relationship problems :/ whos in the wrong?

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hi guys,

Just wondering if someone can give me an opinion hear.

basically i met this girl on holiday in greece last year, nothing happened in greece, nothing out of the ordinary, this was august last year.

in about mid november we started texting and i found out she lives about 2 hours away from me. weve been getting pretty close recently, and the only reason were not going out is cos of the distance...
she sed she really likes me and i really like her too.

however on saturday she went to a friends for a sleepover and ended up doing stuff with a guy there (that apparently she has liked for a while but not told me)

she is now telling me that she doesnt want to be anything more than friends and ive said to her that that would be really hard on me because i like her so much having to only think of her as friend would (and does) really hurt me.

and now shes getting annoyed with me because i cant accept that she just wants to be friends with me now :( and we've been arguing since monday and i havent slept since then :(

what do you think i should do? am in the wrong here?

sorry if this sounds stupid :/

im only 16 and really dont know what to do....

cheers

ali
 
You were only ever just friends by the sound of it, just cut contact it'll make it much easier for you to deal with.
 
Neither of you are in the wrong. You weren't an item, she went to a party and had a bit of Roshambo with another guy. Thing is, if you haven't seen her since August, and the distance is there, it's pretty tough on both of you.

Personally, I'd just forget it and move on.
 
your only 16.

forget her and move on,life will through many hurdle's at you and women is the major one.

find one a bit closer to home.
 
hellarda said:
im only 16 and really dont know what to do....
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Go back to school and learn about punctuation, spelling and grammar. Then buy a map to find the the sacred caps lock button.

No seriously, erm, ok. Right this sounds like a first crush tbh. She lives two hours away so if she wants to be friends only, and you don't want that, then just lose the contact. There's plenty more fish in the sea, especially Japanese women if you like international birds.

If you want more and she doesn't, pushing the issue usually doesn't work unless she becomes desperate or you're in a Hollywood movie.
 
tom_e said:
You were only ever just friends by the sound of it, just cut contact it'll make it much easier for you to deal with.
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thats what she keeps saying, but the stuff she was saying implies completely the opposite!

ive only just come out of a similar situation with someone else (this one last two years tho) and i havent seemed to have learnt from my mistakes it seems :/
 
It doesn't sound to me like it's going to happen for the two of you. She may have led you on a bit, but let's face it, (I'm assuming) she's a 16 year old girl and things change at the drop of a hat, I remember it well.

The fact that you live so far away from each other is going to make it really easy for her to just change her number and cut you off if she wants to - so you need to decide whether it's enough for you to be friends with her or if you want to sever ties and see it as a holiday romance that didn't end up happening, and chalk it up to experience.

Is she with this other guy now, or was it just that night?
 
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