"The Crazy" Part II: Another non-relationship thread

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Sigh.

OK, so the guy from "The Crazy" Part I has actually disappeared off the face of the Earth. This is probably a good thing, him being older than me and somewhat of a settled grown-up man, and he wasn't really all that attractive anyway...

So what is Sara now going to waffle about? Closure and all that stuff.

So there was a guy I spent a lot of last year drooling over. A big Scot hailing from near Edinburgh way (but who now lives an hour away from me). Eventually I got the guts to make it clear I liked him, and it came to pass that he wasn't interested - so FINALLY I was able to go "Oh, OK", scrub him from the 'potentials' list and carry on. Actually quite easy to do once you know for sure.

So last week I was back with the gang that includes him (mates from old workplace), had a brilliant week skiing in the Alps, playing cards and being merry, and suddenly he was much more friendly that he'd ever been before. Prolonged eye-contact, asking interested questions about the things I get up to and enjoy doing, discussing future plans and frustrations with life, laughing at all my awful jokes and quips, talking about visiting Bristol, leaving 'x's at the end of his text messages, taking an unusually high number of pictures of me (+ scenery), choosing to sit next to me almost every time (group of 11)...

All minor stuff really but rather a change from before. It should probably be noted that I've lost nearly two stone since I last saw him.

So now, he's clawed his way up to the top of the list, and thrown me for six, and now we're back in different towns again and instead of seeing him daily it's going to be not for a while now (no plans), and he's not replied to the email (that he asked me to send!), and so it's all gone quiet again and the rather nice experience of - well, not really flirting - but the almost-knowing looks we were giving each other and shy smiles and in-jokes and silly laughter.... has disappeared, and I'm back to that almost /fear/ that I'm going to muck it all up somehow.

And to be honest, with my track record, Sod's Law is strong with me.

Logical-Sara is very clear, and tells me that if he loses interest, then he won't be worth worrying about.

Illogical-Sara is just missing him like mad already and almost trembling with frustration and worry.

The Crazy is back :(
 
What are you looking for? Long term, fling you know the options. On the holiday did you talk about you two maybe being together?

If he keeps mucking you about, you know what to do, cut him out pretty much, obviously it wont be as easy as that seeing as you're a fruit loop.

Just to point out, I have a terrible terrible history with relationships, so its probably best not to listen to me.
 
Jeeeshus ... I guess some people would be interested in this dribble.

ps Advice : Widen your 'potential' list to half the population and you may just get a shag before the end of the new millenium :)

I want 2 minutes of my life back for reading the above post ! :)
 
Blokes mind:

He knew you liked him.
You were on holiday.
He wanted some action.

There is probably nothing more to it.
 
Err yeah people do generally worry to much about this kinda thing, just chill, dont have lists or anything like that, just get on with life and be happy, when this happens usually things just work themselves out.
 
Haha! I think the post title is quite clear, if you don't give a jot about this sort of stuff, don't read it!

Stinky - I never had him in the first place, no ditching involved.

The 'potentials list' isn't real, it's not an entity or anything solid, just trying to explain that nebulous group of people we all have in our head who we kindof fancy and reckon we have a chance with. Make sense?

Anewbe4u - nah, no talk that specific, I'm too shy for that and he already knows my thoughts from before.

Guys, I /know/ I should just chill. And usually I do, I have a couple of drinks/dates sort of things lined up with a couple of nice chaps in the coming weeks so I'm not desperate, I just like this one and writing out all the above just helps me out a bit. And bizarrely yes, I gather there are people who read that sort of waffle with interest. Just not you!
 
Haha! I think the post title is quite clear, if you don't give a jot about this sort of stuff, don't read it!

Stinky - I never had him in the first place, no ditching involved.

The 'potentials list' isn't real, it's not an entity or anything solid, just trying to explain that nebulous group of people we all have in our head who we kindof fancy and reckon we have a chance with. Make sense?

Anewbe4u - nah, no talk that specific, I'm too shy for that and he already knows my thoughts from before.

Guys, I /know/ I should just chill. And usually I do, I have a couple of drinks/dates sort of things lined up with a couple of nice chaps in the coming weeks so I'm not desperate, I just like this one and writing out all the above just helps me out a bit. And bizarrely yes, I gather there are people who read that sort of waffle with interest. Just not you!


im out in bristol next weekend. :p lol

sorry misread the post
 
If he'd just wanted some action, I bet he'd have been far more forward... but, 'tis true, this is one possibility I could easily imagine, the holiday fling, a bit of cabin-fever, I've fancied men on holidays away but been glad we never got up to anything
 
You need to stop looking.
I know.

I had, for the most part. But have been thrown for six. Sadly I seem to be this super-stable person for most of the time then just go completely haywire once something like this rears its head.

It's LAME and I can't stand it, but I can't seem to help it, either.
 

It seems to me that you try too hard to find a partner. I was single for 14 months before my current gf, during which I never actively sought a partner. I would go out have fun, if I met someone great, if not nevermind there's no rush. Fortunately I think after the long wait I have found someone who could be "the one" (don't believe in "the one" but you know what I mean) ;o
 
I have a couple of drinks/dates sort of things lined up with a couple of nice chaps in the coming weeks so I'm not desperate.


but that sounds like you are tbh (desperate that is), no offense like, and not desperate as in, 'can't find someone to be with', I'm sure you can just pull any number of guys of your 'special list' for a date if needs be but you sound like your desperate to be in a loving relationship and you are letting that dictate how happy you are now.
 
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I know.

I had, for the most part. But have been thrown for six. Sadly I seem to be this super-stable person for most of the time then just go completely haywire once something like this rears its head.

It's LAME and I can't stand it, but I can't seem to help it, either.

How hot is he?
 
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