Sorry to disappoint! I think it comes with spending a certain amount of time working in the city and around the world then realising how messed up things really are.
I really thought we'd get a pledge today for reform of the EU. Tusk hinted at it but Juncker seems to want none of it and is calling our bluff. Bad move given the contagion working its way through the EU. Sad times.
Demanding special treatment, at the eleventh hour and under a threat of a self-inflicted referendum and political context behind it, that favours one member state, but wouldn't actually address any major treaty issues -- with special exemptions, considerable power and an agreed deal already working for the benefit of said member state -- isn't reforming the EU, now is it? It's sabotage and shockingly bad diplomatic form!

Hiltons of the world want 'massive and destructive' revolutions, but they hardly ever the ones to pay for them nor the ones building a future in their aftermarth. Frankly, I'm tired of the magic unicorn thinking offered as the sole plan for our departure from the EU and place in the world post-Brexit.
Hence, 'Stay and build or out is out.' The public will decide.
Juncker wasn't stating anything outlandish: any deals requiring major rework of the EU, for either socialist or conservative goals, would require treaty changes; such treaty changes cannot possibly be achieved at this very moment, considering the negotiations, legal complexity and further referendums in several states which would need to take place (The Lisbon Treaty took what 6/8 years in all?). It doesn't mean they cannot be achieved however, as pretty much every EU treaty to date attests to.
Commissioners and Governments come and go, but the negotiating framework, the expert staff and the basic rules of the club which don't need to be re-inveted from zero, remain -- precisely why the EU is so valuable as an international forum of dialogue and compromise.
Shout the Brexiteers might, but a unified alternative to this forum and vision -- planned, costed and honest -- is what the saboteurs cannot offer, and that's why they'll fail as they've failed before.