Sexual remarks at work

In 35-40 years time, when you can remember literally naff all about it, tell the police she molested you. Ah wait, perp is not a man. Never mind then.
 
I don't think it's a particularly big deal. As a trainer I've misjudged my audience before - it happens sometimes. If I was the trainer I'd rather the delegate spoke to me afterwards or perhaps spoke to my manager about it.
 
She sounds like she has repressed sexual energy. Either that or she thinks it's what people want to hear and find amusing.

But if you want to complain you should. It was definitely inappropriate. It sounds like you're afraid you will appear petty or uptight. But the truth is she was out of order and as it's in a workplace, it should be addressed. The point made about if it was a male making the remarks is worth considering too.
 
Maeve said:
She sounds like she has repressed sexual energy. Either that or she thinks it's what people want to hear and find amusing.

But if you want to complain you should. It was definitely inappropriate. It sounds like you're afraid you will appear petty or uptight. But the truth is she was out of order and as it's in a workplace, it should be addressed. The point made about if it was a male making the remarks is worth considering too.
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Thanks, I kind of abandoned this thread as everyone looked past the if it's right or wrong and just went straight for my throat stating I want to complain for the sake of it etc.

I've not bothered as it's not warranted, but I still find the workplace unfair in terms of 'sexual harassment'. As a man, we have to sit back and just listen to what ever awkward jokes/remarks are made, but the other way round it's a much more serious matter.

Just ****es me off really. If the banter is fine both ways, get stuck in! Have a laugh and throw innocent flirting around. But when it's not fine, both sexes need to keep a lid on it.

Oh, and the fact I'm not offended by the comments she made, sure it was bloody awkward, but I'm not easily or if at all offended. It's the nature of the comments that raised concern for me.
 
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Report her to the relevant people who work above her? Totally out of order if you ask me. If a bloke said half of that to a couple of women....he would be out of a job right now. Don't just let it slip....you cant let these double standards run rampant...
 
russell664 said:
But to be honest, I can't understand people who get offended over little things.
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Unfortunately, people are encouraged to leave aside their own judgements / powers of discretion in many a given situation, and let the state intrude more and more into their lives (hence the expression 'nanny state').
 
agnes said:
I've not bothered as it's not warranted, but I still find the workplace unfair in terms of 'sexual harassment'. As a man, we have to sit back and just listen to what ever awkward jokes/remarks are made, but the other way round it's a much more serious matter.
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no its not.

thats not even remotely true you don't even know if a man had taken the class if it would have been any different at all.

tyhe only possible way it could be is if you have the female teacher and YOU the man don't complain but if there's a male teacher who does the same and the female student complains and he gets disciplined.

The only reason that "you as a man" have to sit back and listen to it is because you have not reported it or more importantly you didn't do the sensible grown up thing and stick your hand up and say "excuse me can you stop with the sexual comments its making me unco0mfortable".


the only reason you had to sit through this and then whine about it on the internet as being "unfair" is because you don't have the balls to stand up for what you believe in unlike many women have done to make things change for them.

Congratulations the women in your office are more of a man than you.
 
Tefal said:
you don't have the balls to stand up for what you believe in unlike many women have done to make things change for them.
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Women whining and making out to be the victims of some massive male led conspiracy is not standing up for themselves, they're simply manipulating the equality culture that's around now to get their own way.
 
norm said:
Women whining and making out to be the victims of some massive male led conspiracy is not standing up for themselves, they're simply manipulating the equality culture that's around now to get their own way.
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Yes because that's what happened not like sexism and discrimination used to be rife in this country at all and they stood up and demanded equal rights.

I'm sure your right and it was all in their heads. You should have a conversation with your mum about how things used to be for women some time might open your eyes a little.


The op though yeah he's just whining.
 
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