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richyfingers

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I hope this isn’t classed as a medical thread since I really need some advice here.

I’ve been sort of seeing this girl for a couple of weeks, very casual and last night the condom split. She said that she thinks she will be ok since she is due soon but in my mind it’s just a crazy risk to take. I’ve spoken to her a few times about it this morning and I’ve been suggesting it a lot as an option but she seems very reluctant to take it and I don’t know what to do. She isn’t a religious person so I know it doesn’t stem from that. She actually got quite angry with me at one point, I just feel if it was me in her position I would take the pill, no question, unfortunately its not and I’ve been worried sick about it all night. I know the chances are slim but it’s a risk I’m not willing to take.

Am I being unreasonable in all of this? Because if I am I just don’t see it considering the risk involved.
 
You're not being unreasonable in wanting to be safe, but ultimately it's her body and if she refuses to take the morning after pill it's her choice.

Is she on the contraceptive pill?
 
well, she cant be that religeous mate, sex before marriage and all that, how long you been together? she needs to decide what she is going to do you need to go get an STD screening.

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richyfingers said:
She said that she thinks she will be ok since she is due soon but in my mind it’s just a crazy risk to take.
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She thinks she is OK during one of the most fertile periods in her cycle?

:confused:
 
I hear brazil is looking nice for the next 18 years...



Isnt just before she comes on the best time for (highest chance of) her becoming pregnant?
 
She just said she sees it as a form of abortion. No she’s not on the pill, like I said were just very casual at the moment not been seeing her long 2-3 weeks.
 
Well it was in the news today that the replacement for the CSA will hunt you down even after death.

Seriously I think you need to have a good long chat or go and buy a ring just in case
 
Defcon5 said:
Isnt just before she comes on the best time for (highest chance of) her becoming pregnant?
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Highest pregnancy chance can be had two weeks before the beginning of a period, i.e the end of the first week in the cycle - when ovulation occurs.

Before the end of the first week technically she can't get pregnant as she hasn't ovulated but the catholics are pretty sure fire evidence that this can go awry.

I shouldn't know this. :\
 
richyfingers said:
She just said she sees it as a form of abortion.
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It's people like this that ruin their lives, your life and the kids life :mad:

In my opinion abortion should be 50/50. Should be a veto system like the UN. If you say no then that's how it is as it's just not fair on the kid.

:edit: damn stupid double posts.

There's no reason she should be less likely to become pregnant at this time in her cycle apart from that the uterus is a probably at it's most hostile (i.e the hardest time for the egg to bed down successfully). This is probably what she's hinting at but it's by no means a "meh don't worry about it".

This happened to me the on my first time (great) and was well hectic trying to find a pill at 5pm when everywhere is shut. Happened twice actually, probably the reason for my loathing of condoms.
 
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richyfingers said:
No she’s not on the pill, like I said were just very casual at the moment not been seeing her long 2-3 weeks.
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She may have been on the pill for other reasons, but if she isn't and she refuses the morning after pill the pair of you might be in trouble.

The only advice anyone here can honestly give you is to get off the PC and go and talk to her.
 
Kell_ee001 said:
You're not being unreasonable in wanting to be safe, but ultimately it's her body and if she refuses to take the morning after pill it's her choice.
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I disagree with this. Of course it's 'her body' but if she gets pregnant the liability is then split, this guy is held responsible and it should cease to be solely her decision.

I'd stress that she should take it, not much else you can do really. Good luck
 
No you are not being unreasonable. Unless her cycles are like clockwork and she knows on which day of her cycle she ovulates she cannot say that there is no chance she is pregnant. People have got pregnant during their period; doesnt happen often, but it does happen.

As Kell_ee001 said does she take a contraceptive pill? If taken correctly it is 100% effective (and before anyone says different the quoted effectiveness is around 99% but that is allowing for people not taking it correctly or being ill (vomitting or diarrhoea) shortly after taking it).

Maybe she is unsure about Levonelle. It does not cause nausea (the older and now discontinued Schering PC4 made you sick, this one doesnt). You dont have to remember to take a second pill 12 hours after the 1st (again that was the Schering PC4 and the older version of Levonelle which is now only ONE tablet rather than 2). There are no real side-effects; yes it can slightly upset you next cycle. People take it multiple times without incident. The sooner you take it after the act the more effective it is, although it can work up until 72 hours after the event; and even after this and for a few days if you get a coil fitted it does the same job. It retails at £25.00 ish, but she can get it free from Brook or family planning clinics/GP prescription; just in case the money is an issue. Also remember if she does decide to buy it (and the Chemist is sticking to the letter of the law) she will have to present either by herself or with you in tow as they need to speak to the woman in question.

Yes you did the deed you take the consequences but you are trying to be responsible and prevent what would be (at least by you definately) a possible unwanted pregnancy. Is she willing to allow you to abdicate all responsibility if she doesnt take the tablet and falls pregnant; I doubt it.

I hope you get it sorted out. Its hard to say but try not to pressure her too much. Maybe ask her why other than she doesnt think she is pregnant she doesnt want to take it and go from their.

Please don't delete this post as being "medical advice" - yes I am a pharmacist and have also been through fertility treatment, but nothing I have said isnt easy to obtain public domain stuff.
 
Id try again for that morning after pill discussion.

No disrespect but she sounds a touch on the friutloop side. Its only 3 weeks, id bail already if she is this stupid about the issue.

edit: good luck lol :)
 
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