the same and trying to treat them as such is futile.
 
My daughter is 4 and numbers are decent, she can do simple addition and subtraction (uses her fingers mostly), and can speak fine, but trying to get her to link between sounds of letters and words based on them is tough going at the mo. She'll get it no doubt, but seems to be taking longer than it should.

Everyone is different, I wouldnt worry at 3yrs old, as long as they're being stimulated in that area and you're going through it, it'll sink in eventually. Not much more you can do!
 
Yes 9-12 every day. Okay sounds like I'm worrying over nothing. It has made me thought though to get more involved with her learning.
Its nice that the teachers are engaged enough to be feeding back to you but yes you are worrying for now.

Getting more involved with her learning though is a very positive thing to do, and will only help.
 
Yes 9-12 every day. Okay sounds like I'm worrying over nothing. It has made me thought though to get more involved with her learning.

Absolutely, you're worrying over nothing. For sure maybe try to get more involved with numbers and letters (like spelling her name, or reading letters & numbers on road signs), but you don't need to be worrying about spelling lessons every day at this age. Children develop at their own pace and they develop different areas ahead of each other too.
 
What a difference, the bean has been well since last Sunday after getting over every disease in the book.

She's spent the morning running around, "reading" books and said two new word banana and birdie

So much better than being out cold or under a blanket on the sofa
 
I've been away on work for a week, which is the longest I've ever been away from my daughter, and I can't wait to see her. I've had lots of videos of her helping to decorate the Christmas tree and this is the first year she seems to actually get that Christmas is a thing. Quite cool to see her getting excited about it all. Have a feeling I'm going to get sick of hearing the first two lines of jingle bells sung over and over, but at this point I can't wait.

Don't know how other dads who travel a lot manage, although it has been amazing to have unbroken sleep (barring jet lag) for a week.
 
figured this thread might be most appropriate for this story:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...e-IVF-form-fails-win-compensation-clinic.html

A father whose ex partner forged his signature on an IVF form has failed to win compensation from a fertility clinic because his healthy daughter is a blessing to him.

The man’s former girlfriend simulated his signature to trick doctors into impregnating her with a frozen egg fertilised by his sperm.

The father is now devoted to his seven-year-old daughter, but sued fertility clinic, IVF Hammersmith, for the seven-figure costs of bringing her up.

Previously the father had expressed feelings of 'profound guilt' towards his child and lost a High Court claim for £1million to pay for the young girl's upbringing.
 
£1million, really. He should be getting payments from the woman who forged his signature.

Maybe the clinic need to have slightly more robust identification systems but £1m?!
 
@subbytna tagged mate, after reading back a few pages. It’s been a rough ride for us this year. Found out wife pregnant earlier this year, first check indicated twins and possible co-joined (Siamese). More in-depth check revealed mono mono twins (same sac), so big risk of cord entanglement etc. For months several visits a week to hospital for ultrasound scans and ctg (heart rate). DurIng one of those checks a heart deceleration with one twin meant hospital transfer by helicopter at midnight, further checks and twins delivered by c section 5 days later, delivered at 31 weeks. Several weeks in hospital, lots of checks, but now I happy to say my beautiful, healthy, twin girl little heroes have been home 6 weeks. I adore them to bits.

Twins though!! My goodness, adorable as they are it’s hard work. Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite. The wife and I are having moments were we can’t stand each other, purely due to tiredness, and we’re hanging on for milestones where they start sleeping better/through the night.

Never known anything as tiring but rewarding! Support from dads of twins welcome!
 
@subbytna tagged mate, after reading back a few pages. It’s been a rough ride for us this year. Found out wife pregnant earlier this year, first check indicated twins and possible co-joined (Siamese). More in-depth check revealed mono mono twins (same sac), so big risk of cord entanglement etc. For months several visits a week to hospital for ultrasound scans and ctg (heart rate). DurIng one of those checks a heart deceleration with one twin meant hospital transfer by helicopter at midnight, further checks and twins delivered by c section 5 days later, delivered at 31 weeks. Several weeks in hospital, lots of checks, but now I happy to say my beautiful, healthy, twin girl little heroes have been home 6 weeks. I adore them to bits.

Twins though!! My goodness, adorable as they are it’s hard work. Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite. The wife and I are having moments were we can’t stand each other, purely due to tiredness, and we’re hanging on for milestones where they start sleeping better/through the night.

Never known anything as tiring but rewarding! Support from dads of twins welcome!

Great to hear, good luck! :)
 
@subbytna tagged mate, after reading back a few pages. It’s been a rough ride for us this year. Found out wife pregnant earlier this year, first check indicated twins and possible co-joined (Siamese). More in-depth check revealed mono mono twins (same sac), so big risk of cord entanglement etc. For months several visits a week to hospital for ultrasound scans and ctg (heart rate). DurIng one of those checks a heart deceleration with one twin meant hospital transfer by helicopter at midnight, further checks and twins delivered by c section 5 days later, delivered at 31 weeks. Several weeks in hospital, lots of checks, but now I happy to say my beautiful, healthy, twin girl little heroes have been home 6 weeks. I adore them to bits.

Twins though!! My goodness, adorable as they are it’s hard work. Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite. The wife and I are having moments were we can’t stand each other, purely due to tiredness, and we’re hanging on for milestones where they start sleeping better/through the night.

Never known anything as tiring but rewarding! Support from dads of twins welcome!

Congrats dude. Once they are older they'll take care of eachother and it'll be easy Street (so I'm told, I have one and she has no energy limits). It gets easier and you have no idea how much amazing stuff you have coming (first time they tell you they love you will kill you). Hang in there and try to give eachother nap breaks
 
Child benefit thresholds make no sense. It should be calculated on a household income rather than individual basis. If both parents earn 49,000 then it's paid yet if one earns 50k and the other isn't working, its not. Ridiculous imo.

I work and my wife doesn't but i earn too much apparently so would have to pay it all back each year. I cancelled it after year one once i found out. I suppose technically there is nothing to stop my wife working but our house income should be split between the 2 of us rather than all mine.
 
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