Relathionship - again

Dr Jones said:
Yes there is... women have an uncanny skill of turning the situation around and making it like its your fault because you're questioning her and the trust between each other. Along with their skill of guilt, they can do a lot of harm.
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true and not, if he tells her he thinks its a bad idea/he doesnt like it she will be suspicious and then wont try anything :p

on the other hand she might leave him which solves the problem, not the ideal way but still
 
I would be very concerned. Ask her to put herself in your position, would she be happy if you were going to your ex's house for dinner?
 
Same thing happened to me. 6 months in her ex suddenly started calling and texting her. She claimed he was harassing her but refused to change her number as it would hurt him! She told me he never wanted to see her again so was dropping some of her old stuff off. I saw her that evening and she said theyd been out for lunch, how glad she was she had got rid of him and how he looked really run down and she really didnt fancy him anymore. All was good I thought!

A few weeks later I have suspicions and she'd been emailing him loads since that date and cheating on me with him. So NO you can ask her all you like but she wont necessarily tell you the truth. I know my ex didnt tell me the truth despite me asking her if she was OK, etc. She even claimed she had no idea why she went out with him in the first place!!

Notice the use of the term ex as I dumped her soon after. In my opinion you can be friends with an ex but going out to dinner and spending one on one time with them is a sure sign they still have feelings for each other. My ex would never have told me she was cheating unless I'd found the emails she has been sending as she likes to print stuff off the dozy cow!!

You can try asking her but if she really does have feelings for him she's not going to tell you! You'll only find out when she's back with the other guy :(
 
Burnsy2023 said:
Ahh, a well thought out post with useful advice. Be a shame to break the habit of a lifetime eh?

Burnsy
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omg I lol'd I was going to put "I wonder who will do the ovaries" but Im too late I see. great come back.

were they friends before bf/gf? if not - kick him in the ovaries. why did they start talking again in the first place? and coffee together? whats the reason behind that????

Im going to let lose the "needs to be more alpha" sentiment.
 
M0T said:
Tell her that blokes don't invite ex's over for dinner unless they want something other than friendship, make it so that you dont trust him and are worried he might grope her or something. Whatever you do don't make it seem like you don't trust her.

But it does sound bad, by the looks of it shes up for it as much as he is.
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1 of the best advice been said in here! :)
 
I wouldn't be happy about my gf being so friendly with her ex even if I was sure nothing was going on. Some things are just not done and having a late dinner with an ex when you are in a new relationship is one of them. She is either cheating on you or she is being very incosiderate towards your feelings. Either way it doesn't look good.
 
tbh just tell her the truth - you think he is playing her and she is running into a trap and she is blatantly encouraging it in your face.

I would blow up tbh. first sign my gut feeling is telling me something Im out the door. I have ignored it before and I only ended up finding out I should have listened all along.
 
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