Relationship thread with a difference.

My wife does this thing that seems quite smart. When she wants to say something horrible to me she says "I love you" instead.

At first I thought it was quite weird but I guess it's good to remind yourself of this in the heat of the moment.

Agree that communication is very important. It sort of enables everything else.

Flowers are cheap especially compared to the peace and quiet they buy you. Do the cost benefit on this on and you will realise you should be buying them whenever the old ones are on the way out.

Agree on not getting lazy too. Get her some treats from Lovehoney every so often.
 
Relationships are the easiest thing in the world if you're with the right person. If either of you have to 'try' at any point at all then it's not right.

I've been in a relationship and due to marry this September. We have been together since 2007 and I can 100% honestly say we have not had 1 single argument in that time. Lived together since 2009 and been on a dozen holidays and no fall outs, no arguments, no shouting.

It's very simple. Just respect each other for who you are.

If you love each other, then no need to do anything specific.



Just respect each others views, interests, needs and wants and hopefully you have enough in common to enjoy time together but enough different things to keep it interesting.
Don't complain if they spend time away from you doing other things.



1 thing I will say though as we are no doubt mostly gamers here - invest in another PC / Console / TV etc in another room. So many people I hear having arguments because they are playing games and the OH wants to watch TV.
I've got PS3 in 1 room, PC in another and 360 in another. That way anyone can do anything at any time!!


Just be mature and open


And guys - just because they won't sleep with you twice a day does not mean they don't fancy you as much as you fancy them or that they don't love you! lol
 
blitzwing85 said:
Relationships are the easiest thing in the world if you're with the right person. If either of you have to 'try' at any point at all then it's not right.

I've been in a relationship and due to marry this September. We have been together since 2007 and I can 100% honestly say we have not had 1 single argument in that time. Lived together since 2009 and been on a dozen holidays and no fall outs, no arguments, no shouting.

It's very simple. Just respect each other for who you are.

If you love each other, then no need to do anything specific.



Just respect each others views, interests, needs and wants and hopefully you have enough in common to enjoy time together but enough different things to keep it interesting.
Don't complain if they spend time away from you doing other things.



1 thing I will say though as we are no doubt mostly gamers here - invest in another PC / Console / TV etc in another room. So many people I hear having arguments because they are playing games and the OH wants to watch TV.
I've got PS3 in 1 room, PC in another and 360 in another. That way anyone can do anything at any time!!


Just be mature and open


And guys - just because they won't sleep with you twice a day does not mean they don't fancy you as much as you fancy them or that they don't love you! lol
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Pretty much all of this. If you're naturally not a spontanious / overly-romantic person, don't try and be! It will appear unnatural / contrived.
Women in my experience like security, laughter and honesty - there are probably 10 other things I could add but it's best to keep it simple.
 
blitzwing85 said:
We have been together since 2007 and I can 100% honestly say we have not had 1 single argument in that time. Lived together since 2009 and been on a dozen holidays and no fall outs, no arguments, no shouting.
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My wife and I are like that, people seem quite confused when I tell them as apparently it isn't normal :confused: We've been together 12 years though, so what do they know? :p
 
postbox said:
Pretty much all of this. If you're naturally not a spontanious / overly-romantic person, don't try and be! It will appear unnatural / contrived.
Women in my experience like security, laughter and honesty - there are probably 10 other things I could add but it's best to keep it simple.
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Even so, it costs very little to do it occasionally. It's not what you produce as the surprise, but the fact that you had the care and concern to try. It is appreciated. :)


KillBoY_UK said:
Things you need to get a Girlfriend :

Money, power then maybe looks

90% of the time I've observed this to be true.
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I have no money (student), I have no power(though I have ambition), and I'm a tall gangly stickman.

How then have I managed to get a pretty lady?

:eek:
 
Communication is the most important thing. Without it you don't know what you are doing right, doing wrong or anything in between.
 
Was loads less hassle when you just bashed them over the head with your club & dragged them back to the cave.
 
Honesty, communication and the ability to laugh at/with each other is key. Everything else is just window dressing, particularly in the context of spending the next 40-60 years together...

It also helps if you have a 9" Tongue and can breathe through your ears...
 
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Based on my own experiences/observations:

Communication - Be open and honest once you're comfortable doing so. In the early days it's normal to build up to this stage in the relationship before fully opening up etc, but if this never happens, it just isn't right.

Trust - This isn't exclusive to relationships, but friendships and other bonds too. Trust must be earnt, and is a two way thing. Gain someone's trust by proving your worth, and let someone prove to you they're trustworthy.

Respect - Be a gentleman, be polite, courteous, caring and respectful. Respect your partner and his/her feelings, body and wishes.

Be yourself - If you feel like you have to change who you fundamentally are for someone, it isn't going to work. To echo previous comments, if you have to try hard in a relationship, then it's just not right.

Honesty - This falls under communication really, but obviously honesty is the best policy. Don't lie, cheat or deceive to get whatever it is you want out of someone/relationship.
 
ci_newman said:
My wife and I are like that, people seem quite confused when I tell them as apparently it isn't normal :confused: We've been together 12 years though, so what do they know? :p
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Haha yes I know what you mean - people don't believe you when you say it.
Seems quite unusual to get on so well these days.

Half the time you just have to be mature. Of course you will disagree on somethings but so what, that's normal. Having many different opinions is as important as having many of the same opinions and interests.
 
A few good tips I've picked up over the years:

1. A good smack in the face solves most arguments.
2. If not, the first sight of your skin suit should do so.
3. Women can't see in the dark. If things escalate, night vision goggles are your best friend.
4. It puts the lotion on its skin, or else it gets the hose again.
 
UncleRuckus said:
This is terrible advice! My missus would call me a faggot.

She detests those sorts of people, she likes "real men".
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Clearly skinny jeans and douchebag v neck tops are the way to go.

My misses thinks the same, doesn't mind what I wear, be it fully suited or rugby top and jeans. No one should need to emulate anyone's clothing style...
 
My advice for success of ten years is.

Don't be afraid of communicating issues.

Treat them like they are your best friend in the world.

Allow each other personal space.

Have nookie frequently!

Don't go to bed on a fight.

Listen!
 
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