Significant age gaps in relationships

Of course betas will say that a man 10 years + dating a girl in her 20s is pervy, rapey, ect ect because they themselves cannot/could not get a girl themselves when they were in their 20s (unless she was bigger than them).

I remember a strange tweet on twitter last year, some beta wearing a horse head.. was rallying a twitter hate mob because a 29 year old man was going to marry a 23 year old girl.
 
Tosno said:
Of course betas will say that a man 10 years + dating a girl in her 20s is pervy, rapey, ect ect because they themselves cannot/could not get a girl themselves when they were in their 20s (unless she was bigger than them).

I remember a strange tweet on twitter last year, some beta wearing a horse head.. was rallying a twitter hate mob because a 29 year old man was going to marry a 23 year old girl.
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dont know if this is a joke or not. Alpha/ Beta BS doesn't even factor into it. those fat old slobs with a wife or gf 20 years younger aren't alpha, they are wealthy.

I had a gf 9 years younger than me at one point with us being 19 & 28 and I can say straight up that it was weird. Granted the older both parties get the less strange it becomes but it really depends on when you meet. 70 year old with a 50 year old is a little odd if the recently met but 40 with 20 is creepy.

It's the life experience and common ground. You need to be able to relate to what each other is going through in life.
 
Tosno said:
Of course betas will say that a man 10 years + dating a girl in her 20s is pervy, rapey, ect ect because they themselves cannot/could not get a girl themselves when they were in their 20s (unless she was bigger than them).

I remember a strange tweet on twitter last year, some beta wearing a horse head.. was rallying a twitter hate mob because a 29 year old man was going to marry a 23 year old girl.
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Strange toxic post, congrats.
 
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Often big age gaps don't work but sometimes you get people who seem made for each other despite significant age gaps.

Rannoch said:
When I was 20 I had an office romance with a woman who was 40. Best year of my life that was :D
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When I first started working where I am now there was a guy ~20 who was seeing a girl at work who was about 17-18 - sometime later it came out he'd been having an affair with the girls mum (who was mid 50s) for around a year.

And that was just the tip of the iceberg.
 
Rannoch said:
When I was 20 I had an office romance with a woman who was 40. Best year of my life that was :D
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Same here, when I was 18/19 had a bit of a 'friends with benefits' thing going on with a 35 year old married woman. Think I've posted before about some of the weird stuff that happened during that relationship.
 
Lysander said:
If you don't want kids I'd make that a [very] early relationship discussion. My wife and I had that discussion way before we married. The last thing you want is to find yourself in a situation where you don't want kids and she does, because that's only going to go one way.
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I think this is the best way to do it. Honestly, I think me and my girl touched lightly on what we want from life on our first date, no kids and no marriage was one of them and it's been great ever since, been together 5 years. She is 3 years younger than me at 33.
 
Lysander said:
If you don't want kids I'd make that a [very] early relationship discussion. My wife and I had that discussion way before we married. The last thing you want is to find yourself in a situation where you don't want kids and she does, because that's only going to go one way.
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Even so, people can change their minds about these things. It's not always set in stone. Been burned myself :(

Big age gaps - yeah it's unlikely you'll have much in common - especially if they are much younger. I was dating an 18 year-old when I was 29 and it was a wild ride and great fun at first but ultimately wasn't going to go anywhere after a couple of years. I also had a thing going on with a 26 year-old a while back which was again, fun, but no way would I have seen anything serious coming out of it. :eek:

I wouldn't want to date anyone in their 20's now to be honest - I'd feel like a boring "dad", cringing as they make the mistakes we all make at that age. Unfortunately 30's is a minefield of ticking biological clocks if they don't already have kids and above that, it's difficult to find anyone sane without baggage.

I appreciate that by not wanting kids and not wanting to deal with anyone else's, I'm selfish and have eliminated pretty much 99% of my potential dating pool. I already discovered that dating someone with kids can be a bloody headache so I'm happy to just plod along on my own with an easy life for now. On the plus side, I seem to have cut out the middle man as a lot of my friends are divorced/separated and skint now. :p
 
My Dad left my Mum December 1986 to go with a woman the same age as me (I'm one month younger) and they are still together. My Dad was 22 when he had me.
He looks a lot younger and she looks a lot older so they still don't look odd.

The biggest gap I know is a woman at work who has a son in law the same age as her (60) and her daughter is late 20s :( She can't stand him because he's an old fat slob but for some reason her daughter fell for him. I asked to see a picture of her daughter and she is gorgeous.
 
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