Office romances

krooton said:
Not her friend, our friend. Well technically it was a friend of our friend, we'd only known her for 3 months. She didn't hate herself (like my gf at the time did) and loved Eddie Izzard, I was tricky not to pass up, but I still feel bad about it. :p

The whole mess is why I am against the whole concept of going for someone in a relationship. Fallout can be pretty bad.
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Don't worry I wouldn't cling onto feeling bad about it. If anything it's experience - we all have to look very hard before we leap! However I certainly wouldn't use that example to advocate being 'against the whole concept of going for someone in a relationship'; without meaning to make you feel bad, I think what happened with you is a lot worse than what I was advocating for.

Then again, partner number 2 might have worked out better than you could have hoped and you could now be engaged - then who would have been the fool for passing up on the opportunity! Hindsight is a harsh and misleading thing. Just take the experience and push things forward :)
 
Nitefly said:
Don't worry I wouldn't cling onto feeling bad about it. If anything it's experience - we all have to look very hard before we leap! However I certainly wouldn't use that example to advocate being 'against the whole concept of going for someone in a relationship'; without meaning to make you feel bad, I think what happened with you is a lot worse than what I was advocating for.

Then again, partner number 2 might have worked out better than you could have hoped and you could now be engaged - then who would have been the fool for passing up on the opportunity! Hindsight is a harsh and misleading thing. Just take the experience and push things forward :)
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We were engaged, then she dumped me a few months later. ;)

Karma is as karma does.
 
We've have quite a few office 'couples' that have developed. The MD and a secretary (who are now married, she stays at home with the kids in their £1.1m home) being the most high profile.
I tend to be good friends with the most attractive women in the company. One is in a constant on/off relationship with one of the blokes here. I regard them both as good friends, yet the girl is a really good friend and we get on really well. There's no sexual chemistry there but we do flirt playfully.
Worst thing is seeing friends/work collegsues tear each other apart when they go through relationship turmoils.
 
Ive been having some banter with the girl in the canteen at work for about a year now, not my usual cup of tea but still pretty, rips the **** out of me, so i rip the **** back...its got to be love right?....Were basically being set up by our colleagues lol
 
krooton said:
We were engaged, then she dumped me a few months later. ;)

Karma is as karma does.
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Ouch! I really don't wish to be overly critical over what is obviously a sensitive subject, but this is why I would want to live in with someone for 2 years before marriage is considered.
 
Nitefly said:
Ouch! I really don't wish to be overly critical over what is obviously a sensitive subject, but this is why I would want to live in with someone for 2 years before marriage is considered.
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Oh no, not at all. I've just always been a follower of the karmic ethos, and the one time I don't, it bites me on the butt. All for the best though, 8 months after that I meet the love of my life and things have never been better. :)
 
hooked up with a girl I used to work with, would nip back to hers at lunchtimes ha
everyone at work guessed pretty much instantly and the bosses didnt like it at all
few weeks later when it ended it was pretty darn awkward everyday

its risky business id say! (depending on how big the company is)
 
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Sundance said:
I would. Although I wouldn't put it like that. The fact is your wife/gf has left you. Whether it was for another guy is irrelevant.

All you can take away from it is A) you need a better partner and/or B) be a better partner.
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Good advice that, there is an element with this decision though that yes not doing it might make you a better person in some peoples eyes but it doesn't mean someone else wont.

I find myself in a different but similar in some ways situation with my girl, i was with her over a year, relationship really wasn't moving forward, she wasn't getting herself any form of employment, not getting up on a morning and seizing the day, i want to move out and i couldn't see it happening with her for the above reasons, it led to frustration and resentment on my part even though i probably do really care about her and would stay with her even with the problems, so we split up.

We got back together 2 months later which was 3 months ago, and i tried my best to put across to her that i want to be with her no matter what but in order to be happy i have to see some improvement in the situation.

However nothing seems to be changing at all, she got herself a part time job (literally 4 hours a week) because she completely ran out of money which annoyed me (in my eyes she should have done this 10 months ago while she looked for something else), i start to feel frustrated with the situation again and not be as attentive even though i tried so hard to get her back, now i suspect there is a situation evolving which involves someone else.

So what does this come under ? better partner or be a better person ?
 
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Sorry, dude, but she's a don't swear, even abbreviated bum, plain and simple!!
Kick her to the curb. She can't really care for you if that's how she lives her life.
God, i really don't like people like that. You'd be better off without her, FACT!!!

edit: you're the better person....but be an ex-partner and you'll be an even better person. :)
 
Yea, i just thought i would see what peoples views where, its just hard, whats worse i guess is she will tell me she wants to be with me and i make her happy but lets the whole situation drag on, i just end up feeling fed up.

Edit: to put it into context i have 2 jobs, and i am doing a msc part time!
 
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I've kissed a girl from work a few times, in fact we ended up kissing in the toilets here a week or so ago.

I've also kissed another of my colleagues at the summer party.

Bring on the Christmas party.
 
Jeez FF, bit harsh. I can't even rmember what i put tbh, i must have been on autopilot.
You're yellow scalding type would have been enough of a warning.
 
I learnt a very very long time ago that office romances are just not worth the bother, no matter how tempting the situation may be.
 
ScarySquirrel said:
I've kissed a girl from work a few times, in fact we ended up kissing in the toilets here a week or so ago.

I've also kissed another of my colleagues at the summer party.

Bring on the Christmas party.
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Given the absolutely stunning quality of your partners in the girlfriend picture thread, I bet they were impressive colleagues too :D
 
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