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@Kronos we have the same 'brush arch'. It looks like your cats actually use it though!
Not really, Millie has on occasion used it but not often. The cat in the images is not my cat by the way just one that chooses to use my flat as a refuge from the cold nights.@Kronos we have the same 'brush arch'. It looks like your cats actually use it though!
The cat in the images is not my cat by the way just one that chooses to use my flat as a refuge from the cold nights.
I have one too, and the brush bit is completely ignored However put a bit of catnip on the base and she'll scratch it for ages... (well, for a whole minute or so until she gets bored )@Kronos we have the same 'brush arch'. It looks like your cats actually use it though!
As some of you might recall I inherited a 15 year old cat (Angel) from my mum when she died around three months ago. She is an incredibly nervous cat and literally scared of everything. We had never had a family cat, or other pet, before (although my parents had dogs when I was a kid). Angel is still unbelievably nervous at all times. Before my mum had her she was a rescue cat who I understand had not been treated well and had been left starving in an empty house for weeks before she was rescued. So she's had a difficult life and the recent loss of my mum and my mums partner within a few months would have been hard on her. She lost both people she knew, and then relocated many hours away from the area she was familiar with to my house. My house is also quite noisy with teenage kids. We've never had a family pet so I'm probably doing loads of things wrong. But I'm trying my best.
We've given her space and shown her as much love as we can when she seems to want it. In the early days she would nip us when she didn't want a stroke. Now she will still pretend to nip us but claws are pulled in and she never makes contact with teeth. She's just saying no rather than actually being scared now. We respect that. Usually we can tell her body language and stop before it gets to that. My kids and I love her although my wife isn't an animal person. Angel seems to know that and stays away from her but increasingly comes to us. She sometimes has this look of sadness in her eyes and even my kids have mentioned it. But other times she also has a look of happiness and contentment. She won't be cuddled and won't sit on our laps. She wants to be with us but at arms length in the same room. But over the few months she has gradually improved. She's starting to show signs of becoming a 'normal' cat. She's surprisingly social and wants me to sit with her a lot. If I'm working from home she will often come into the office, mew, and walk out, repeating it until I follow her and sit in the living room alongside her. At night she wants me to sit in the living room with her and she sits on the sofa behind my head or on the sofa near me. I fell asleep exhausted on the floor a few nights ago and woke up at 4am with her sitting next to me.
She's not used to play. My late mum was elderly and gave her the best life she could. But she was elderly, as is Angel. So both led a quiet, house bound, life. I've bought her a few toys and occasionally she will play with them. A few nights ago I was in bed and I could hear her running around, pouncing on a toy I got her. It made me happy. When we got her she was scared to go outside. Scared of everything. But she's becoming a little more confident. Luckily we have a very large fenced in garden, which she often goes outside to at night. She's staying out longer and longer. I was working from home a few days last week and I went outside and encouraged her to follow me. I kept moving further up the garden so she felt confident and would follow. She kept coming up to me, mewing and rubbing against me like a 'normal' cat but staying close. Today I was washing the car and she loved it because she could be outside the front of the house and confident it was safe with me out there.
I've not had a cat before so I am learning all of this. She's had an emotionally difficult life but I am trying to treat her as normal as possible and it does seem to be working. She's probably a bit old to change dramatically. But I want her to feel loved, that this is her home, and feel protected. From our side she certainly is loved.
Thank you both for the kind words. Garfield has eaten a whole pouch of food now as well as quite a bit of Pro-Plan and kept it all in so that's a good start. We have had lots of lap time and cuddles and I have just given him his next tablet with no problems. He really is such a good cat for giving pills and examining as he just lets you get on with it. We gave him a good wash earlier so he's nice and clean again. He actually liked being blow dried with the hairdryer on low and then I gave him a good brush which he always loves. Hopefully he (and I) will get a decent nights sleep tonight and we'll see how he is in the morning. He has the vets again tomorrow at some point but they will be phoning me with the last test results and then giving me a time to go up. I will keep you updated.