Relational issues...

OH wah wah wah boo ******* hoo. Who are you to tell her what she can and can't do?
She probably thinks oh my god what if my dadS think its wrong.

Get a grip. If she wants to do it let her. She can do it wherever and whenever she wants. You should lighten up. "controlled house party"... seriously you sound like an old gimp.

Lighten up, let her do what she wants. Not your business to be quite honest.
 
OldCoals said:
in fact you sound a bit like her dad, maybe you are driving her away?
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Why wouldnt he sound like her 'dad', presumably he looks out for her and cares about her as much as her father would?

I hardly think he's driving her away just because he doesn't think having a pill popper druggy for a girlfriend is a good idea?
 
MiNxYyY said:
Let her do drugs.

When it backfires and she's sat there in a hospital bed, tell her you told her so and walk away.
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This....just let her try it...she will only learn the hard way;) and that happens to be the best lesson she will get but on the otherhand she might actually enjoy it and then 'get on it' so to speak but by then i would have dumped her and let her rot in her drug infested world if she wants to.
 
Psy-Blade said:
I've decided to let her try it at a small house party
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Sorry who are you, her Dad?

If she wants to take drugs and shes an adult then there's nothing you can do to stop her. The more you try and do so, the more she's going to want to.

You don't own her, nor can you control what she does. Plus the "we're in a rut" means i'm bored and aren't sure if we should be together anymore. Sorry but speaking as a girl, thats what it means.
 
knip said:
If she wants to take drugs and shes an adult then there's nothing you can do to stop her.
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If she wants to live her life like that, she should do it as a single girl. Relationships are a partnership and if one is happy to do things the other finds uncomfortable, why are they bothering?
 
[TW]Fox;17429444 said:
Why wouldnt he sound like her 'dad', presumably he looks out for her and cares about her as much as her father would?

I hardly think he's driving her away just because he doesn't think having a pill popper druggy for a girlfriend is a good idea?
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She has moved, she said they are in a rut, he will allow her to try drugs, she can try a small house party.
 
[TW]Fox;17429527 said:
If she wants to live her life like that, she should do it as a single girl. Relationships are a partnership and if one is happy to do things the other finds uncomfortable, why are they bothering?
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Maybe shes doing it in an attempt to rebel (they have been together since they were both fairly young) and now shes moved to London she's seeing what life (either good or bad) has out there. If she knows her OH won't like her taking drugs maybe shes doing it in an attempt to get him to break up with her due to his disapproval, so that he's the one who finished with her.
 
[TW]Fox;17429527 said:
If she wants to live her life like that, she should do it as a single girl. Relationships are a partnership and if one is happy to do things the other finds uncomfortable, why are they bothering?
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She has moved away, a pretty good indicator she wants to be single.
 
Paul11 said:
its simple. its her choice what she does


you have the option to comment and offer your opinion but beyond that you have to let her make her own choices in life

you have your choices, and if it turns out that its something she does too often and you dont like it, then you have the choice to leave her

each to their own and all that......and probablly the best way to keep her to is let her be herself

and i agree, dont be there when she does it
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totally agree

When i first met my gf we were in a group of friends, and she tried a white powdery drug for the 1st or 2nd time ever... I declined and let them all get on with it as its not my thing. Anyway since we became gf and bf, right at the start i told her that if shes going to do it again, im off. That was over 2 years ago and she hasnt had it ever again.:)
 
I feel sorry for your girlfriend is she thinks having a good life experience is about popping pills and doing drugs.

Completely agree with Fox too, if I was in a relationship and my partner wanted to dabble in drugs, then she isn't the person for me.

If someone feels their life isn't complete and needs to fulfil it with drug kicks, then they can do it with their sorry selves.
 
Going against the opinion of lots of people here but I also don't think dabbling in a few drugs while you're young will do any long term harm as long as she has a good head on her shoulders. I haven't touched the stuff personally but I know quite a few people who do things every now and then who seem fine.

Why's she doing it? Because you told her not to (rebelling), curiousity, peer pressure who knows? Maybe she knows your stance on drugs too well and is provoking you.
 
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