I guess you have just had some really bad experiences with comms in OW and I don't think I'm going to change your mind
I think this is it. It's a shame. I see it as quite a selfish move myself, but if it's what you need to do to enjoy the game, we're not going to persuade you otherwise I guess.

Best is to just find some friends who do use comms well and try and team all the time. If you're 3 or 4 in a team, using comms, that's enough for me. It's a shame if the other 2 or 3 wont, but at least you have some co-ordination. I guess I'm getting better at Soldier as more and more people are adding me and actually asking me to come play, which makes it easier. Make use of the 'notes' on friends to record what people play and what they're like.