Reviving an old Post (awaiting disapproval)
My issue is similar but very different circumstances. I'm in temporary accomendation and have been since December, I guess you could say...it's been hell. You would think people would stick to their tenancy agreement and be cautious about making noise as complaints go back to the council but they don't care either. I got moved from one temporary accommodation to another because I complained about noise... In a way it felt like I was being punished for complaining. It's in the past now with that noisy neighbour but the woman thought her kids screams right outside my door were just
and she thought me asking to not hear her kids screams ALL day were me wanting to
. She would let them scream, cry, run, go into other people's rooms and bathroom without permision... They were so loud you could hear them down the road. I did once ask her politely at 6am to turned down the volume as it was out in the hallway right outside my door, she was just letting her son who is 4 years old, have a massive tantrum. Sorry but if it's your child, your responsibility. That may sound harsh but the amount of times I saw her chat away on her phone without a care in the world while her kids ran riot making everyone else's day a misery. Any way, I'm glad I got moved from that place. I think she thinks she won as I got moved but I got moved to play where there's shops near by and is more convenient for me, that place was in the middle of nowhere.
Getting to my point slowely. .
To the original poster or anyone in a similar situation...as I'm guessing the op has sorted the problem as this post was ages ago now... Is to just move. Yes it's inconvenient but in the short term for your own health, just bite the bullet and be done with it. I'm glad I don't have to see that woman anymore and hear those screams all day or the banging on my door yes they banged on my door and the mother didn't try to stop that either. That's the downside to confronting the parent and politely asking for the noise to get lowered, it could get worse. In that place I was on the first floor and when someone moved in below me, I actually went down and introduced myself and apologized if she could hear me walking around as the ceilings were thin. I'm polite like that, I hate to make noise...that's just the way I am. She was said it's fine but I still went out for most of the day, yes to get away from the house I was having to put up with but also so I could give my neighbour downstairs a break from hearing me walk around.
Anyway back to my currrent problem, I'm on the ground floor now...it's relatively quiet in the day with the occasional door slamming...for some reason everyone loves slamming their doors even though the doors don't need to be slammed to be shut. My upstairs neighbour comes in between 6-7pm most days and she let's her child scream and jump up and down like a kangaroo until about half 10. Now for some people this is reason but I've got a 6 month old sleeping below and it would be nice if I could have an earlier night for a change. Don't get me wrong, this place is like heaven to the other place but as someone who's lived in a house my whole adult life, having a kid bounce up and down above me for hours, gives me one massive headache. Doesn't help I've still got anxiety from the last place, I get nervous with lots of noise and it seems to trigger me..I feel this anger in me when I know people could be quieter but they chose not to be. Don't get me wrong, I know everyone has different schedules but I don't get why my upstairs neighbour felt the need to Hoover at 8am... I was still asleep, lovely thing to wake up too.
I know some people are going to think your baby must make noise
. The last place we was in, one of my neighbours didn't realised I had a baby until she saw her at over a month old... So yes I've been blessed with a quieter crier and I'm one of those mums that rushes around to make sure the crying doesn't go on for too long so I don't disturb others. So considering I have a baby, I think I'm a quiet neighbour. If my baby is too loud then I try teething gel or the dummy, also take her outside in the communal garden. I will remain this considerate when my daughter is a toddler. Having children does not give them the right to be rude and ruin other people's peace and quiet in their own homes, if someone in the future moaned at me for the noise levels of my child, I would apologize profusely and found a solution. I feel soft parenting has made parenting so relaxed that if you ask a parent to discipline, it's like talking another language to them
. It's not that hard, if you want your children to be respectful adults, teach them while they're young. I treat others how I want to be treated but unfortunately I havent had the best of luck with considerate neighbours...hopefully I will one day. Felt I needed to comment after reading replies from angry parents who obviously don't consider others.
