This basically sums it up.
Son got first job, fair rate for board
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This basically sums it up.
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Indeed.
I offered my parents money for my living expenses (food and electricity/water/gas) - it wasn't "rent" per se. It was out of respect after all they had done for me, and also it was just in between me finding my own place to live. Which 10+ years ago was easier.
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i paid £50 a week when i got a first job and lived at home. That was about 15 years ago. £50 pw seems pretty 'standard', even these days really.
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I started on 800ish a week and had to pay £200 a month. I've slowly had a few increases and now take home around £947 monthly and I pay £230.
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I'd say let him come to the decision voluntarily 
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I get around 950 a month, I have to pay £250 and pay something towards necessities like food, gas/electric. Which honestly is fair, since moving out would most likely cost upwards of 450 a month.
To those that are paying board @20-30% + of their monthly wage, how are you planning on saving up for a deposit for a house (assuming most will be aiming for this) in as short as time as possible? Those taking home 1k a month, and depositing 50% nets 6k a year, which will take 5 years in order to save up a substantial deposit for a mortgage. Also assuming you pay 25% rent, that only leaves you with 250 for the entire month for everything else.
I'm very thankful to my parents for not charging me board, partly due to my high commuting costs. My monthly wage typically breaks down as 25-30% for commuting, 60-70% goes into savings. And then i get about 5-10% to spend on personal things. My parents know I save the majority of my money and not out buying new tech and clothes every month. I know full well if i wasn't saving anything then they would insist i pay rent, and if they were struggling with paying the bills then of course i would gladly help out.
I'm very thankful to my parents for not charging me board, partly due to my high commuting costs. My monthly wage typically breaks down as 25-30% for commuting, 60-70% goes into savings. And then i get about 5-10% to spend on personal things. My parents know I save the majority of my money and not out buying new tech and clothes every month. I know full well if i wasn't saving anything then they would insist i pay rent, and if they were struggling with paying the bills then of course i would gladly help out.
The issue of how much you'd pay off you moved out is something that I feel is irrelevant. I find it a bit crass that some parents want to profit from the children they chose to have.
It sounds like they charge you rent, PLUS an amount in food and bills, which means they'll be making a profit.
I'm not against helping parents at all, especially with regards to the costs of living you are responsible for, but charging rent just seems unreasonable, especially when you could be putting that amount away for a deposit on a house.
And what if the child lives with the parents until late twenties, which is becoming increasingly common these days... should your parents pay the burden throughout all that time too?
It's amazing how some of you are fixating on this "children" word... we are talking about supposedly responsible adults with jobs or regular income here.
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Only thing I agree upon is if you ask for a set amount IE £50 a week then you cant ask for more towards food etc .
Trouble with some people seems to be a attitude of ME ME ME I need to get a house you had me your resposability which is utter rubbish.
Once a adult try acting like a adult maybe im old fashioned as they say but its given my kids a attitude of US US US not Just ME ME ME
Trouble with some people seems to be a attitude of ME ME ME I need to get a house you had me your resposability which is utter rubbish.
Once a adult try acting like a adult maybe im old fashioned as they say but its given my kids a attitude of US US US not Just ME ME ME
I never said pay the burden, you have to have ignored the majority of what I said to respond with what you said.
No one is fixating on "children" you're just misunderstanding the context it's being used in. A responsible adult can still be someone's child.
No one is fixating on "children" you're just misunderstanding the context it's being used in. A responsible adult can still be someone's child.
It's not utter rubbish at all, it's addressing the notion that children are indebted to their parents based solely on the virtue of them bringing you in to this world and looking after you. Any parent who thinks that is selfish. It's nothing to do with being "a" adult in the context you've given.
What you are also overlooking is that charging your kids rent, and profiting from them is directly responsible to them taking longer to move out and be "a" adult. Helping with the costs you are responsible for its a completely different matter.
The problem stems from current parents who have benefited from the housing boom. It's no wonder the people of my generation have to either live at home until their late twenties, or subject to filling a landlords pocket with high rent for a good portion of their working lives. Speaking with friends at work/outside of work, who are living on their own and paying rent to a landlord are struggling to save any money to make some form of a deposit for a house/mortgage.
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Well we will agree to disagree ive done it had three kids/adults now and always
charged a token amount to cover food/gas/elec/etc what they use.
My kids all now earn far more than me and live in there ownplaces but raising this way
worked out fine they love family ties that much they refuse to move
more thana mile away from there mom and dad ...So I guess each case is different
charged a token amount to cover food/gas/elec/etc what they use.
My kids all now earn far more than me and live in there ownplaces but raising this way
worked out fine they love family ties that much they refuse to move
more thana mile away from there mom and dad ...So I guess each case is different
It's not about agreeing to disagree, you're arguing against things I haven't said.
I'm talking profiting, using the excuse or justification of "they owe me after everything I've done for them", you're talking about helping out and contributing. They're not the same things.
Sorry, but if you actually have to say something so patently obvious, then you and I are discussing things on mildly different levels of complexity.
Anyway my question still stands... would you not charge a late mid/late twenties year old rent even if they were earning a proper salary but hadn't moved out yet?
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If their intentions were to save the majority of that salary for purchasing a house - then no, at least that way they'll be able to afford to move out within a year or two. Otherwise they'll need to stay a lot longer in order to make some substantial savings, gave an example in my previous reply.
I would be ashamed to be at home in my late twenties, earning a full salary and not paying rent or some form of reasonable upkeep, regardless of whether I was intending to save for a house or not.
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I would be ashamed to be at home in my late twenties, earning a full salary and not paying rent or some form of reasonable upkeep, regardless of whether I was intending to save for a house or not.
That's how I felt, and hence why I contributed.
However, many of my friends didn't even bother to cook, do their own washing and relied on being mollycoddled in their 20s!
I appreciate the expense of living away from home, and that not everyone can do it. Taking the **** by not pulling your finger out and helping in the house is frankly pretty pathetic.