Question about cheating...

Yes. If I was her, I would want to know my husband was a ****.

You could say that telling is not fair. But surely not telling is even more unfair.
 
Freefaller said:
In anger - possibly.

In cold sober thought, no. Why break a home? It's none of my business. I don't meddle in other people's lives, it's not for me. If I was directly affected by this, then my outlook may be different, but as a bystander I think whilst people feel it would be the "right thing" to do, I can't help but feel it would also cause more trouble than good. The affair might be a short lived thing (not that I'm condoning it) and the person may realise the errors of his ways and go back to this family and have a great life.

It's not straight cut for me.
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Pretty much sums up my thoughts, in anger I'd probably want to do whatever I could to get back at them but really in the end you could end up destroying his wife and children's family and I wouldn't like to live with myself knowing it was in any way my fault.
 
I don't know if I'd say anything or not, but I can imagine it would be very difficult not to in that situation. On one hand if they were head over heals with one another then he'd have to tell his wife and kids sooner or later. On the other hand if it went sour and the affair ended, I'm sure my girl would kick up a fuss and his wife would find out anyway further down the line.

So either way, his wife will find out.
 
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I wouldn't do anything for a while due to the raw nature of the situation.
Once you tell someone something that's it, you can't undo it but until then you still have the option. Although it might feel as though 'he' should pay the price of his actions, two wrongs don't make a right and I feel it would be wrong to knowingly break up a family out of spite.
 
If I had the means to do so soon after the break then I probaly would, but as stated above more out of anger and a want to hurt them than anything else.

If some time had passed and I had calmed down a bit then probaly not once I had time to think about the implications.
 
Yes. If I was her, I would want to know my husband was a ****.
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He's done it once, he'll probably do it again. In fact he's probably going to keep on seeing your mate's gf. Better that these things come out earlier rather than later.
 
If you want revenge, beat the pizzle outta him. That won't break up their home, but will maybe teach him a lesson, and quite possibly make your friend feel better.
He had to know about your friend being the boyfirend surely. So he is morally vacant so to speak as he carried on with the affair. he deserves a hurting, but his kids don't so much.
Give him a good shoe'ing! Alpa-styleeyyyyy.

edit: if you're a pacifist, then contact him and threaten to tell his wife....see if he'll sweat a while. Have some fun with that! :)
 
the devastation of the wife and family is not something that I would want on my mind.
It will happen eventually or they will get back on track and be ok, but that is for them to do.

I can understand why, in anger, the man would do it though.
 
Question is... is the wife hot?

If she is, then why not just do a trade? :)

Oh a more serious note, if I had a wife, and they were cheating, no matter the heart ache I'd want to know.
 
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my advice to him was to do nothing, the married guy will be going nuts not knowing when/if his wife finds out.

(it was a 6 month+ affair)
 
If I were your friend, I'd be dealing with my own situation and not making a mess of any more lives. I don't know if that would be the right thing to do or not but it feels right to me.
 
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