Once a cheater always a cheater?

Freefaller said:
Agreed.

Someone could have made a genuine mistake and completely changed his ways, outlook and behaviour, it also depends on the situation, the person, the new person met, the relationship, everything. A lot of factors to take into account.

However some people will cheat end of, they like the excitement.
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depends on the circumstances for cheating and whether both effected parties understand what happened and why and are able to move forwards from it.
 
I'd normally say always a cheater but I have a good friend who cheated constantly on his fiancee for 11 years. I'm talking upwards of 50 different women, most more than once and in some cases at the same time :p

His fiancee and him broke up, after a few months of seeing nobody he met a new girl, now getting married later this year. As his best mate I know for a fact he's never looked elsewhere, says he simply wasn't happy before and didn't realise why, he's had it "offered on a plate" and isn't interested and he's so utterly in love with his new fiancee.

A couple of years ago I'd have laughed at the idea, but frankly I doubt he'd ever even consider cheating now. So I'd have to disagree with most people who have posted previously, I think people do change, it sometimes only takes a small change for someone to stop cheating, likewise it doesn't take much to start.

Not everyone is the same though, I'd never cheat - I'd split up with my fiancee first rather than cheat on her.
 
I would say it depends on the person being cheated on. I hold up my hands and say I cheated on my exwife 3 times but have not cheated on my GF of 13 years. In some cases, yes, in others no.
 
I would hazard a guess that somone who has cheated more then once before is far more likely to do it again. I think there are a breed of serial cheats out there but for your average person it's a bit of a grey area.
 
False.

While you may technically always be able to be labelled with the tag "cheat", I think it's unfair to state that anyone who has cheated once is liable to do it again. It's possible, but not definite. By the same token, someone who has always been true, might cheat. "A leopard never changes its spots" was first spoken by someone with a dog :D
 
I've been cheated on but they've never cheated on anyone since. I'd say false. But I wouldnt give someone a second chance. even if i could trust someone to not cheat on me again, i still wouldnt want to be with them because of what they did to me. Sounds dumb I know, but for me the pain is enough to cause me to fall out of love.
 
True. Once a cheat always a cheat, it may not happen again the next day, week, year even in the next ten years... but it will happen again.
 
eidolon said:
Depends if they get caught or not. If not, then there's no incentive not to do it again.
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Guilty conscience to prevent them? Lack of future opportunities?

I'm going with the cop-out option of there is no simple rule of always a cheater or not, if someone has cheated once they are probably more likely to do it again but it doesn't automatically follow that they will.
 
Not sure where I stand on this really, but if my gf did cheat on me she damn well wouldn't be getting back with me.
 
Spektor said:
True. Once a cheat always a cheat, it may not happen again the next day, week, year even in the next ten years... but it will happen again.
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How can you possibly know that? :confused:

False. People who have cheated I'd guess are more likely to cheat again, but to presume that every single person on the planet who has cheated is unable to become faithful is absurd.
 
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