Soldato
- Joined
- 20 Jun 2010
- Posts
- 3,251
Following on from Trust,
Needy is Never Needed.
Needy is Never Needed.
Relationship thread with a difference.
- Thread starter ChroniC
- Start date
Soldato
- Joined
- 20 Jun 2010
- Posts
- 3,251
I know somebody has already +1ed you, but I have to say, that is probably the worst advice i have ever seen with regards to relationships, and at odds with just about anything any marriage counsellor has ever said to one of their clients ever. Holding to Disney-esque fantasy love you will ping from person to person never finding happiness because there will always be something 'not right' that 'doesn't fit' because you 'had to try', because they are not you.
Last edited:
Are you not talking about something different though? Every "good couple" has hard times they have to work through (disagreements, compromising issues, differnt stages of commitement levels etc) These will ALWAYS happen with every healthy relationship regardless whether you do all the things the OP has suggested or not.
Hmm that said you will be hard pressed to find a woman who would say no to almost any movie star. They're not exactly badly dressed, and I hardly think you'd be a faggot for doing so. She likes real men is often a way of saying I'm not bothered your a fat badly dressed man.
I am honestly shocked with some of the comments that you don't try. I think maybe it's a mis-communication of the word "try", or maybe it's just me but I hate it when people say they get lazy and "let go" in a relationship.
It takes little effort to be the be a good examples of yourself and just because you think you have won a woman at the start doesn't mean to me that you can sit back and just become less. I'm not implying you should become someone else, just don't become something less. I think that's important.
Last edited:
Associate
- Joined
- 23 Mar 2011
- Posts
- 1,731
- Location
- Devon
+1
Hmm that said you will be hard pressed to find a woman who would say no to almost any movie star. There not exactly badly dressed, and I hardly think you'd be a faggot for doing so. She likes real men is often a way of saying I'm not bothered your a fat badly dressed man
Movie stars I'd agree with (although they get dressed by someone else most of the time) Sports stars on the other hand....
My wife and I are like that, people seem quite confused when I tell them as apparently it isn't normalWe've been together 12 years though, so what do they know?
It's the same with us, although we've only been together 5 years.
Maybe, I suppose I was just saying that a sense of style cannot harm, as women loves clothes and I well dressed man looks the part. Often or not people in the media eye are good examples.
Soldato
- Joined
- 4 Mar 2010
- Posts
- 5,038
ChroniC, I don't need to try your advice because I have been with the same lady for ten years and we are solid. For your information I'm not badly dressed nor overweight.Hmm that said you will be hard pressed to find a woman who would say no to almost any movie star. They're not exactly badly dressed, and I hardly think you'd be a faggot for doing so. She likes real men is often a way of saying I'm not bothered your a fat badly dressed man
She dislikes that metrosexual crap and finds male vanity hilarious. That's not to say she likes me to be unclean and scruffy either.
Caporegime
- Joined
- 28 Jun 2007
- Posts
- 52,812
- Location
- Tamworth, UK
Tell her you love her, every day.
Provide for her and protect her.
14 years together and 12 years married. Closer now than we were then.
Provide for her and protect her.
14 years together and 12 years married. Closer now than we were then.
ChroniC, I don't need to try your advice because I have been with the same lady for ten years and we are solid. For your information I'm not badly dressed nor overweight.
She dislikes that metrosexual crap and finds male vanity hilarious. That's not to say she likes me to be unclean and scruffy either.
I never implied you did (read my disclaimer).
How about you dispense some advice other than very static generalisations, i.e that being well dressed is metrosexual.
Last edited:
Soldato
- Joined
- 4 Mar 2010
- Posts
- 5,038
Sorry I didn't notice.
Here's a classic which I found out the hard way.
Never stare/look at her friends for too long, she is secretly watching you and will kill you later for it. Another is, I don't care is actually code for I care immensely, and if you don't choose the right thing, or do the right thing I will also punish you later.
I watched Rules of Engagement on TV the other day and the guy on it had a genius idea. (not sure it's a actual good idea but it would be funny)
Every time your other half does something silly, wrong or stupid write it down. Then whenever you do something silly and wrong and want to get out of it (which none of us ever remember in an argument) check back to the note and say, ahhhh but you remember when you did this.
Here's a classic which I found out the hard way.
Never stare/look at her friends for too long, she is secretly watching you and will kill you later for it. Another is, I don't care is actually code for I care immensely, and if you don't choose the right thing, or do the right thing I will also punish you later.
I watched Rules of Engagement on TV the other day and the guy on it had a genius idea. (not sure it's a actual good idea but it would be funny)
Every time your other half does something silly, wrong or stupid write it down. Then whenever you do something silly and wrong and want to get out of it (which none of us ever remember in an argument) check back to the note and say, ahhhh but you remember when you did this.
Last edited:
Soldato
- Joined
- 11 Sep 2011
- Posts
- 2,544
- Location
- Reykjavik, Iceland
Marriage guidance? Well as i'd never need that then I'm quite happy that my approach to a relationship differs from everything they would say.
I in no way implied that you should look for perfect love like in some fantasy tale. What I said is that if you meet someone and you love each other then there is nothing you need to do
I have that, and it's not love like in some disney fantasy as you mentioned. Love is simply a combination of different emotions and traits. Honesty, Trust, Care, Humor, Respect, Attraction, Maturity - things like that.
If you have these things in your relationship then what 'effort' do you have to do exactly?
There should be nothing extra.
When we disagree, we are mature enough and respect each other enough that it's not an issue.
That's what i'm saying
Man of Honour
- Joined
- 17 Nov 2003
- Posts
- 36,747
- Location
- Southampton, UK
I think you need to heed your own advice there. Most if not all of what you have said is static generalizations.
Man of Honour
- Joined
- 17 Nov 2003
- Posts
- 36,747
- Location
- Southampton, UK
I watched Rules of Engagement on TV the other day and the guy on it had a genius idea. (not sure it's a actual good idea but it would be funny)
Every time your other half does something silly, wrong or stupid write it down. Then whenever you do something silly and wrong and want to get out of it (which none of us ever remember in an argument) check back to the note and say, ahhhh but you remember when you did this.
Ahh yes, *** for tat arguments are always going to end well.
Ahh yes, *** for tat arguments are always going to end well.
Hence why I said it probably wasn't a good idea. It was a comedy show after all. Are you being a tool on purpose because if not, I think you should try a bit harder to be nice.
Man of Honour
- Joined
- 17 Nov 2003
- Posts
- 36,747
- Location
- Southampton, UK
I'll let that personal insult slide for the moment, but I suggest you wind your neck in before you get suspended.
My point was that your advice seems to be centred on shallow physical attributes rather than actually having a meaningful relationship. Perhaps you're not he best person to actually give advice and you should be listening to people like DiscoDave and blitzwing85?
Probably not a good idea calling an admin of the forum a tool. #justsayin