Office romances

Nitefly said:
But it's so fun!

Seriously though, I think that (probably) is a silver lining of cheating, you're right.
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I'm not entirely sure if I really agree with what I was saying.

I guess it depends on where you draw the line of what is 'proper' cheating and what isn't? Is simple flirting with a girl cheating? What about a hug? How about kissing some random girl one night where there was nothing but a base (or even not that) attraction? Mindless, drunken sex?
Can something that is purely physical be cheating or is it just an action? Do you require the mental attraction and link in order for it to be cheating?

I'd argue that a drunken kiss one night isn't cheating. As for sex? I think nowadays the view that sex is sacred and is shared only with your loved one(s) is outdated and invalid. However, there is a betrayal of trust in sleeping with someone else whilst in a committed relationship.

I believe that the boundaries aren't as clear as some people would like to suggest and that there are actions and events which can cause these lines to be blurred.

Ultimately, I do think that cheating (at least with regards to sex) is wrong. However, I believe that not all cheating is damaging to a relationship. However, I've cheated in every relationship I've had. Even in great relationships I've had that itch which I've felt that I've needed to scratch.

Mindless waffle, whilst I distract myself from writing my essay to be honest!
 
This is why couples should define cheating at the start of the relationship. Some people have no problem with their partner snogging a random, others would view it as cheating. Everybody just needs to be on the same page.
 
anticonscience said:
krooton, did you split up with your GF who you moved in with?

Not sure I am reading your posts properly.....
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2006: Gf, never lived with.
2007: Dumped above, got together with new gf, moved in to rented place.
2008: Above dumps me, and I remain single for 8 months
2009: Meet current gf
2010: We move in together in mortgaged flat and lived happily ever after.
 
Ahleckz said:
I'm not entirely sure if I really agree with what I was saying.

I guess it depends on where you draw the line of what is 'proper' cheating and what isn't? Is simple flirting with a girl cheating? What about a hug? How about kissing some random girl one night where there was nothing but a base (or even not that) attraction? Mindless, drunken sex?
Can something that is purely physical be cheating or is it just an action? Do you require the mental attraction and link in order for it to be cheating?

I'd argue that a drunken kiss one night isn't cheating. As for sex? I think nowadays the view that sex is sacred and is shared only with your loved one(s) is outdated and invalid. However, there is a betrayal of trust in sleeping with someone else whilst in a committed relationship.

I believe that the boundaries aren't as clear as some people would like to suggest and that there are actions and events which can cause these lines to be blurred.

Ultimately, I do think that cheating (at least with regards to sex) is wrong. However, I believe that not all cheating is damaging to a relationship. However, I've cheated in every relationship I've had. Even in great relationships I've had that itch which I've felt that I've needed to scratch.

Mindless waffle, whilst I distract myself from writing my essay to be honest!
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If you're a reasonable guy, it's wrong if you would feel guilty about it.
 
Kali81 said:
Zefan you're comments are shocking, someones sexuality has nothing to do with how good they are at their job.
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I'd say avoid it. Not really romance but I've smashed the pasty (:p) of 3 girls at work when drunk. Two of whom I sincerely regret and one of which I actually really like and is an amazing girl but she got hurt in the process because i was a complete burk. Managed to sort things out with her now and we're together and its great. But its been tricky and everyone at work (bar my shovenistic boss who thinks im a right lad) says im a kan **** :(.

Swings and roundabouts i guess.
 
Not an office romance, but I've done this twice :o

Girlfriend earlier left her abusive boyfriend for me, lasted about three months.

More recently, a girl who one of my good friends was infatuated with took more of a liking to me, without ever really telling him she wasn't interested (didn't want to make him feel bad). When he found out we were sleeping together (I told him in a club while mashed) he was crushed. I felt so bad :( but hey. He moved on, even though he has become a bit more self-deprecating since, saying stuff like he never had a chance with her compared to me. I honestly have no idea why she found me more attractive than me though :D
 
Shayper said:
Not an office romance, but I've done this twice :o

Girlfriend earlier left her abusive boyfriend for me, lasted about three months.

More recently, a girl who one of my good friends was infatuated with took more of a liking to me, without ever really telling him she wasn't interested (didn't want to make him feel bad). When he found out we were sleeping together (I told him in a club while mashed) he was crushed. I felt so bad :( but hey. He moved on, even though he has become a bit more self-deprecating since, saying stuff like he never had a chance with her compared to me. I honestly have no idea why she found me more attractive than me though :D
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If you are going to type a story at least do it when you are sober, and I guess the only connection here is that you see your mate often.
 
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