Social life fail

I have moved about a bit with work and so have very little social life. All my friends from back home have moved on and done there own thing.

Never really stayed in one place long enough to get a group.
 
NeoReloaded said:
That's the biggy in our group :(
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I think the key is to nip it in the bud the very first time it happens.

He should have made things very clear from the beginning, that he is allowed a social life, as is she. But as he didn't, it's always going to cause grief. I think it's getting better now but having said that, going out for a drink or catch-up is even less frequent so that's probably why.

I do not intend to end up in that position! No more lads holidays for the forseeable future either, well not with them anyways, and to be honest that's understandable but still far from ideal.
 
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Me and my mates are are all 22/23, a few of them have long term serious gf's and I can see our friendships going down this road at some point.

It's bad enough as it is when your social life is dictated by their relationships, I however refuse to let it stop me going out. I'd rather go out and have a few quiet beers with one mate than stay in and not go out at all. Besides, if you don't go out you never know what other opportunities might arise when you do so.
 
had the house, got the kids, everything went **** up.

now i got my single life again.

love it.


edit: 25, for the record.
 
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I have a friend who is 42 and in the same shoes as the OP.....

I'm 28 and my friends are starting to drift away in dribs and drabs. I will most likely join them in the coming months. :/
 
Paddy McGinty said:
Being Married and having a child is nice,maybe the OP should try it.
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But not everyone in the world wants to get married and have kids.

Either I'm the lucky one or I have very good friends. I still see most of my friends who are in relationships on a regulaur basis. My best friend of nearly 11 years, who is married with 2 kids, I still see 2 times a week without fail. Just like it was before he settled down.

Unfortunately we do have the so called friends who drop off the face of the earth soon as they find someone, no matter what age they are. In todays generation its down to so many having unplanned pregnancies or feel need to settle down quickly because they feel they are 'getting old' when they are far from it. Those are the people who end up becoming lonely later in life when their relationship falls apart and they have no friends around them because of their ignorance.

As the saying goes 'girlfriends and boyfriends come and go but friends will always be there'. That's why I hold onto mine and will never let them go no matter who i am in a relationship with.
 
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This kind of attitude really angers me!

Just because he cant come out or wants to get on with life means your angry!?

So your only friends because you get to go to the pub with each other?

Wheres the support, to help your friends where he needs you most?

Life does not start and finnish at the pub!

Be a real friend and celebrate the happy times he is going through.

Life does change, its hard to accept, but noting can stay the same forever.
 
Unfortunately OP, I did the same thing as your mates once I bought my first place, the children situation I have still to look forward to.

I would much rather stay in with a few beers and friends watching a movie, play PS3 etc than go out, mainly, I have to say, because of the spending side of things :(.

Try and arrange social get-togethers, I am sure their better halves will be more lenient letting them out more often if it's just round a mate's house :)
 
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