parking on street - neighbours say we shouldn't
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We park our 2 cars on our drive, but there are some inconsiderate people about. It's difficult to get the cars on and off the drive when cars are parked directly opposite the drive entrance.
It's mainly the opposite neighbour's daughter's bf. I've asked them not to park there and offered, park on our side of the road in front of our house if you want - but no. I've had to on a couple of occasions had to knock and ask him to move, on one occasion the bf/gf were out, so the dad came out and watched me back out. I hoped he would then relay the issue the bf was causing and things would change? Nah...............
But i don't think there is anything legal i can do as it's a public road - same as OP's issue.
It's mainly the opposite neighbour's daughter's bf. I've asked them not to park there and offered, park on our side of the road in front of our house if you want - but no. I've had to on a couple of occasions had to knock and ask him to move, on one occasion the bf/gf were out, so the dad came out and watched me back out. I hoped he would then relay the issue the bf was causing and things would change? Nah...............
But i don't think there is anything legal i can do as it's a public road - same as OP's issue.
Yeah, this is what I would have done.
Because there's nothing worse than not getting on with your neighbours, as @Peerzy put (great post by the way). People being stubborn is part of the reason things get so messed up between neighbours in the first place.
Yep. Neighbour (although being a ****) is most likely just trying to preserve status quo. A bit of reassurance is all that's needed usually when people are being ****s.
So people would be fearful of parking on the road for fear of upsetting the neighbours. Doesn't sounds very good to me.
No, that's not what was being said. The point was that it is temporary, and the OP doesn't seem to have mentioned that due to "I pay road tax and it's legal!"
Much easier to just be the adult and clarify that it's only until the weekend. If they still have issues after that, then yeah, they were looking for a fight and being unreasonable just for the sake of it.
But so worth it!
Soldato
To be fair it's a bit annoying when people have a drive but choose to never use and just park on the road, doesn't really sound like that's the case with OP though. Regardless of whoever is in the right or wrong it's better that you all try sort it like adults. Or the parking wars will start to be a a constant nuisance in your life.
Its like that everywhere, old house i used to live at when i was younger, most houses had 1 car, maybe 2 at a push, now its 3-4, on pavements and not using garages. And obviously a lot get driveways extended or built which is fair enough.
It's totally allowed to park where you want but in reality if we all had to park on the road I doubt we would be having so many cars. I guess its like each person has to have their own car.
It's totally allowed to park where you want but in reality if we all had to park on the road I doubt we would be having so many cars. I guess its like each person has to have their own car.
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the bit that gets me is people who park on the grass and wreck it all.
poor sight.
poor sight.
know the feeling we have a grass verge outside ours and the world and his son always park on it , royal mail/deliveries even takeaways, never outside nextdoors etc always ours.
our verge looks terrible theres is almost pristine...so makes me want to put stones around it , but know im not allowed grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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use your drive if you can. move your cars when friends arrive. That's the straight forward being a nice neighbour part. Otherwise, crack on and use the road. Pointing out none of them bothered to spend £££k's on converting their gardens into driveways was a bit of a dick move though :shrug:
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Yeah, we had 4 cars for a short while back in the early 00s. One each for the parents, me and arr kid as we were all working. Could fit two on the drive in front of the house, one in the garage down the side. With the 4th car someone had to block the Dad's car in as he got the garage.
Got a bit inconvenient having to shuffle cars occasionally. Then arr kid moved in with the other half and it was back to three. Then two after I moved out. Now 20 years later it's one as they're retired and share a car.
I'm going to have to disagree to some extent. Yes it is first come first serve, but....he has 4 cars. FOUR. OK this is temporary and will eventually go down to 3 but still. As has been pointed out, it is always best to try to get on with neighbours. You say that they have not converted their front spaces to accommodate cars. Yes but you do not know their circumstances. Maybe they cannot afford to. Maybe they live in rented houses. Maybe they never had a problem before you came with 4 cars and therefore it is a major change in their lives to have to now struggle to park when they arrive back home after work or whatever.
We have a long single file driveway where you can park 2 or at a push 3 cars in a row, and yes we do often have to shuffle the cars about. I do this because I'm nice and it frees up road space for guests of other houses and our neighbours guests and cars. It goes both ways. I think you are being a bit selfish thinking in the way you are thinking. You are right that you are entitled to park publicly as you wish but the point is that you have to live with these people day to day. I'd hate to be hated by neighbours as it just adds to daily stress so close to home. We have work for that.
Some households do need to own several cars... I get that. We are one of them with 2 and soon to be 3 I expect. In the future it could be 4. But I'd feel a right **** taking up any more public spaces than I had to. If it had to be regular I would park one of mine far away down the end of the road for example.
We have a long single file driveway where you can park 2 or at a push 3 cars in a row, and yes we do often have to shuffle the cars about. I do this because I'm nice and it frees up road space for guests of other houses and our neighbours guests and cars. It goes both ways. I think you are being a bit selfish thinking in the way you are thinking. You are right that you are entitled to park publicly as you wish but the point is that you have to live with these people day to day. I'd hate to be hated by neighbours as it just adds to daily stress so close to home. We have work for that.
Some households do need to own several cars... I get that. We are one of them with 2 and soon to be 3 I expect. In the future it could be 4. But I'd feel a right **** taking up any more public spaces than I had to. If it had to be regular I would park one of mine far away down the end of the road for example.
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I think you need to recognise the way they are thinking and come to an arrangement, I can see their pov and so you should be grown up about it, the letter of the law is one thing, being a selfish neighbour is another.
Yep. Imagine if the neighbours all came together and took up all the road spaces permanently so the tables were turned. You wouldn't have anywhere to park your 4th car so....
I had a neighbour bang on my door a while back because I was in 'his space'. I mean he usually does park there, but someone else had decided to take up three spaces, I had shopping and I did intend to move later. But his attitude was horrible, I actually thought it was going to end in a fight until he ran away. I left my car there for a good few days and walked to work.
My point being is, it's not their road and while annoying for them they have no excuse to moan. Though there is a balance if you want to get on with your neighbours or not.
He also did get his garden turned into a driveway, whilst others park two cars on the road (he is parking one) so it seems like he actually did do quite a lot about it really. Why can't he park one whilst others have two/three on the road but they are unwilling to lose a garden to help increase the parking spaces.
Why is he at fault, when he has actually done the most to try and help everyone in the area.
My point being is, it's not their road and while annoying for them they have no excuse to moan. Though there is a balance if you want to get on with your neighbours or not.
He also did get his garden turned into a driveway, whilst others park two cars on the road (he is parking one) so it seems like he actually did do quite a lot about it really. Why can't he park one whilst others have two/three on the road but they are unwilling to lose a garden to help increase the parking spaces.
Why is he at fault, when he has actually done the most to try and help everyone in the area.
It comes down to perception and that is often going to be illogical. The perception is that even though you have a driveway, you're 'hogging the road' because you're accommodating twice as many cars as they are, even if it's just temporary and until you moved in, they had free reign of the road.
I can understand why it annoys people, it's change, they've been living there and have got used to being able to use the road as they see fit, even though they don't own it. I have similar where I live - when I moved in, ample road parking for when you have guests or want to move your car to clean the driveway etc. Last year someone moved into a house opposite and have turned up with (currently) 3 large panel vans, 2 hatchbacks, 2 saloons and an estate car, in a house with a driveway that fits 2 cars. So now nobody else anywhere nearby has any flexibility for visitors to come and park on a weekend because they've parked in all the road space. They're not doing anything 'wrong' but it can still be annoying, especially when you were used to the easier life beforehand. (for clarity, I haven't moaned to anyone about this, as they're ultimately perfectly entitled to park as many cars as they want)
There's not much you can do about it (beyond what you're already doing by using your own driveway) other than try and talk to them sensibly if they keep bothering you, or contact the council and ruin life for everyone by requesting permitting or something
I can understand why it annoys people, it's change, they've been living there and have got used to being able to use the road as they see fit, even though they don't own it. I have similar where I live - when I moved in, ample road parking for when you have guests or want to move your car to clean the driveway etc. Last year someone moved into a house opposite and have turned up with (currently) 3 large panel vans, 2 hatchbacks, 2 saloons and an estate car, in a house with a driveway that fits 2 cars. So now nobody else anywhere nearby has any flexibility for visitors to come and park on a weekend because they've parked in all the road space. They're not doing anything 'wrong' but it can still be annoying, especially when you were used to the easier life beforehand. (for clarity, I haven't moaned to anyone about this, as they're ultimately perfectly entitled to park as many cars as they want)
There's not much you can do about it (beyond what you're already doing by using your own driveway) other than try and talk to them sensibly if they keep bothering you, or contact the council and ruin life for everyone by requesting permitting or something
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Our road is crap for parking and the guy next door has 5 daughters. Most of them have left home but there are always at least 3 of his cars parked up and quite often more as the daughters all use them as day care and when the boyfriends come over I reckon there are up to 7 cars from their household. That coupled with people being selfish arses and not bothering to actually park at the end of the designated bays usually means that we are about 6-7 cars short of the full parking capacity.
That being said, there is nothing we can do. Our neighbours on both sides are great and we get on really well with them and the park how they are allowed to. We might not like it and have a whinge but honestly its not that serious. We could probably talk to people about it but I doubt it would make any difference and it would just lead to potential conflict.
Getting on with your neighbours is a lovely thing and I can't imagine being at war with them. Especially over something as simple as parking. Unless its utter hell I would just try to keep the peace until it is completely untenable.
In the OP it sounds like the neighbours are being a bit ****** but I would still try to make the best of it and if they throw that back in your face then perhaps you have the freedom to act like a bit of a dick.
That being said, there is nothing we can do. Our neighbours on both sides are great and we get on really well with them and the park how they are allowed to. We might not like it and have a whinge but honestly its not that serious. We could probably talk to people about it but I doubt it would make any difference and it would just lead to potential conflict.
Getting on with your neighbours is a lovely thing and I can't imagine being at war with them. Especially over something as simple as parking. Unless its utter hell I would just try to keep the peace until it is completely untenable.
In the OP it sounds like the neighbours are being a bit ****** but I would still try to make the best of it and if they throw that back in your face then perhaps you have the freedom to act like a bit of a dick.