Pretty ****** Off!!

Neoni said:
i merely stated that i was going to the tattoo parlour to have more work done, becky was coming to watch, as she has never seen the process in a parlour, was that attitude needed?
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Possibly. We don't know what your attitude to him is like, we only see one side (your side) and so have to try and fill in the blanks.
There have been billions of "my parents aren't being fair" threads from teenagers on here. For those of us who left the teens behind a long time ago :( reflection shows many of us that our parents weren't particularly unreasonable at the time but our demands were.
It could be that you are delightful and he is simply a grumpy scumbag.
Why not get him to post about you so we can hear his side?
 
VIRII said:
Possibly. We don't know what your attitude to him is like, we only see one side (your side) and so have to try and fill in the blanks.
There have been billions of "my parents aren't being fair" threads from teenagers on here. For those of us who left the teens behind a long time ago :( reflection shows many of us that our parents weren't particularly unreasonable at the time but our demands were.
It could be that you are delightful and he is simply a grumpy scumbag.
Why not get him to post about you so we can hear his side?
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no. its funny how both her mother and father, brother who knew me from school, other brother, and step brother talks to me, her brother txts me the other day asking how i was keeping, i go to a family bbq and everyone gets on well with me, they all know me, due to me playing in a band with a certain person, and yet only one has a problem with me... im even allowed to take her away for a week on a canal boat..even down to london if we get the chance...but still one person hates it... her father offered to give me more money to really treat her for her birthday... instead i said no as already said, we had a great night i got myself in a bit of debt due to it, as i struggle for cash due to uni and work. ive never wanted to take a girl out on a proper date/birthday/dinner, but becky means a lot to me.

her stepdad came in to the living room when i picked her up on her birthday to see me with a bag full of presents etc... say i go out and bring back food, or an icecream van goes past, and me and becky are there, i get icecreams for whoevers in, normally just him... its like ive done nothing wrong to make him the way he is?
 
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Neoni said:
no. its funny how both her mother and father, brother who knew me from school, other brother, and step brother talks to me, her brother txts me the other day asking how i was keeping, i go to a family bbq and everyone gets on well with me, they all know me, due to me playing in a band with a certain person, and yet only one has a problem with me... im even allowed to take her away for a week on a canal boat..even down to london if we get the chance...but still one person hates it... her father offered to give me more money to really treat her for her birthday... ..
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I'm sure he has a reason, unfounded or not, he will have a reason.
 
VIRII said:
Do you have a daughter? I have 2.
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And my girlfriend's father has 3. Yet he doesn't have the same attitude towards me (being 18, his daughter 16 - I'm also 19 next week) or people my age that you seem to.

At the end of the day, there's nothing to say young relationships - especially at this sort of age range - can't work. Me and my missus have been together for 8 months now and definitely consider each other to be in love. Does it have to be determined by a fixed amount of time, or having to go through a list of events before it can be declared? Or should it just be that your partner is the first person you think about when you wake up, the last person you think about when you go to sleep, and everything in between?

Incidently, it's taken 8 months for my missus to be allowed to sleep round here (due to protective parents). Yes, I think you're being a bit eager in wanting her to always stay round, but by the same token why should her parents/step-parents (or anyone else for that matter) judge you on your age?

And to put the shoe on the other foot; a lot of my experience of Neoni is that he's rather arrogant, and if he's the same offline as he is online, then there's no surprise they're at logger-heads!

-RaZ
 
MoNkeE said:
And my girlfriend's father has 3. Yet he doesn't have the same attitude towards me (being 18, his daughter 16 - I'm also 19 next week) or people my age that you seem to.

At the end of the day, there's nothing to say young relationships - especially at this sort of age range - can't work. Me and my missus have been together for 8 months now and definitely consider each other to be in love. Does it have to be determined by a fixed amount of time, or having to go through a list of events before it can be declared? Or should it just be that your partner is the first person you think about when you wake up, the last person you think about when you go to sleep, and everything in between?

Incidently, it's taken 8 months for my missus to be allowed to sleep round here (due to protective parents). Yes, I think you're being a bit eager in wanting her to always stay round, but by the same token why should her parents/step-parents (or anyone else for that matter) judge you on your age?

And to put the shoe on the other foot; a lot of my experience of Neoni is that he's rather arrogant, and if he's the same offline as he is online, then there's no surprise they're at logger-heads!

-RaZ
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im probably not the same on here as i am off.. its probably the way i word things, i come on ocuk always very high strung. nokkonwud has mentioned this before meeting me before. i dont ask her to stay over all the time, she asks me, we just like eachothers compnay.
 
Can't see why you would be interested in a 16 year old?

I've never come accross a sensible 16 year old who doesn't think of themselves and that a relationship is nothing but a status to be had.

This coming from someone who was seeing a 16 year old back when I was 18, and it was nothing but me me me me, and it wasn't about her you soon knew about it.

We're talking about someone who hasn't even made the decision of what path she wants to take in terms of education yet.

I'm currently seeing a 27 year old at the age of 20 and the difference in the quality of time together is staggering, and I would rather take sand paper to my testicles and dip them in a bowl of salt and vinegar than try for a relationship with such girls again.

A lot of people may say I'm applying the same brush to a lot of 16 year olds but hey it's what I believe from what I see around me. You don't get the protective parents either.
 
MoNkeE said:
And my girlfriend's father has 3. Yet he doesn't have the same attitude towards me (being 18, his daughter 16 - I'm also 19 next week) or people my age that you seem to.

At the end of the day, there's nothing to say young relationships - especially at this sort of age range - can't work.-RaZ
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I have not said that they "can't" work. The simple fact is that they rarely do. Hardly anyone I know is with the person that they were with at 16 now. Infact I can only think of one couple and they recently split up, bad on the kids 13 and 10 :( I have sometimes thought that had I met the girls I met at 16 in my early 20s then perhaps the relationships would be more permanent.
Perhaps it is not just a case of who you meet but when you meet them. Had I got together with my wife at 16 perhaps we'd have lasted 6 months, whereas perhaps if I had got together with a much earlier girlfriend when we were in our 20's we'd have married eachother. Who knows.
 
Mekrel said:
Can't see why you would be interested in a 16 year old?

I've never come accross a sensible 16 year old who doesn't think of themselves and that a relationship is nothing but a status to be had.

This coming from someone who was seeing a 16 year old back when I was 18, and it was nothing but me me me me, and it wasn't about her you soon knew about it.

We're talking about someone who hasn't even made the decision of what path she wants to take in terms of education yet.

I'm currently seeing a 27 year old at the age of 20 and the difference in the quality of time together is staggering, and I would rather take sand paper to my testicles and dip them in a bowl of salt and vinegar than try for a relationship with such girls again.

A lot of people may say I'm applying the same brush to a lot of 16 year olds but hey it's what I believe from what I see around me. You don't get the protective parents either.
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ive been with girls of 19,18 and 20, and all have been rubbish i was a bit worried about her being 16, i was wondering whether it was worth trying, but i became attached to her, and i really do like her, if she was 15 id still like her, but if this ended, i wouldnt go out with a 15 year old, 16 is the youngest for me. but this is working out for us both and im happy.
 
Mekrel said:
A lot of people may say I'm applying the same brush to a lot of 16 year olds but hey it's what I believe from what I see around me. You don't get the protective parents either.
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Probably won't be long until SHE wants to be the protective parent. Good luck with that :p .
 
St0rmer66 said:
Probably won't be long until SHE wants to be the protective parent. Good luck with that :p .
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weve spoken about the whole teenage pregnancy, protection is always used, plus the pill works ;)

were both too young for any of that.
 
Mekrel said:
Can't see why you would be interested in a 16 year old?

I've never come accross a sensible 16 year old who doesn't think of themselves and that a relationship is nothing but a status to be had.

This coming from someone who was seeing a 16 year old back when I was 18, and it was nothing but me me me me, and it wasn't about her you soon knew about it.

We're talking about someone who hasn't even made the decision of what path she wants to take in terms of education yet.

I'm currently seeing a 27 year old at the age of 20 and the difference in the quality of time together is staggering, and I would rather take sand paper to my testicles and dip them in a bowl of salt and vinegar than try for a relationship with such girls again.

A lot of people may say I'm applying the same brush to a lot of 16 year olds but hey it's what I believe from what I see around me. You don't get the protective parents either.
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There are lots of people who cant imagine why on earth a 27 year old girl would date a 20 year old guy..
 
St0rmer66 said:
Probably won't be long until SHE wants to be the protective parent. Good luck with that :p .
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Ha, nah. Even though she is 27, when she told me I was gob smacked. She doesn't look any older than 20, never seen anyone defy age so well.

Wasn't sure if 27 would be a problem, but it doesn't feel any different to seeing someone of my peer, sometimes it's weird to reminds myself that she is 7 years older.
 
Neoni said:
weve spoken about the whole teenage pregnancy, protection is always used, plus the pill works ;)

were both too young for any of that.
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Actually, I was talking to Mekrel.

But on contraception... the pill doesn't always work. What if she forgets to take it and doesn't realise until afterwards? My girlfriend used to use the pill but changed to the more reliable contraceptive injection which lasts 12 weeks. She's now had the "coil" put in her arm which will last 3 years. Both of these methods are as close to 100% effective as you're going to get.

BTW I'm nearly 19 and my girlfriend is 18, been together roughly 1year and 3months.
 
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Balddog said:
There are lots of people who cant imagine why on earth a 27 year old girl would date a 20 year old guy..
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Quite correct, I thought when we told each other how old we were when we first started speaking that would be the end of anything more than friendship.

However, for 20 I've been told I have a sensible head of young shoulders so maybe she doesn't see age as a problem.

All I can go by, is when being 16 myself, girls in my year were always dating older guys and it came down to the fact they were spoilt by them. I can't count how many 20 year old kevs drive around my town at night, with good ol' Shaz with her looped ear rings, barely being able to peep over the dash board in the passenger seat.
 
Well, may as well offer my experiences.

In my life, I've had a semi-serious relationship, and a very serious one that I'm still in now. Both times, one or both parents wouldnt let us be in the house alone, or be in her room alone, even though we were both the same age. Now considering the fact that you're 2-3 years older than her, her parents are bound to feel exactly the same.

Basically, you'll rarely find two parents who will let their 16 year old daughter do whatever with another boy. To be honest, you're lucky that one of them allows it.
 
Mekrel said:
All I can go by, is when being 16 myself, girls in my year were always dating older guys and it came down to the fact they were spoilt by them. I can't count how many 20 year old kevs drive around my town at night, with good ol' Shaz with her looped ear rings, barely being able to peep over the dash board in the passenger seat.
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dont drive. we dont go out clubbin' we go walks on a night time, find a bench to relax on, watch tv, go cinemas, cook together, go shopping together.

plus i aint a chav lol.
 
Nitefly said:
I'm not sure quite what part of that made me smirk... but I smirked :p
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lol oh my. you dont think i am do you? im more metal than your mo's kettle. lol. just dont dress it lol.
 
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