OcUK Dadsnet thread

I took lessons and was put in for my test but due to personal circumstances I never took the test.

I don't drive, I never said I did

I did have a /s to that post in case you missed it :)
 
Droolinggimp said:
I took lessons and was put in for my test but due to personal circumstances I never took the test.

I don't drive, I never said I did

I did have a /s to that post in case you missed it :)
Click to expand...
I did miss it, just wasn't sure if you thought you could drive without lessons/test. I was thinking of making some sort of need for speed joke:cry:.
 
My 2 year old with our 3 month old is the best thing. My eldest is always telling his younger brother that he loves him and laying kisses on his head. He often kisses in his hand and says "here, keep it forever"

They were rolling on the bed next to one another and my eldest bursts out laughing "hahaha, he tickled my booby daddy, my booby, it tickled!"... Where they come out with these things :confused::cry:
 
iamtheoneneo said:
Do you not have any summer schools near you? Ours and a lot of her friends rotate through two different setups for half of the holidays.
Keeps everyone sane.
Click to expand...

Alas the one group near us she went to previously she just really really didn't get on at over Easter. She would just cry at the gates because she didn't get on at all with the other kids. Previously she'd had a blast at the same place, but she was genuinely unhappy (not like, peek in the window 5 mins later and she's grand. Genuinely bad times) so we decided to get a baby sitter in and help a friend out while we were at it. The baked goods on tap are just a bonus (this girl can seriously bake). It was just murphy's law that her family would get a covid case right on time.
 
Had a bit of a mild panic about a week ago. I have some sweet bars my wifes mother sends me over from Poland, Wedel Chałwa Królewska. It's a crumbly nougatty type bar which I know know is made mostly from ground sesame seeds.

I was upstairs fixing somethin on my PC and my 4 year old son came up with one of the bars and asked me if he could try it, I did my usual 'have you asked mummy' and sent him back to check with her. Cue 20 minutes later she comes running upstairs, gets something out of a drawer and goes back downstairs, he's crying, rubbing his eyes, his face has swollen a little, he's red all down his neck and chest and has some spots appearing.

About 5 minutes before she gave him a little taste of the bar and he spat it out, not liking the taste, then he had a quick allergic reaction, she had a bottle of strong anti-histamine drops he'd been prescribed last time in Poland (dairy intolerance) and after about 10 minutes it all calmed down. He then fell asleep and didn't really wake until about 11/12 hours later.

My wife cool as a cucumber through all this, me freaking out, thinking we might have to go to hospital, worrying, feeling sick, anxious, freaking out completely.

Phoned doctors next day, had a blood test and we got the results yesterday, basically has a strongish Sesame and Almond allergy and we've been advised to keep him away from any tree nuts.

My disaster scenario mind of course is wondering how it would have been if he'd just opened the bar and had actually ingested it rather than spitting it out. Luckily he's fairly well behaved and knows not just to help himself to sweets and snacks in the cupboards.
 
Dad's of OCUK, I need your help...

Since joining this forum, it's taught me a lot... It guided me on how to build my first custom water cooled loop, how to prepare for my motorcycle CBT and full license, it calmed me down through the house purchasing and waiting for completion and now I need some new help.

My partner had the phizer jab a few weeks back and has been having all sorts of complications from it - or so we thought. Yesterday we got totally blindsided by finding out she is 8 weeks pregnant. To say I'm scared and ******** myself would be a huge understatement. She told me at 2pm yesterday and I've only just managed to eat a slice of toast. Been up since 4am feeling restless.

I can barely look after myself let alone be responsible for a life. Was there any point you felt ready and prepared? We're 31 and 30 so it was always going to happen sooner than later, I had hoped later if I'm being honest.

It's slowly starting to dawn on me and sink in but I don't think I've ever felt this level of fear in all of my life.
 
Junglist said:
Dad's of OCUK, I need your help...

Since joining this forum, it's taught me a lot... It guided me on how to build my first custom water cooled loop, how to prepare for my motorcycle CBT and full license, it calmed me down through the house purchasing and waiting for completion and now I need some new help.

My partner had the phizer jab a few weeks back and has been having all sorts of complications from it - or so we thought. Yesterday we got totally blindsided by finding out she is 8 weeks pregnant. To say I'm scared and ******** myself would be a huge understatement. She told me at 2pm yesterday and I've only just managed to eat a slice of toast. Been up since 4am feeling restless.

I can barely look after myself let alone be responsible for a life. Was there any point you felt ready and prepared? We're 31 and 30 so it was always going to happen sooner than later, I had hoped later if I'm being honest.

It's slowly starting to dawn on me and sink in but I don't think I've ever felt this level of fear in all of my life.
Click to expand...
It is the funnest thing ever man, you'll totally love it. The first three months are a cinch (ironically) as you are hyper aware/off work/going with the flow/playing caretaker. Then it just gets more and more fun from there. A few silly things get in the way like we had norovirus (14 months in now) and colds are literally constant but offset by the laughs and giggles she has when you do practically anything.
 
Its no big deal bar the annoyance of the nights at first, but at least for us, that settles down very quickly. Don't let them nap too much during the day :p

The biggest deal is the disruption that it causes for childcare if you both wish to work. My wife worked for an american big pharma working between the US and UK and all sorts of hours - she had to give it up fairly quickly, childcare was impossible. At least for us that was absolutely by far the biggest disruption and the one which we struggle to understand how many people cope. Everything else, go through the motions with the bottles etc, i got through tons of movies in those early days, boring but its very funny having a little minime around.
 
were you both petrified at the start?

I was in the office, she panicked and called me I then just got up, left and cycled home. Had a shower then I think I sat in a state of shock for a hour and a half in a towel with no TV/Music on (very unusual for me). Told my close friends who have children last night and they said their partners were all the same and that it takes a while to sink in.

It was just the last thing I expected to hear yesterday
 
dLockers said:
You're better men than I. Ours does 7-7 but only since we took intervention with the sleep consultant I got flamed for hiring. I wouldn't have made it this far without it.
Click to expand...

We did this as well, because our first (boy) was to put it bluntly a little ******* and we were going insane the first six months. After a week or two of following the advice he has slept through since. Quite probably the best few hundred quid we ever spent.
 
Jez said:
i got through tons of movies in those early days, boring but its very funny having a little minime around.
Click to expand...
:cry: Remember having my little one sleeping on the Sleepyhead (@Junglist get one of these!) and watching every episode of Trailer Park Boys.

They sleep through anything in those early days.

Junglist said:
were you both petrified at the start?

I was in the office, she panicked and called me I then just got up, left and cycled home. Had a shower then I think I sat in a state of shock for a hour and a half in a towel with no TV/Music on (very unusual for me). Told my close friends who have children last night and they said their partners were all the same and that it takes a while to sink in.

It was just the last thing I expected to hear yesterday
Click to expand...
:cry: I think if its unexpected that is totally fair. Mine was planned (by my other half :rolleyes:) so was less of a shock/other things in life was in the way. Normal reaction though.
 
chroniclard said:
We did this as well, because our first (boy) was to put it bluntly a little ******* and we were going insane the first six months. After a week or two of following the advice he has slept through since. Quite probably the best few hundred quid we ever spent.
Click to expand...
Go back a few pages in this thread and see the grief/lols I got :D Glad it worked for you. I couldn't have survived.
 
Junglist said:
Dad's of OCUK, I need your help...

Since joining this forum, it's taught me a lot... It guided me on how to build my first custom water cooled loop, how to prepare for my motorcycle CBT and full license, it calmed me down through the house purchasing and waiting for completion and now I need some new help.

My partner had the phizer jab a few weeks back and has been having all sorts of complications from it - or so we thought. Yesterday we got totally blindsided by finding out she is 8 weeks pregnant. To say I'm scared and ******** myself would be a huge understatement. She told me at 2pm yesterday and I've only just managed to eat a slice of toast. Been up since 4am feeling restless.

I can barely look after myself let alone be responsible for a life. Was there any point you felt ready and prepared? We're 31 and 30 so it was always going to happen sooner than later, I had hoped later if I'm being honest.

It's slowly starting to dawn on me and sink in but I don't think I've ever felt this level of fear in all of my life.
Click to expand...

Congrats :D.

I'm not sure it ever gets less terryfing or stressful but it's definitely balanced out with even more amounts of fun and happiness.

Dont worry about being prepared. I can still barely look after myself; I just make sure the child comes first.

I'll be honest, having a child hasn't stopped us doing much at all. In fact, it's probably spurred us on to do more instead of spending weekends hungover and watching TV. The only thing that annoys me is the cost of childcare!
 
DanTheMan said:
Congrats :D.

I'm not sure it ever gets less terryfing or stressful but it's definitely balanced out with even more amounts of fun and happiness.

Dont worry about being prepared. I can still barely look after myself; I just make sure the child comes first.

I'll be honest, having a child hasn't stopped us doing much at all. In fact, it's probably spurred us on to do more instead of spending weekends hungover and watching TV. The only thing that annoys me is the cost of childcare!
Click to expand...

On the plus side you get SO MUCH disposable income when they start school and suddenly you have no childcare costs :D It's like receiving a massive payrise!
 
ci_newman said:
On the plus side you get SO MUCH disposable income when they start school and suddenly you have no childcare costs :D It's like receiving a massive payrise!
Click to expand...

I know, we've just made our final nursery payment as she starts school in September. It's brilliant :D
.
theone8181 said:
3 when they hit the 30 free hours is the big one.
Click to expand...

The 30 hours wasn't as big an impact as I thought as I never realised it was only for term time / 39 weeks per year.

Our daughter was in nursery 5 days a week, all year, so it averaged out at 22.5 hours per week free, or 2 full days. Even with the 30 free hours, it was nigh on £600 per month still.

Now all we will have to pay is £12 per week for 2 days of after school club. Bliss.
 
Junglist said:
Dad's of OCUK, I need your help...

Since joining this forum, it's taught me a lot... It guided me on how to build my first custom water cooled loop, how to prepare for my motorcycle CBT and full license, it calmed me down through the house purchasing and waiting for completion and now I need some new help.

My partner had the phizer jab a few weeks back and has been having all sorts of complications from it - or so we thought. Yesterday we got totally blindsided by finding out she is 8 weeks pregnant. To say I'm scared and ******** myself would be a huge understatement. She told me at 2pm yesterday and I've only just managed to eat a slice of toast. Been up since 4am feeling restless.

I can barely look after myself let alone be responsible for a life. Was there any point you felt ready and prepared? We're 31 and 30 so it was always going to happen sooner than later, I had hoped later if I'm being honest.

It's slowly starting to dawn on me and sink in but I don't think I've ever felt this level of fear in all of my life.
Click to expand...

Father of four here (all now in teens or early twenties). First few months can be hard but when they start turning into little people (rather than poop machines!) you'll realise it is the best thing in the world. Congratulations!
 
Junglist said:
Dad's of OCUK, I need your help...

Since joining this forum, it's taught me a lot... It guided me on how to build my first custom water cooled loop, how to prepare for my motorcycle CBT and full license, it calmed me down through the house purchasing and waiting for completion and now I need some new help.

My partner had the phizer jab a few weeks back and has been having all sorts of complications from it - or so we thought. Yesterday we got totally blindsided by finding out she is 8 weeks pregnant. To say I'm scared and ******** myself would be a huge understatement. She told me at 2pm yesterday and I've only just managed to eat a slice of toast. Been up since 4am feeling restless.

I can barely look after myself let alone be responsible for a life. Was there any point you felt ready and prepared? We're 31 and 30 so it was always going to happen sooner than later, I had hoped later if I'm being honest.

It's slowly starting to dawn on me and sink in but I don't think I've ever felt this level of fear in all of my life.
Click to expand...


It is easy just tiring. Youll be fine and congratulations!
 
DanTheMan said:
I know, we've just made our final nursery payment as she starts school in September. It's brilliant :D
.


The 30 hours wasn't as big an impact as I thought as I never realised it was only for term time / 39 weeks per year.

Our daughter was in nursery 5 days a week, all year, so it averaged out at 22.5 hours per week free, or 2 full days. Even with the 30 free hours, it was nigh on £600 per month still.

Now all we will have to pay is £12 per week for 2 days of after school club. Bliss.
Click to expand...
I can see why, but you must have found it practically halved at 3, though I think it should be all the time not just term time.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom