I think my only advice would be to think of the situation in reverse, you being in her position and how you would want things.
To get to 18st6 you must have been eating fairly unhelathily and in quite large quantities. How have you managed to change your attitude to food so drastically that you are now happy on so little every day?
Serious question btw...
I don't think it is too unfair to call someone size 14 'chubby', even though it might not be polite. My girlfriend certainly isn't 'thin', nor fat and she is size 12. Hell, I would describe a man of size 36/38 as chubby, depending on height and other factors obviously.I do slightly object to you using 14 and chubby in the same sentence.
Would you expect her to stand by you if lets say you were in an accident, couldnt exercise anymore, and therefore put weight on? Surely love is about more than just how a person looks? Shes still the same person at the end of the day![]()
What crap. If someone is becoming fat in a relationship to the extent it is becoming a problem, it has to be mentioned and dealt with. If I got fat (I am getting larger due to lack of exercise) then I would fully expect my girlfriend to tell me to get into shape. It would be unreasonable to instantly dump someone without giving them a chance to rectify, but that isn't what the OP has done.your girl is getting fat and now you wont stick your member in her because you dont fancy her anymore, but you come to a reasoning that your leaving her for HER own good, but really you want to stick your member in other girls now.
sucks to be your girl, i say shes better without such a coward.
Is a size 18 actually that big?
Depends on her height to an extent, but it's not startlingly big.
Here's a picture of a woman who's size 18:
http://uksexylingerie.blogspot.com/2008/02/red-babydoll-size-18-xxl-sale-item.html
Good for youThanks all... I'm basically doing all I can, and I'm being very honest. I've been open to her about my feelings, she knows, and this was all more apparent last night that changes need to be made.
Its like I've said, we set a goal of healthy eating as best possible without denying everything... Swimming three times a week - hour each time, some light walking with the dogs and aim to reduce sizes till she reaches what she feels more comfortable with.....
she is actually a very large 18 almost 20 depending, so she has a lot of work to do, and so do I. that sort of weight gain isn't easy to shift, but it can be done. I don't think she'll ever get to size 10 again. she was verging on 12 before the treatments anyhow. size 16 /14 will be enough so show she's done all she can.
I would never 'just' leave her without giving her a chance..... She admitted at the weekend, she can fix this. she is eating less bits n bobs through the day and having two set meals. Fatty food intake is being cut out, and we'll see how it goes....
the good news for me, is that after about a month of me attempting to encourage, getting frustrated, watching her do nothing other then eat and sleep has now turned into a totally different week. But we've still got a long way to go..